Do Single women like Men in Suits?

[PhoenixRysing]

Depends on the woman, obviously...some like 'em, some don't.

 

Just learn how to dress well in a way that's appropriate for the occasion. That could be a suit-n-tie, or a blazer+button-down (no tie)+jeans, or even a t-shirt+shorts. Make sure your outfit fits well, and most importantly IMO ensure that you LIKE what you're wearing...as that can lead to you feeling more confident (which is what really matters). If you have a style that you like and separates you from the pack a bit, while still "fitting in" and being occasion appropriate, that may be even better.

 

Way-overdressing for an event gives off a vibe that you're trying too hard. Underdressing for something (or being sloppy) may give off a vibe that you're either lazy, irresponsible, classless or ignorant. Shoot for the middle ground...there is wiggle room within the middle; utilize it.

 

Absolutely perfectly said.

[Mr_Flay]

Wearing a suit (if you're just coming off work, as others suggested), can also be a source of ice-breaking humour. Sometimes when a girl asks me what I do for a living, I say I'm a construction worker, or a plumber working in a sewer. I then go on about the details of this physically strenuous and dirty job, or the intricacies of mixing fresh concrete, which is, of course, in stark contrast with what I'm wearing.

[Feelin Frisky]

Hey I was in Rite Aid pharmacy recently and a fella was waiting to drop off a prescription dressed in a nice suit. Two young women who were sitting and waiting started asking him what he does and what not. I was envious.

 

When I used to wear suits I lived and worked in NYC and it was no novelty to the ladies to see a man in a suit (although if you're sharp you'll be noticed. I heard one women say to another after having a gander at me "now that's the way a man SHOULD look". Whew that felt good.) But here in Virginnie, they prick up when you dress well and have the looks to go with it more than a big city like NY. I'm generally a "big and tall" shopper but when I've gotten myself in shape to where I don't need to lose any more weight, I would wear a 44 long. I love double-breasted pin stripe suits with cuffs on the pants. I never wore suspenders even when they were hip. I caved to the striped shirt with dotted tie thang of the 80's and the dark shirt lighter tie of the 90's. Get yourself a copy of GQ to see what's in vogue for young men. Enjoy the fit. Don't skimp on the shirt, tie and accessories (belt, shoes). Women check your shoes way more than you'd think. Keep 'em shining.

[jcrew11]

As has been said, "single women" do not share a brain, or opinions.

 

But speaking just for myself and not for all single women of the world, I'd probably think any guy wearing a suit to a bar or club was a giant douche.

 

Movies and TV are fun and all, but maybe stop and consider what is fiction and stop trying to draw lessons for real life from it.

 

Well the longer version of the question was "do any single women in this forum like suits" - it was meant to be a survey, and not a generalization.

 

And here I thought women liked a guy who was employed and had a white collar job.

 

I'll go back to my Jersey Shore outfits of skin-tight shirts and chain necklaces.

[jcrew11]

Um...totally different to wear a suit when you are out with your girlfriend when you take her to a nice restaurant or club. I thought you were wanting to wear a suit to pick up single women?

 

Oh, my bad. Were you talking about clubs with a specific dress code that requires a jacket and tie? Well, then of course you should wear a suit. I thought you were talking about a random club on a random Saturday night.

 

I think a higher class of woman likes a man in a suit. I think its sets the bar higher, instead of being the douchey drunk guy fist-pumping at the club; a Man in a Suit is looking for a woman who can maintain a relationship, instead of a woman seeking a drunken kiss.

 

I'm going to stick with the Suit and No tie combo. That is what Gosling and Carrell wear in the movie, and its more casual for bars/clubs. Anywhere that groups of women gather wearing black cocktail dresses is a perfect place to rock out the suit jacket.

 

A suit signifies a mature/employed and serious man who wants a relationship and is a straight shooter. I think a woman respects a Man who has a high standard to preserve his appearance, and isn't out at clubs to creep out drunk chicks.

 

Women ask "Where can they find quality men?" - well dating a Man in a Suit is a good way to select a guy from the Creeps in the crowd.

 

That's just my opinion.

[tbf]

Every time I read this thread header, Beyoncé's Single Ladies song, comes to mind. Had to share that with everyone on LS.

 

Regardless of what type and quality suit, the man makes the suit. While suits can hide imperfect bodies, the better body, the better the suit will look, especially with the current trend of very fitted, tapered suits and narrow legs.

[RedRobin]

So I saw a suit sale at Macy's and have been thinking about upgrading my wardrobe. Barney Stintson loves wearing suits, and claims it helps him land women (in tv world), but is this true in the real world?

 

Are there any suits that are really good at attracting women?

 

I was going to buy a suit for professional reasons, but now I think I want something for going to trendy bars/clubs. Some suits are more for business like pinstripes. I think Navy, Grey, and Tan are more for casual environments.

 

Is there any particular type of suit that is really good for going to trendy dining establishments?

 

yea...

