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Sugarkane Established Member

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In the breakup section etc notice this a lot. My are parents so happy about this? And actually supportive? Whether it's a naive teen or 35 with a loud ticking clock, their parents are always happy that their pregnant out of wedlock? My family never would be, no matter how old I am.

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I doubt most parents are happy especially if after a fling or just a teenager.

 

There is also a difference between being happy about it and being supportive.

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In the breakup section etc notice this a lot. My are parents so happy about this? And actually supportive? Whether it's a naive teen or 35 with a loud ticking clock, their parents are always happy that their pregnant out of wedlock? My family never would be, no matter how old I am.

 

 

i was not happy when i found out my teen daughter was pregnant i bawled my eyes out actually,but then what could i do ........but support her.....the sam e when my son had babies young....i support them all ....they decided to buck up and take care of their responsibilities and it isnt an easy road, they dont ask me to baby sit all the time, i enjoy the tiem i spend with them when i do, they look after them themselves, they have my mind set, life logn commitment to having kids and that is in no way are they disposable, they are the parents of my beautiful grandchildren...i am happy they made the decision to keep them and did what they had to do .......they struggle but they show them affection and love and they look after them well, they are kids full of smiles who are friendly and loving towards people they meet.....so i have no reason to not be happy....now...it did take an adjustment and realistic expectations......they do well and the kids are looked after and nurtured shown affection and loved....by them by me and everyone around them they are safe.... thats all i care about.....deb

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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In the breakup section etc notice this a lot. My are parents so happy about this? And actually supportive? Whether it's a naive teen or 35 with a loud ticking clock, their parents are always happy that their pregnant out of wedlock? My family never would be, no matter how old I am.

 

Could you link some instances?

Where?

What threads?

Who and when?

 

Never seen this - maybe I'm just missing the juicy bits. :confused:

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Sugarkane Established Member

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Could you link some instances?

Where?

What threads?

Who and when?

 

Never seen this - maybe I'm just missing the juicy bits. :confused:

 

So far eg Tips for avoiding pregnancy trap

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Sugarkane Established Member

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Eg Ex GF told me she's pregnant- Memvk

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Sugarkane Established Member

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I doubt most parents are happy especially if after a fling or just a teenager.

 

There is also a difference between being happy about it and being supportive.

 

So why even be supportive? I have read very few threads where someone got pregnant and got zero support/ kicked out by their parents.

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Els Established Member

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So far eg Tips for avoiding pregnancy trap

 

Of all the threads in this forum, you choose to take THAT one seriously???? :laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

TaraMaiden Established Member

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In the breakup section etc notice this a lot

 

One thread??

 

And it's one written by an angry bitter man, with the morals of a snake?

 

You need to quit posting about trivia..... you're coming over as immature and basically shallow.

you post about all manner of subjects but what you should be focussing on is getting your life in order, getting out of your house and shedding your resentment baggage....

 

I'm sorry Sugarkane, but really - you 'seeing this a lot' - and then giving reference to one single thread that in itself is questionable in origin, with regard to the mood the OP of that thread was in.....

 

Really.....:rolleyes:

 

(Oh, and if you post thread titles, post links as well... Why is it up to us to verify your frankly tenuous interpretations??)

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In the breakup section etc notice this a lot. My are parents so happy about this? And actually supportive? Whether it's a naive teen or 35 with a loud ticking clock, their parents are always happy that their pregnant out of wedlock? My family never would be, no matter how old I am.

 

On LS i haven't seen this.

In my country, getting pregnant out of wedlock is still seen as a sign of lowclass.

Sometimes getting kicked out by parents can happen.

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anne1707 Established Member

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So why even be supportive? I have read very few threads where someone got pregnant and got zero support/ kicked out by their parents.

 

I really don't understand the point you are trying to make here. :confused:

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So why even be supportive? I have read very few threads where someone got pregnant and got zero support/ kicked out by their parents.

 

 

You're really asking this?? They're supportive because they're good parents! Parents are supposed to be there for their children no matter what! To support them!

 

And getting pregnant, even out of wedlock, while maybe not the best thing ever is far from being a horrible thing.

 

I think that parents that kick their children out for becoming pregnant, no matter what the circumstances should never have had kids in the first place!

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I think you're operating from a faulty premise, OP.

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Sugarkane Established Member

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That was the latest one. There's always at least one on here.

One thread??

 

And it's one written by an angry bitter man, with the morals of a snake?

 

You need to quit posting about trivia..... you're coming over as immature and basically shallow.

you post about all manner of subjects but what you should be focussing on is getting your life in order, getting out of your house and shedding your resentment baggage....

 

I'm sorry Sugarkane, but really - you 'seeing this a lot' - and then giving reference to one single thread that in itself is questionable in origin, with regard to the mood the OP of that thread was in.....

 

Really.....:rolleyes:

 

(Oh, and if you post thread titles, post links as well... Why is it up to us to verify your frankly tenuous interpretations??)

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Sugarkane Established Member

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You're really asking this?? They're supportive because they're good parents! Parents are supposed to be there for their children no matter what! To support them!

 

And getting pregnant, even out of wedlock, while maybe not the best thing ever is far from being a horrible thing.

 

I think that parents that kick their children out for becoming pregnant, no matter what the circumstances should never have had kids in the first place!

 

Because I don't understand it. Why else would I ask? My parents wouldn't support me if I did the same. And always made it out to be the end of world type situation.

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I really don't understand the point you are trying to make here. :confused:

 

I'm a bit sick of this question. Please reread the title.

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I think you're operating from a faulty premise, OP.

 

I don't understand please elaborate.

