alicia24 Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 I am a 24 year old white female and in the past 6 months I have only found myself attracted to african americans or mixed guys. All my life i have dated white guys. I dont see this as a problem except for the fact that my family would disapprove. Why is it that I suddenly find myself attracted to other races and should i continue to persue these attractions even if my family disapproves?
Artifact Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 Yes, pursue whomever you want. Who knows why we are attracted to anyone. (Physically of course . I know why emotionally we seek out certain people.)
Barby Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 [color=violet]I can sort of relate...I'm also 24 but I am only (and always have been) attracted to hispanic guys. I've dated a few white guys also but honestly there is no physical attraction to them nor do I desire to ever date a white guy again. I'm the only one in my family who dates outside my race and I didn't let that stop me from dating the type of man I'm attracted to. They never tried, they are very supportive of me. [/color] [color=blue]In your case...I can't see why you would allow your family to make your choices for you. You're 24 and I'm assuming here not living under their roof. You are grown and as long as you aren't hurting anyone (not that you would be) then there isn't any reason why you shouldn't date someone that you find yourself attracted to. [/color]
Fayebelle Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 "Can they REALLY be worse than the white guys I've dated?" Just guessing you have good reason for the whities to be exes
chicasha Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 i'm 27....Indian. I've only had 1 indian boyfriend....every other guy i've dated have been persian, lebanese, half white/half asian, italian, white, etc. I'm not saying i'll never be attracted to Indian guys again.....I guess in my own view....I enjoy being with guys from cultures as me, b/c I enjoy learning about their cultures, while they learn about mine. It also makes me think on a broader level, its hard to be narrow minded when ur with someone who's very different from you. My family....while wouldn't necessarily disapprove (if they knew I was in love w/ someone of another race)...I'm sure they would PREFER if I was with an Indian guy. My mom's always trying to set me up with Indian guys...she wouldn't set me up w/ other types of guys. Me on the other hand......what's important to me is if I"m attracted to a guy...what his character and personality are like...his interests....if he's close to his family/culture....if he's open-minded, and willing to explore different cultures, just like i am. It wouldnt' matter where he was from.... Maybe this helps. I'd encourage you to just go with your heart. Your family may disapprove at first......but if u fall in love with a great guy, eventually they'll accept him, if he treats u well!
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