 

[jcrew11]

Are you employed in a job at the club that requires you to wear a suit?

 

Anyway, I'm not sure why you're asking for single women's opinions (using ESP, evidently, since we were all supposed to understand that the actual question was different than the question you asked) if you're going to ignore them all.

 

There's usually a title word limit, so I shortened it.

Fine, I get it, the women have answered Don't Wear a Suit.

And yet you complain that you can't find any quality men to date.

[RedRobin]

There's usually a title word limit, so I shortened it.

Fine, I get it, the women have answered Don't Wear a Suit.

And yet you complain that you can't find any quality men to date.

 

Ok, I'll give you a serious answer.

 

Dress appropriately. If you have a job that requires you wear a suit, then you can back that up.

 

If you are looking to 'dress up' like you have a job that requires a suit, then it comes off as a costume. Not the real you.

 

Most men I know (even the ones who HAVE to wear a suit) don't really enjoy wearing a suit. It's just part of their job.

 

I suppose you can find a way to cop that attitude... that it is just another 'uniform' then maybe you can pull off what is required to pull in the ladies while wearing one. *shrug*

[jcrew11]

Ok, I'll give you a serious answer.

 

Dress appropriately. If you have a job that requires you wear a suit, then you can back that up.

 

If you are looking to 'dress up' like you have a job that requires a suit, then it comes off as a costume. Not the real you.

 

Most men I know (even the ones who HAVE to wear a suit) don't really enjoy wearing a suit. It's just part of their job.

 

I suppose you can find a way to cop that attitude... that it is just another 'uniform' then maybe you can pull off what is required to pull in the ladies while wearing one. *shrug*

 

Is this sort of like how women don't like wearing high heels or push-up bras or fancy dresses or wearing fake eyelashes? I mean, women put a lot more effort looking good than most men do. In that sense, then all the women wearing high heels even though it hurts their feet, are posers faking it to impress men.

[jcrew11]

So first of all, that literally made me laugh out loud. Thanks, I needed that.

 

There's this South Park episode where Cartman wants something from Stan (or maybe Kyle, it's been awhile...), so he dresses up in his best sweater and shows up on Stan's doorstep and says things like, "Look, I'm being nice." Stan replies that no, you're not being nice, you're just wearing a nice sweater. And Cartman, genuinely confused, asks, "What's the difference?"

 

I imagine you're going to need the connection spelled out for you: Cartman is a jerk no matter what he's wearing. And a quality guy is a quality guy no matter what he's wearing. Conversely, a loser doesn't magically become "quality" just by putting on a suit.

 

Yes, its far easier to spot the losers wearing the suits instead of the losers wearing jeans and flip flops and wife-beaters.

[RedRobin]

Is this sort of like how women don't like wearing high heels or push-up bras or fancy dresses or wearing fake eyelashes? I mean, women put a lot more effort looking good than most men do. In that sense, then all the women wearing high heels even though it hurts their feet, are posers faking it to impress men.

 

Well, you are talking to someone else, not me.

 

There are plenty of women who don't do those things... but maybe you aren't attracted to them?

 

Natural ain't your thing? Sorry, don't blame me or other women.

 

That said, I know how to wear heels, and know how to wear a fancy dress and even some fake eyelashes... but like anything else, it's an illusion.. and not one I'm trying to fool anyone with. It is just fun sometimes.

 

Wear a suit if you enjoy it. Seriously! I dress up for fun all of the time.

 

The real luxury is being able to decide when you want to 'dress up' and when you don't.

[jcrew11]

Well, you are talking to someone else, not me.

 

There are plenty of women who don't do those things... but maybe you aren't attracted to them?

 

Natural ain't your thing? Sorry, don't blame me or other women.

 

That said, I know how to wear heels, and know how to wear a fancy dress and even some fake eyelashes... but like anything else, it's an illusion.. and not one I'm trying to fool anyone with. It is just fun sometimes.

 

Wear a suit if you enjoy it. Seriously! I dress up for fun all of the time.

 

The real luxury is being able to decide when you want to 'dress up' and when you don't.

 

My point is, when I wear a suit, I can feel like a million bucks, and really good, cool and confident. If wearing a suit gets me attention from the ladies and speeds up attraction/conversation then so be it. How often do you go to weddings or college formals and just feel really good, fun, outgoing, and having a good time dancing, etc?

 

Women do a lot more "Fake" things to get male attention, like color their hair blonde, and most women wear designer heels from time to time.

 

Guys complain that they can never stand out at the bars or clubs. I'm saying to "Suit up" and you'll get a lot of positive attention. Even with ties, women love to play with them and reach for a guy wearing a tie and pulling him closer to her. A suit beats any cheesy pickup line.

[2sure]

I'm going to say this again. A really great jacket what you can wear with jeans is what you want. And a pair of very good shoes.

 

If you have that then certainly do add a couple of suits, but you must have the above first.

