Bigdawgs Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Ok, my wife and I have been married for 10 years. My wife started hanging out with her ex-boyfriend. She says that I have nothing to worry about, and I want to make known that I trust her completely. She is a vary faithful person. He has made known that he still has intimate feelings for her. My problem is that on 2 separate occasions he has tried pressuring her to leave me, and be with him. She of course denied him on both occasions. I'm not trying to tell her who she can or cannot hangout with. I want her to be happy. I don't think it is healthy for her to put in that situation. Am I wrong to be concerned about this relationship?
dj572 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 I have to agree with John. Nothing good can come from this situation. I've seen it too many times. You obviously have concerns or you wouldn't have posted' 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It's perfectly reasonable to ask her to stop hanging out with him. In fact, given that he has encouraged her to dump you, her husband, she should have cut him loose herself. It's concerning that she hasn't. It's certainly poor judgment on her end to stick around someone like that. 2
Radu Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It's perfectly reasonable to ask her to stop hanging out with him. In fact, given that he has encouraged her to dump you, her husband, she should have cut him loose herself. It's concerning that she hasn't. It's certainly poor judgment on her end to stick around someone like that. By not cutting him out when he tried to destroy your marriage she is selecting him over your marriage. When you get married you are not just 'you', it is 'we'. You have every right to ask/suggest her to end it with this guy. And if she won't, you got your answers ... and you might want to talk to a lawyer and MC.
RedHead33 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Put your foot down and tell her no more hanging out together. She is disrespecting you. Give her an ultimatum. They are making a fool of you.
NervisPervis Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 No, it's beyond that. He should divorce her without delay. Bigdawgs, protect your assets, hide your money, do whatever it takes to make sure that she can't get a penny from you. This isn't a situation that can be salvaged. He has all the information that he needs to know that she's rotten to the core. She's a lost cause, get rid of her. I promise you, she is going to divorce you some day. Get in there first. This. Sorry man. She's screwing him. 1
firemanq Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It is time to get a voice activated recorder for her car, wire the home telephones, a key-logger program. Even if the above proves her innocence, it will be worth it. Sounds like she has very poor boundries. Have you thought if her confession to you is a plea for help or is she sounding you out to see if she can get away with cheating on you? Good luck, been there, done that, have the cancelled child support checks as proof.
Imported Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 She wants to hang out with her ex-boyfriend. An ex-boyfriend that still has feelings for her and already tried twice to take her away from you. She knows this about him and still wants to "hang out" with him, but you have nothing to worry about. Hey OP, I own the moon and would like to sell you some property on it for really cheap.
Minnie09 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 She enjoys the attention and rubs it in your face. If she took you and your M seriously, she would have better boundaries. It would make a normal person uncomfortable to be put in a position in which their spouse is being disrespected. Telling her to leave you and be with him is disrespecting you. Also, I don't believe he's just saying that out of nowhere. There must have been conversations between them that deal with your M issues. Sounds like she's complained to him etc. not cool. Disrespectful to say the least. I wouldn't tolerate that for one second. She's not even hiding it, which makes it worse IMO. Who would put up with that? Just imagine you would do that to her. Hanging out with an ex and telling your W that your "friend" wants you guys to divorce, so you can have a relationship with her??? Seriously? And then you insist that you friendship is innocent and you want to continue to be her friend? Absolutely not. Please wake up. This whole scenario is utterly suspicious.* 1
ThaWholigan Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Her hints aren't even subtle my friend. If she hasn't done it, she's entertaining the idea otherwise she wouldn't be hanging out with him or even mentioning it. She's let it happen twice. Personally, I would be very close to ending things. I suggest you put your foot down. 1
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