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Sugarkane Established Member

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I don't know why you want specific examples. I could give you more. There is always some on here. I know the guy was angry and bitter.

One thread??

 

And it's one written by an angry bitter man, with the morals of a snake?

 

You need to quit posting about trivia..... you're coming over as immature and basically shallow.

you post about all manner of subjects but what you should be focussing on is getting your life in order, getting out of your house and shedding your resentment baggage....

 

I'm sorry Sugarkane, but really - you 'seeing this a lot' - and then giving reference to one single thread that in itself is questionable in origin, with regard to the mood the OP of that thread was in.....

 

Really.....:rolleyes:

 

(Oh, and if you post thread titles, post links as well... Why is it up to us to verify your frankly tenuous interpretations??)

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I don't know why you want specific examples. I could give you more. There is always some on here. I know the guy was angry and bitter.

 

 

I see you neatly avoided the main point of my post....

 

You need to quit posting about trivia..... you're coming over as immature and basically shallow.

you post about all manner of subjects but what you should be focussing on is getting your life in order, getting out of your house and shedding your resentment baggage....

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anne1707 Established Member

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So why even be supportive? I have read very few threads where someone got pregnant and got zero support/ kicked out by their parents.

 

I really don't understand the point you are trying to make here. :confused:

 

I'm a bit sick of this question. Please reread the title.

 

That was so charming of you. Not.

 

 

I don't understand your point because:

  • your opening post is basically another complaint about how everybody else gets support from their family but you don't
  • I pointed out that not every parent will be happy but that does not mean they won't be supportive
  • you respond with "why should they be supportive" which suggests that you think parents should not support their children yet your initial complaint was about lack of support for you
  • it seems that just because you don't feel you get the support you want, you don't think anybody else should either
  • and finally this is a totally hypothetical situation in relation to you and you cannot be sure how your parents would react unless this actually did happen to you

I also suggest that instead of looking for problems, you spend more time looking for solutions to deal with what is making you unhappy.

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Because I don't understand it. Why else would I ask? My parents wouldn't support me if I did the same. And always made it out to be the end of world type situation.

 

I can' help but feel sorry for you then. Getting pregnant is not the end of the world. Anywhere! And if people feel that, and feel they can't support their children no matter what (and we're not even talking about have a serial killer for a child!!!) then they have no business having kids of their own...

 

If I got home pregnant, now (I'm single) my parents would be happy for me, if a bit worried about my financial situation. If I'd gotten home pregnant at 16, they wouldn't have been happy... they'd have been disappointed and worried about my future, but would have helped me with the baby anyway and would have loved the baby.

 

*I* don't understand how someone can throw their child out for getting pregnant!

Usually it is bound in religion... But then... according to religion, isn't a child sacred?? So sacred in fact that it is a crime and a sin to have an abortion? Then... why not embrace said child, even if it is out of wedlock? Surely, according to religion, sex should only be had to procreate, so doesn't the person get bonus points for not using contraception??

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I'm sorry that you don't feel that your parents would support you if you accidentally got pregnant. That sucks!!

 

Glad mine didn't have that mindset!! Maybe I'm lucky? Don't know. Mine were estatic when they found out I was pregnant. And my husband's parents? Over the damn moon about it.

 

Oh, and we weren't married at the time. :-P

 

Then again, I'm almost 32 with an 8 month old, and my mom was *pretty* sure she'd never get a grandbaby out of me. ;-) Same with my husband's parents, as he's almost 34.

 

We also both have good jobs. This is the first baby/marriage for both of us, so it wasn't like, "OMG you can't even support the ones you have!" or "why do you keep making bad decisions??" like it is maybe in some cases.

 

So yeah, there you have it. And now they're on us to give them another. All three sets of grandparents. lol. Buuuut that hopefully won't happen for another year or two. We just want to enjoy our little red-headed bundle of fire for a while. :love:

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Sugarkane Established Member

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Sorry but youve complained I'm either not blunt enough or too blunt.

That was so charming of you. Not.

 

 

I don't understand your point because:

  • your opening post is basically another complaint about how everybody else gets support from their family but you don't
  • I pointed out that not every parent will be happy but that does not mean they won't be supportive
  • you respond with "why should they be supportive" which suggests that you think parents should not support their children yet your initial complaint was about lack of support for you
  • it seems that just because you don't feel you get the support you want, you don't think anybody else should either
  • and finally this is a totally hypothetical situation in relation to you and you cannot be sure how your parents would react unless this actually did happen to you

I also suggest that instead of looking for problems, you spend more time looking for solutions to deal with what is making you unhappy.

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I see you neatly avoided the main point of my post....

 

I haven't avoided it, I've thought alot about it. I'm looking elsewhere to deal with jealousy and having different beliefs, since people are insulting me and backstabbing me on other threads here.

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You're mean posts that I should be polite to a rude mother are just down right ridiculious. I hope you dont also blame others like SpiralOut, for their own rude parents. Being a parent doesnt make you automatically right about everything. Your answers are ridiculous. Thanks for the insults. How mature. n

That was so charming of you. Not.

 

 

I don't understand your point because:

  • your opening post is basically another complaint about how everybody else gets support from their family but you don't
  • I pointed out that not every parent will be happy but that does not mean they won't be supportive
  • you respond with "why should they be supportive" which suggests that you think parents should not support their children yet your initial complaint was about lack of support for you
  • it seems that just because you don't feel you get the support you want, you don't think anybody else should either
  • and finally this is a totally hypothetical situation in relation to you and you cannot be sure how your parents would react unless this actually did happen to you

I also suggest that instead of looking for problems, you spend more time looking for solutions to deal with what is making you unhappy.

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