 

If you want to date women that prefer a man in a suit...don't make the mistake of getting a cheap or poorly tailored one or you will look like you are confused.

[RedRobin]

Is this sort of like how women don't like wearing high heels or push-up bras or fancy dresses or wearing fake eyelashes? I mean, women put a lot more effort looking good than most men do. In that sense, then all the women wearing high heels even though it hurts their feet, are posers faking it to impress men.

 

Hmm... well, you are asking the wrong person. When I was in high school I gave some of those things a test run as part of my regular 'look'....

 

When I started going to college, I took a look around me and saw my competition (men) in the field of my choosing and observed the time it took for them to prepare for their day.

 

... much less... so I stopped doing it. Takes too much time. Day-to-day, I do what it takes to appear put together, but that is it. Although, I've often been complimented on my ability to dress appropriately for any occasion. So yea, I know how to do the push-up bra, fake eyelash thing when the occasion calls for it. But I consider it a 'costume' and for fun. Not part of who I am.

 

About the poseurs thing... I wouldn't know about that. Some women (like some men) really enjoy the ritual of whatever 'uniform' they put on every day.

.. it is part of who they are. I enjoy it occasionally. It is fun to be a different person once in awhile and play with that.

 

What I always find amusing is men who complain about what women look like when those things come off. Ok, start asking out women who don't do those things. Simple.

 

... and about the suit. If you like wearing a suit, then wear one. If you don't... then don't. I think you'll have alot more fun with it when you stop expecting it to elicit a certain response and find some other intrinsic value to it.

[Els]

My point is, when I wear a suit, I can feel like a million bucks, and really good, cool and confident. If wearing a suit gets me attention from the ladies and speeds up attraction/conversation then so be it. How often do you go to weddings or college formals and just feel really good, fun, outgoing, and having a good time dancing, etc?

 

Women do a lot more "Fake" things to get male attention, like color their hair blonde, and most women wear designer heels from time to time.

 

Guys complain that they can never stand out at the bars or clubs. I'm saying to "Suit up" and you'll get a lot of positive attention. Even with ties, women love to play with them and reach for a guy wearing a tie and pulling him closer to her. A suit beats any cheesy pickup line.

 

If you're convinced then I don't see how it hurts to try it. Go to the particular bar or clubs that you plan to frequent and watch how guys dress, what kind of suits they can pull off, etc. Then you can follow suit (pun not intended ). Because we can all tell you what kind of suits we see and/or find attractive, but we really won't know what is appropriate for where exactly you want to go.

 

And yes, get a tailored one. You get what you pay for usually when it comes to dressing up. Cheap and ill-fitting suits look worse than a tee and jeans.

 

And if you DON'T see any guys in that club wearing suits... don't. It's the same with your high heels analogy. Women do get looked at weirdly for wearing high heels to wildly inappropriate places, too. It's just that women tend to dress up more so the number of places that you can wear high heels to are much greater than the number of places that you can wear a suit to (and not look weird).

[rocketboy9]

I am not a fan of suits as I was private school my whole life and had to wear them every day for years on end. Frankly outside of weddings, funerals and very high end restaurants where they are require, who wears a suit except on Wall Street.

 

I used to work in NYC where it was de reguer to wear a suit at work. When everyone has one on and some people's suits cost in the thousands, what can you really say. Women paid no attention to it because everyone had one. Beyond that no one wears them. Outside of Wall Street there are not to many employers that force it nowadays. The norm is khacki's.

 

I have been at bars and clubs where you cant wear jeans, so you put on black pants. A big yawn and that makes it so much more upscale. Yeah right. I say figure out what kind of guy you are in terms of your clothing and stick with that. I have found that guys that are into them are usually douches. Big swinging d**k syndrome.

 

Some women like suits, some dont. The bigger question is do you like them?

[jcrew11]

I think you guys are just upset over the suit and tie combo.

 

But I think the jacket and shirt combo is the way to go. I also think the jacket and vest (like the Mentalist) is a fashionable style that is good for clubs. Miami vice started the Jacket/Tshirt combo, and that is a good casual look.

 

All the other doushers at the club wear shiny shirts - I think its good to go classy and wear the suit jacket over the shirt. Women will respect a guy in a suit over the other doushers.

[jcrew11]

I used to work in NYC where it was de reguer to wear a suit at work. When everyone has one on and some people's suits cost in the thousands, what can you really say. Women paid no attention to it because everyone had one. Beyond that no one wears them. Outside of Wall Street there are not to many employers that force it nowadays. The norm is khacki's.

 

And NYC men usually have many choices of women. Granted the Women outnumber men in NYC, but that might also be because Women know that the Rich Classy Men work on Wall street. There are also plenty of Men in Advertising that dress in high-end fashion.

 

Women want the Carrie Bradshaw fantasy of meeting Mr. Big in a suit and tie. Its best to give it to them.

[Els]

Do you REALLY think it's a great idea to take all your relationship advice from HIMYM and SATC?