iris219 Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 Proof that's it's really, really hard for many women, no matter how amazing, to find relationships: Pregnant Monica Cruz takes her dogs for a scenic walk in Madrid | Mail Online 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 Especially when they're holding out for "a perfect match." I'm guessing men that are holding out for "perfect" find it equally difficult... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 I think many women like this choose to be single instead of having a hard time finding a relationship. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 Might be even harder for her with two kids in tow. Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 That article proved nothing to me. It was pictures of a pregnant woman with a bunch of writing about how she opted to go with a sperm donor rather than a man. Women, most often, are single by choice. There are many, many, men out there looking for those same women. The problem is expectations. Many women want a a model prince charming, pushing out men in her league. They have suitors, but they choose not to go with them. Very few women actually have no men interested in them, and those women I feel bad for. "Average" women are more than able to find a match, just have to have realistic standards. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 That article proved nothing to me. It was pictures of a pregnant woman with a bunch of writing about how she opted to go with a sperm donor rather than a man. Women, most often, are single by choice. There are many, many, men out there looking for those same women. The problem is expectations. Many women want a a model prince charming, pushing out men in her league. They have suitors, but they choose not to go with them. Very few women actually have no men interested in them, and those women I feel bad for. "Average" women are more than able to find a match, just have to have realistic standards. BS. Honestly, in the vast majority of the relationships I know, the girl is out of the guy's league. It's almost the only way for some women to be able to find a relationship nowadays not the other way around! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted February 23, 2013 Author Share Posted February 23, 2013 I think many women like this choose to be single instead of having a hard time finding a relationship. No, I disagree. The women who choose to be single are rare. (And I'm not talking about women who have already been married and have children.) Who chooses to be a single mom? I was single for about 5 years, with no relationship prospects, and it wasn't because I chose it and it sure as heck wasn't because I was too picky. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 No, I disagree. The women who choose to be single are rare. (And I'm not talking about women who have already been married and have children.) Who chooses to be a single mom? I was single for about 5 years, with no relationship prospects, and it wasn't because I chose it and it sure as heck wasn't because I was too picky. I know a lady whom is single by choice and went to a sperm bank for semen. Not because she couldn't find a man, but because she is incredibly independent and very, very adventurous. She said she doesn't picture herself married or tied down. SHe is an awesome, awesome lady. Good friend that woman is! Link to post Share on other sites
Author iris219 Posted February 23, 2013 Author Share Posted February 23, 2013 I know a lady whom is single by choice and went to a sperm bank for semen. Not because she couldn't find a man, but because she is incredibly independent and very, very adventurous. She said she doesn't picture herself married or tied down. SHe is an awesome, awesome lady. Good friend that woman is! I'm sure she is awesome, but she's rare. Most single women are actively looking for relationships. I wanted one very, very badly for many years, with no luck. And I have a lot to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 No, I disagree. The women who choose to be single are rare. (And I'm not talking about women who have already been married and have children.) Who chooses to be a single mom? I was single for about 5 years, with no relationship prospects, and it wasn't because I chose it and it sure as heck wasn't because I was too picky. There are a lot of extreme feminists who feel fathers are nothing more than disposable sperm donors. I don't feel that most women think this way but it is an attitude that is out there these days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 How is that a "proof"? Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 I'm not sure if I am supposed to be disturbed or angry by this. But then again, hearing that she is looking for a "perfect match" despite she's 35 does say a lot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 That article proved nothing to me. It was pictures of a pregnant woman with a bunch of writing about how she opted to go with a sperm donor rather than a man. Women, most often, are single by choice. There are many, many, men out there looking for those same women. The problem is expectations. Many women want a a model prince charming, pushing out men in her league. They have suitors, but they choose not to go with them. Very few women actually have no men interested in them, and those women I feel bad for. "Average" women are more than able to find a match, just have to have realistic standards. I wish I could say that that's true, but I have no idea how or why it is that men say this. I am not single by choice, I am left out to dry by the world. I have come to a conclusion in recent years, which is that men would rather have trashy girls or ones who will submit to them and take care of them rather than one who does otherwise. THey don't like women who are overly aggressive even though they say they do, nor do they like women who are the submissive either. Do what they say, they hate you. Defy them, they tell you you're crazy. I'm done. I'm just done with all of you guys. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted February 23, 2013 Share Posted February 23, 2013 No, I disagree. The women who choose to be single are rare. (And I'm not talking about women who have already been married and have children.) Who chooses to be a single mom? I was single for about 5 years, with no relationship prospects, and it wasn't because I chose it and it sure as heck wasn't because I was too picky. Like Fondue. I know of 2 women who were happy to have sperm donors. One is a bit of a skank and the other a really great catch but who claimed she could not find a guy worthy (BS imo), and now raises it with her bisexual partner. I know a few other single mothers who certainly seem to be happy being independent. They probably wished their relationship didn't break down but only if the father changed for the better. They seem happy enough now and have FWBs to keep them satisfied. Though as yummy mommies they could easily find a guy to settle down with them imo. As for you, you are an anomaly because of the town you live in. Its like a guy living in a mining town and saying its so hard. As for the pretty Cruz sisters having trouble finding guys to be in relationship with them. Link to post Share on other sites
