Question to girls, would any of you ever go out with a virgin guy?

[IndianGuy87]

Well I'm a 25 year old virgin who has never kissed a guy and I've heard many girls say that they prefer and want a non-virgin guy only because they like to be dominated by a guy who knows what he's doing. That a non-virgin guy knows his way around a girl's body so many girls find it a deal breaker. Is it really that big of a deal breaker? I mean there are hardly any girls around my age who are virgins anymore. And not to mention men no matter what their age is don't care if a woman is virgin or not as long as he is attracted to her or click with her. So yeah, I'm just curious to know. Please no hate or jokes thrown at me please.

[Eggplant]

Yes absolutely. Not even a remote problem.

[RedRobin]

Probably not. Especially these days since so many feel the need to rack up however many numbers before committing.

 

I'm not into training just so they can go use it on someone else.

[ltjg45]

In a way, I hope so.

 

I'm a virgin but I don't have a "player" mindset either. I been wanting to settle down since I was 16-18, believe it or not.

 

I'm a male who wants one women and once I find her, I have no need to go looking elsewhere unless it doesn't work out.

 

There is a 95% chance that whoever I lose my virginity to will be my future wife. Anything that I need to know before that time comes, I will have already found out.

[suladas]

In a way, I hope so.

 

I'm a virgin but I don't have a "player" mindset either. I been wanting to settle down since I was 16-18, believe it or not.

 

I'm a male who wants one women and once I find her, I have no need to go looking elsewhere unless it doesn't work out.

 

There is a 95% chance that whoever I lose my virginity to will be my future wife. Anything that I need to know before that time comes, I will have already found out.

 

It's a nice thing to think about, but the chances of that happening are so low.

[ltjg45]

It's a nice thing to think about, but the chances of that happening are so low.

 

Hey, I can dream.

 

Needless to say, once I do have sex with her, it will take something very disturbing for me to actually end a relationship by my hand.

 

After that point, I'm willing to fix any and all problems needed as much as possible. If a relationship comes to an end soon after that, it was due to her request.

[apple OR orange]

personally, i wouldnt want to "train" someone, but then i have never been with a virgin so i am sort of speaking blindly

[IndianGuy87]

Probably not. Especially these days since so many feel the need to rack up however many numbers before committing.

 

I'm not into training just so they can go use it on someone else.

 

Yeah but virgins are least likely to care about racking numbers. More than likely, they just want a relationship from the get go.

[IndianGuy87]

Well I'm a 25 year old virgin who has never kissed a guy and I've heard many girls say that they prefer and want a non-virgin guy only because they like to be dominated by a guy who knows what he's doing. That a non-virgin guy knows his way around a girl's body so many girls find it a deal breaker. Is it really that big of a deal breaker? I mean there are hardly any girls around my age who are virgins anymore. And not to mention men no matter what their age is don't care if a woman is virgin or not as long as he is attracted to her or click with her. So yeah, I'm just curious to know. Please no hate or jokes thrown at me please.

 

Lol just noticed I wrote guy. I meant girl.

 

Depends what age you are. If you're past 25, I'd say forget it. Girls these days have so much experience from a whole bunch of different guys. What will you be able to offer her in terms of sex that she hasn't experienced? Sex is clearly a huge selling point for a lot of girls and if you can't give her what she wants, then you're out of luck, buddy.

 

Yeah, that makes sense and is pretty true. I think it's about time I give up sooner or later and just move on with my life. Pretty much all guys are also way more experienced than me game wise so the girls can even pick it up while talking to me whether I've ever had any girl before or not.

[Sun Devil]

This is why prostitution is invented. Use it to gain experience. Dont listen to those moralists who know nothing on what you go through. Besides, you always can say that it was just a one night stand if a girl does come in your life and asks about it. You are not getting any younger, so why wait.

[IndianGuy87]

This is why prostitution is invented. Use it to gain experience. Dont listen to those moralists who know nothing on what you go through. Besides, you always can say that it was just a one night stand if a girl does come in your life and asks about it. You are not getting any younger, so why wait.

