msalek89 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 My ex just text me a picture of this orchids that he gave me on our first date. The flowers are now blooming and he sent me the picture. I replied saying "it's blooming, awesome." And sent him a picture of the Daytona 500. He didn't reply and I don't expect him too. I just get so disturbed and stressed when he texts me. I am going to keep doing what I am doing. I am keeping NC and I never text him and usually what he texts me is pictures etc. I am just so stressed. And then my mom told me she saw him in the street walking. That just got me more stressed. Any positive words? Thanks.
spiritofjosh Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 I'm going through similar. My ex girlfriend finds reasons to text me insignificant things but that's it. I don't keep the conversation going because I'm also trying NC. If he sends you pictures of something that reminds him of the both of you, than I would take that as a good thing. Maybe or maybe not it means he misses you but at the very least he's thinking about you and him. It would be less important if he just sent you something meaningless to yours and his relationship. My advice is to keep doing what you're doing, if he texts you, keep it short and to the point. don't be acting like you're waiting for his texts or overly enthusiastic that he texted you. After all, people want what they can't have, make him believe he can't have you, so he starts chasing.
Author msalek89 Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 I'm going through similar. My ex girlfriend finds reasons to text me insignificant things but that's it. I don't keep the conversation going because I'm also trying NC. If he sends you pictures of something that reminds him of the both of you, than I would take that as a good thing. Maybe or maybe not it means he misses you but at the very least he's thinking about you and him. It would be less important if he just sent you something meaningless to yours and his relationship. My advice is to keep doing what you're doing, if he texts you, keep it short and to the point. don't be acting like you're waiting for his texts or overly enthusiastic that he texted you. After all, people want what they can't have, make him believe he can't have you, so he starts chasing. Yea he did the same thing last week... He sent me a picture of this beautiful view. It just gets me a bit frustrated you know. I don't spect him to text me back and I don't want to because its still hard for me to keep it cool when we have a conversation. I have really lost all my hope towards our relationship after two months of our break up. To me he wants to do his own thing and I am doing the same. I just get overwhelmed. I guess I will feel better thru the day.
cavalier99 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Responding isn't NC and will set you back. Also you should block him. Because getting his texts will also set you back. Loose..loose. my thought. Cav 1
iouaname Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Well if you keep responding to the pictures he sends you, he's going to keep sending you pictures. Next time he sends you a picture, don't respond and he'll get the hint.
lloversrock Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 (edited) I was receiving text (IM) with simply one word every time, I think he was seeking a reaction Hey Bay I miss you Then when I replied with how are you doing? Took 3 weeks for a response When I ignored them,I got more and it didn't take 3weeks,after I ignored them a month he tried a lil harder to respond in a decent amount of time,I ignored 2 text in arrow,he text me on valentines day,he said he thought I Had forgot about him. I thought it was him stroking his ego ,but he was trying get a feel to see how I felt about him after months of nc, imagine how I felt receiving those text,confused,happy then confused again,stopping these random text basically started with me not responding to them,avoid IM, nc worked better still respond but didn't look like I cared as much if he contact me or not. even though I did just didn't want him know,self control is what I was getting better at. Hope this helps, dont let it get you down Edited February 24, 2013 by lloversrock added more 1
Author msalek89 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) He text me last night around 12:30am saying "Hey u there?". I was already sleeping and I didn't see it until this morning. I didn't bother to answer because text like that actually get me mad. I feel like he is just texting me because he is lonely and possibly wants something because during the day he doesnt bother to text me, so whats the point? I will keep my NC going. I feel so much better then I did on Sunday that I posted this post. Edited February 26, 2013 by msalek89
CaliBabe Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Do what I do. I just turned off my phone. Any and every text I got from my ex just sent me down a panic and depression. So I just turned off my phone. I don't know when I will turn it back on, but its helped, I know that.
geegirl Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Yes, they text because they need some sort of pick me upper. That is why when they get the response, they disappear. They need to know that they have you secured in a place where they can still have access to you when they need it. Block his number. If you can't do that, then don't respond. This will be nothing more but a cat and mouse chase.
destroyed4sho Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 He text me last night around 12:30am saying "Hey u there?". I was already sleeping and I didn't see it until this morning. I didn't bother to answer because text like that actually get me mad. I feel like he is just texting me because he is lonely and possibly wants something because during the day he doesnt bother to text me, so whats the point? I will keep my NC going. I feel so much better then I did on Sunday that I posted this post. Oh GOD!! Another AM text? I used to.get those from an ex too..never led to anything and after a while it started to annoy me. They are just lonely for the moment and looking for comfort...ahhh.i hate when dumpers do that!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 He text me last night around 12:30am saying "Hey u there?". I was already sleeping and I didn't see it until this morning. I didn't bother to answer because text like that actually get me mad. I feel like he is just texting me because he is lonely and possibly wants something because during the day he doesnt bother to text me, so whats the point? I will keep my NC going. I feel so much better then I did on Sunday that I posted this post. Reply: <*his number*> text blocker activated. Your messages are not being delivered. Send it back to him every time he texts you. It's amazing how well it works.... He'll soon stop.
destroyed4sho Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I was receiving text (IM) with simply one word every time, I think he was seeking a reaction Hey Bay I miss you Then when I replied with how are you doing? Took 3 weeks for a response When I ignored them,I got more and it didn't take 3weeks,after I ignored them a month he tried a lil harder to respond in a decent amount of time,I ignored 2 text in arrow,he text me on valentines day,he said he thought I Had forgot about him. I thought it was him stroking his ego ,but he was trying get a feel to see how I felt about him after months of nc, imagine how I felt receiving those text,confused,happy then confused again,stopping these random text basically started with me not responding to them,avoid IM, nc worked better still respond but didn't look like I cared as much if he contact me or not. even though I did just didn't want him know,self control is what I was getting better at. Hope this helps, dont let it get you down Same happened wih me. She would send me some texts a picture, song lyric or a hi how r u...and i would get all exciting thinking it meant she missed me and wanyed to get back. When i would respond, i would either get another response hours later which i would respond to then nothing or no response at all. So i realized it meant nothing really just a selfish comforting thing she did so she can feel.better that i was there but had nothing to do with reconciling or wanting me back. Then her msgs got fewer and farther apart..and then she started usinh email instead of text, i guess since its a more formal or distant way to message someone ...not so personal. The last thing i got was happy vday whih i didnt respond to bc...what is the point?? And i sure dont wish her happy vday! Why would i?!
destroyed4sho Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Reply: <*his number*> text blocker activated. Your messages are not being delivered. Send it back to him every time he texts you. It's amazing how well it works.... He'll soon stop. Also, i think i may have posted this before but i have tmobile android and there is this application that can send a automatic msg like the one above to the people you block. i have it.on my phone but i havent had the chanceo test it out tho but it looks like it would work.
Author msalek89 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 I blocked his number but i didn't know that on iphone even if you block a number you can still get the messages thru iMessage. My friend told me about it since she is going thru the same thing with her ex, so today i turned off that option and now he cant text me. It hurts to cut all contact with somebody when you still care about them, thats how i am feeling right now. Maybe because i still had hopes but thats just me being stupid because nothing will ever happen again. I did everything that was on my hands so thats it.
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