silvermercy Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 I'm not sure if I am supposed to be disturbed or angry by this. But then again, hearing that she is looking for a "perfect match" despite she's 35 does say a lot. So what? Why is her age important? I'd rather die single in my 90s than settle for a man that'd just do. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Submisfit Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 No, I disagree. The women who choose to be single are rare. (And I'm not talking about women who have already been married and have children.) Who chooses to be a single mom? I was single for about 5 years, with no relationship prospects, and it wasn't because I chose it and it sure as heck wasn't because I was too picky. The woman in your article went to a sperm bank while single, so I'd say that she does. It's like others have said; just about everyone has an inflated view of their own attractiveness, and are holding out for people at or above a level they're not actually at. Real men aren't perfect, and perfect men aren't real. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 So what? Why is her age important? I'd rather die single in my 90s than settle for a man that'd just do. That is another extreme stance taken the other way, for what it is worth. She saying that she is looking for the "perfect match" will make sure she remains single, regardless of how successful she is. She is better off being honest to herself by saying that she has no need of a relationship than tell that lie, thinking she will eventually find a perfect mate. Apparently she doesn't know that is there no such thing as a "perfect match". Everyone's flawed in one way or another, including her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 I wish I could say that that's true, but I have no idea how or why it is that men say this. I am not single by choice, I am left out to dry by the world. I have come to a conclusion in recent years, which is that men would rather have trashy girls or ones who will submit to them and take care of them rather than one who does otherwise. THey don't like women who are overly aggressive even though they say they do, nor do they like women who are the submissive either. Do what they say, they hate you. Defy them, they tell you you're crazy. None of this information is true. You're deluding yourself entirely. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Well, it looks like she knows what she wants and she's getting on with it. She has the resources to support a child, and showbiz relationships and marriages aren't renowned for their staying power. A decision like that isn't necessarily an "I don't need/want a man" statement. I mean it might be - I don't know anything about this actress of her beliefs/philosophy - but perhaps given her life in the public eye, she feels that she can bring more stability to a child's life by remaining single rather than be distracted from the parenting role by the usual cheating/groupie/gossip hassles that seem to come as part of a package deal with showbiz marriages. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 I reckon that people are too quick to assume something is easy for another person, when we cannot really truly know. Problems are still problems, no matter how trivial the other person thinks they are. I get the impression that because a woman is having a hard time finding a relationship, some guys think it's all because she's "rejecting all the decent guys" and going for perfection. This may be the case with Monica Cruz, but I doubt it's the case for a lot of women struggling to find a relationship. It may be easy in theory, but in practice, it can lead to settling for a "make-do" relationship or someone they simply do not click with. I never assume it's easy for anyone to get into a relationship - it's difficult for lots of people to get into one and sustain it.....even pretty women. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Guessing there was no millionaire that is also handsome and willing to put up with her **** around. I am sure she could find any two of that three (or close), but choose not to and instead complain about how there are no good guys left and how difficult she has it lol You can't possibly believe that she could not find a hard working, good living earning, attractive and decent man. However, she probably just look at them as the hired help probably because she thinks she has as much status as her sister because she poses in lingerie and does some bit acting in Spain. Obviously, none of the guys with actual clout that she probably pines after were interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
silvermercy Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 She is better off being honest to herself by saying that she has no need of a relationship than tell that lie, thinking she will eventually find a perfect mate. I doubt anyone takes the "perfect match" meaning literally. People usually mean highly compatible. "Perfect matches" are, for example, many successful marriages that last until old age. How's that not a "perfect match"? Also, who says she doesn't NEED a relationship? I bet she does! I also need and want a relationship but until I find my "perfect match" I choose to stay single. If I reach her age and don't have children I'll probably do the same or adopt. That doesn't mean I still won't desire a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
mesmerized Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Like Fondue. I know of 2 women who were happy to have sperm donors. One is a bit of a skank and the other a really great catch but who claimed she could not find a guy worthy (BS imo), and now raises it with her bisexual partner. I know a few other single mothers who certainly seem to be happy being independent. They probably wished their relationship didn't break down but only if the father changed for the better. They seem happy enough now and have FWBs to keep them satisfied. Though as yummy mommies they could easily find a guy to settle down with them imo. As for you, you are an anomaly because of the town you live in. Its like a guy living in a mining town and saying its so hard. As for the pretty Cruz sisters having trouble finding guys to be in relationship with them. This is such a wrong assumption. It's not easy for a loot of women, period. There are plenty of us here who fit in that category. Does it mean we can't find anyone at all to have a relationship with? Of course not. I bet all the supposedly struggling guys here also can find a girl to have a relationship with if they are willing to go for someone they are not at all attracted to or click with. We all at least want someone we are somewhat attracted to and actually see a future with. It's pretty hard for a single childless woman as it is, add kids and her odds will go down even more. Men are so freaking ignorant when it comes to women's issues, it's annoying. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 I doubt anyone takes the "perfect match" meaning literally. People usually mean highly compatible. "Perfect matches" are, for example, many successful marriages that last until old age. How's that not a "perfect match"? Also, who says she doesn't NEED a relationship? I bet she does! I also need and want a relationship but until I find my "perfect match" I choose to stay single. If I reach her age and don't have children I'll probably do the same or adopt. That doesn't mean I still won't desire a relationship. I'm sure "highly compatible" is still on a lower overall ranking than "perfect match". If she said "highly compatible", that's fine and lovely. But there is no such thing as a "perfect match". We really don't need to butcher the vocabulary even more. We also don't need to assume. If she is really thinking that way, I'm sure that is one of the prime reasons why she is still single right now. People with that kind of lifestyle does have that way of thinking normally so it is not exactly rare to hear this. Also, given her status and beauty, I have a hard time believing men that fits the "highly compatible" range didn't work out with her unless she has even higher expectations than needed Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 If I reach her age and don't have children I'll probably do the same or adopt. That doesn't mean I still won't desire a relationship. Can single women adopt where you live? Link to post Share on other sites
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