 

Yeah but I'd like to live by the morals which my parents have taught me and expect me to live by. Prostitution is a completely disgusting profession where majority of the women don't even choose to become one but were forced to become one due to money through human/child trafficking. A lot of them were forced to become one after being abducted when they were as young as 10. So yeah, I'd rather die a virgin than go to prostitutes on and on to pick up sexual confidence and experience.

[Krieger]

Yeah but I'd like to live by the morals which my parents have taught me and expect me to live by. Prostitution is a completely disgusting profession where majority of the women don't even choose to become one but were forced to become one due to money through human/child trafficking. A lot of them were forced to become one after being abducted when they were as young as 10. So yeah, I'd rather die a virgin than go to prostitutes on and on to pick up sexual confidence and experience.

 

Just do not be to picky about the woman you lose it to. I was in your shoes once and losing it help a ton for me.

[IndianGuy87]

Just do not be to picky about the woman you lose it to. I was in your shoes once and losing it help a ton for me.

 

I really have 0 options in women though. I'm not a good looking guy and I don't have a whole lot of money to spend on women. Plus I'm too old now which means I'm way too inexperienced compared to not just all the women out there but also the men who I'm competing against that women prefer to date.

[Krieger]

I really have 0 options in women though. I'm not a good looking guy and I don't have a whole lot of money to spend on women. Plus I'm too old now which means I'm way too inexperienced compared to not just all the women out there but also the men who I'm competing against that women prefer to date.

 

I was just as old as you when I lost my virginity so you can do it .

 

why not work out run every day do push ups sit ups , if you have the money p90x . Working out help build self esteem and confidence.

 

go back to college do it now do not wait till your almost 30 to go back for the 2nd time.

 

start by talking to 2 new woman a day something simple as how is yourt day going or hello or eye contact and a smile.

[IndianGuy87]

I was just as old as you when I lost my virginity so you can do it .

 

why not work out run every day do push ups sit ups , if you have the money p90x . Working out help build self esteem and confidence.

 

go back to college do it now do not wait till your almost 30 to go back for the 2nd time.

 

start by talking to 2 new woman a day something simple as how is yourt day going or hello or eye contact and a smile.

 

I'm doing grad school and I do work out time to time as much as I can. I'm pretty athletically fit body wise and probably need to bulk up more but somehow muscle growth for me is much slower than compared to other guys who I work out with. My genes I guess is a little different where I'll probably just stay looking skinny. I eat pretty healthy too. Looks is really important and I don't have that.

[todreaminblue]

Well I'm a 25 year old virgin who has never kissed a guy and I've heard many girls say that they prefer and want a non-virgin guy only because they like to be dominated by a guy who knows what he's doing. That a non-virgin guy knows his way around a girl's body so many girls find it a deal breaker. Is it really that big of a deal breaker? I mean there are hardly any girls around my age who are virgins anymore. And not to mention men no matter what their age is don't care if a woman is virgin or not as long as he is attracted to her or click with her. So yeah, I'm just curious to know. Please no hate or jokes thrown at me please.

 

 

having a past or not having a past isnt really what is important.......what is important is how you get along with the person you are with currently.....there is nothign wrong with beign a virgin, nor is it anythign but realistic to expect people have pasts that include sexual history....in saying that i feel a guy may be intimidated by my experience...which is a laugh really because i am shy at heart.sex doesnt change the person you are.....extensive sexual history can be just the same as no history at all, insecurity can develop in any case that is too much or too little....in my opinion it shouldnt matter a relationship should be based on the two people involved not the people long gone and over.....so extensive history or lack thereof shouldnt be a deciding factor on choosing a committed loving relationship and a partner to share that with....deb

[Ladybugz]

never kissed guy? are you gay? then i have no advice for you.

 

otherwise : do the girl have to know you are a virgin before

going out with you?

 

if you want to sell yourself that way , you put yourself

in a award position.

 

if you really virgin stop selling it. thats not the first thing people wants to know.

even thou i think its weird to hear you are like that at that age.

and people may think that there is something wrong with you

socially etc.

[IndianGuy87]

never kissed guy? are you gay? then i have no advice for you.

 

otherwise : do the girl have to know you are a virgin before

going out with you?

 

if you want to sell yourself that way , you put yourself

in a award position.

 

if you really virgin stop selling it. thats not the first thing people wants to know.

even thou i think its weird to hear you are like that at that age.

and people may think that there is something wrong with you

socially etc.

 

I meant to say girl which I mentioned earlier. It was a typo

 

And I'm sure when people date they ask about each other's past history of relationship. When that topic will come then I won't have anything else to say but that I'm a 25 year old virgin guy who has never kissed a girl. It might be weird for a guy in general to still be a virgin but not uncommon for an Indian guy my age to still be a virgin. Anyways, looks play a major role and that is what's lacking here. I'm fine socially and pretty much can get along with everyone.

[RedRobin]

Depends what age you are. If you're past 25, I'd say forget it. Girls these days have so much experience from a whole bunch of different guys. What will you be able to offer her in terms of sex that she hasn't experienced? Sex is clearly a huge selling point for a lot of girls and if you can't give her what she wants, then you're out of luck, buddy.

 

No... I think they are worried about some of the things I just mentioned... Our culture has indoctrinated men to think that, whatever age they get their first sexual experience, that somehow MORE SEX with different women is going to help them learn how to keep a relationship together.

 

... but it doesn't...

[Revolver]

In our society a male virgin is the equivalent to a female slut

[Emilia]

Yeah but virgins are least likely to care about racking numbers. More than likely, they just want a relationship from the get go.

 

I don't know what makes you say that. A guy in the West is likely only to be a virgin in his mid 20s because he either has intimacy issues or lacks social skills

[IndianGuy87]

I don't know what makes you say that. A guy in the West is likely only to be a virgin in his mid 20s because he either has intimacy issues or lacks social skills

 

Or he isn't really good looking. And due to the fact the guy was a virgin and had to wait a while to get a girlfriend, he would do his best to avoid anything possible not to lose her. So yeah, he wouldn't even care about raising the numbers since he's already relieved to finally get a girl he likes and not lack intimacy and sex anymore in his life. That's what makes me say that. If a guy isn't really good looking, girls try their best to put the guys in the most awkward position when he approaches her that in the end he'll end believing that he really does lack social skills. Not in all cases though but you wouldn't see a really good looking guy lacking social skills by age 20.

[ThaWholigan]

Virgins need to learn how to do what I did - I.e learn how to not make your inexperience a big deal. If anyone tells you anything negative about being a virgin, belittles you for it or anything - tell em to eat a dick and die. If a girl doesn't wanna date you because of it - don't sweat it. Take it in your stride. There will be more where she came from, all different and some may even like you.

 

Yeah, its hard, but oh well. Learn to deal . A girl will think more of you if you are not down about inexperience.

[Shardish]

I don't know what makes you say that. A guy in the West is likely only to be a virgin in his mid 20s because he either has intimacy issues or lacks social skills

 

Or in the case some men are deeply religious and want to wait for marriage. Brazilian footballer Kaka was a virgin until marriage, it was big news in football at the time (not entirely sure why), so I wouldn't be so quick to be judgmental.

 

The reason I am having problems is due to my issues with intimacy and trust, but just because some men are experiencing this problem or problems because of a lack of social skills doesn't mean this is the case for all virgin males.

[Eggplant]

You're worrying too much!

 

The biggest reason a girl wouldn't date a virgin, in my opinion, is that it would make her feel insecure about not being one herself. It's you who will need to reassure the girl, not the other way around.

 

As a female, I'm shocked that there seem to be girls who would hold this lack of experience against you. What exactly are they looking for??

 

If you want a girl with a similar level of experience, you can date younger. Plenty of 20-year-olds are virgins.

 

You're in grad school? Motivated? Hard-working? That puts you in the top epsilon percentage of guys. I have to say, things are only going to improve for you. Just be patient.

Edited February 24, 2013 by Eggplant
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