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What are some of the worst things you've done after getting dumped?

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I'm just curious to see how far some people have gone after getting dumped, and what the outcome was. Also, how long did it take to realize that what you were doing was only making things worse?

 

I've read some crazy stories on here of what some people have done in an attempt to get their exes back and I have to admit it makes me not feel so bad about the things I did myself :D

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Found out who my ex cheated on me with, found out what he drives, what he does, where he works. I then contemplated kicking his ass and figured out how to ruin his career and possibly hers.

 

I later decided my time would be better spent working on myself and finding a girl who has more self-respect, people like her aren't worth my time.

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I'm just curious to see how far some people have gone after getting dumped, and what the outcome was. Also, how long did it take to realize that what you were doing was only making things worse?

 

I've read some crazy stories on here of what some people have done in an attempt to get their exes back and I have to admit it makes me not feel so bad about the things I did myself :D

 

What did you do?

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I am so ashamed of some of the things I've done at the end of relationships. There's nothing that makes me crazier than a broken heart. The worst is getting desperate and needy, and openly showing that to your (soon-to-be) ex, which of course only drives them away further.

 

The worst thing I did was during the dissolution of my very first romantic relationship -- breaking into an email account. I was only 18 at the time so I can (sort of) forgive myself. But it was a horrible idea, because I found lots of incriminating stuff (i.e. nasty comments about me, evidence of lies to me) but wasn't able to call out my ex any of it. So all this knowledge had to brew privately inside me.

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What did you do?

 

When she first broke it off I texted her for a bout a week telling her how much I needed her and how desperate and depressed I was. Indirectly threatened to hurt myself. Then I cried my eyes out in front of her, telling her the same old garbage. Texted her more, basically asking over and over if we could stay friends. Wrote a very very long letter to her degrading the hell out of myself and making her seem like a goddess. Luckily at the end of all of this I was able to end on good terms with her and agree to be friends. Two days later I sent her maybe about 10 texts in a pathetic attempt to change her mind again, looking extremely needy. That was basically the nail in the coffin for me.

 

Looking back on it all I just wonder... What in the hell was I thinking that entire time?

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When she first broke it off I texted her for a bout a week telling her how much I needed her and how desperate and depressed I was. Indirectly threatened to hurt myself. Then I cried my eyes out in front of her, telling her the same old garbage. Texted her more, basically asking over and over if we could stay friends. Wrote a very very long letter to her degrading the hell out of myself and making her seem like a goddess. Luckily at the end of all of this I was able to end on good terms with her and agree to be friends. Two days later I sent her maybe about 10 texts in a pathetic attempt to change her mind again, looking extremely needy. That was basically the nail in the coffin for me.

 

Looking back on it all I just wonder... What in the hell was I thinking that entire time?

It's because at that time we can't think well.. we are so distraught and our brains don't function normally.

 

Now after some time away from all the emotions and all. We can finally think straight and we see things we did right and wrong.

 

it's a learning experience. Now you know for next time what to do and how to react. Best thing is to just take time away after a BU and not talk at all.

 

Wish I had done that.. didn't, but hey learned from it all.

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It's because at that time we can't think well.. we are so distraught and our brains don't function normally.

 

Now after some time away from all the emotions and all. We can finally think straight and we see things we did right and wrong.

 

it's a learning experience. Now you know for next time what to do and how to react. Best thing is to just take time away after a BU and not talk at all.

 

Wish I had done that.. didn't, but hey learned from it all.

 

It's because we believe these things will work. And sometimes the pleading tactic works (only if the reason for the end of the relationship is because you was distant). So for those reason people try

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But at the end of the day if you ex really wants you back they will come back despite some of the crazy things you may do. I have many times seem girls especially call thier ex's all the names under the sun. Needy, he won't stop texting me, he turned up at my house apologising, oh he stalked me or stalks me, he won't stop calling...etc... But as soon as thier ex's stop doing all these things then they start to wonder about them, miss them etc...

 

So the main advice what ever drastic things you are doing after the break up for a short period it may be justified but the sooner you stop the better.

Still constantly texting your ex years later vs still texting your ex weeks later there is a difference and how there is no coming back from the years later one

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my ex almost took me back cuz of my crying. We were at a restaurant after our break (initially my break up with him, but he asked for one more chance and i agreed so it turned into a break cuz we were LD at that time).

 

he asked me if i made up my mind and i said that i take him back only to hear that he doesnt want that anymore. so i started crying right there... that scared the sh*t out of him so he started backing up with lets discuss it again, think more, see whats up in a couple of weeks.. bla bla bla but what i realized at the spot right there is that a relationship cannot be bassed on pitty/ intimidation. i could ve not continued knowing that he backed up only cuz i started crying. we all deserve more than that. i dont regret sayig no at the end, even though it was a good relationship overall.

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Yup I fudged up too.. Checked her online phone records became a stage 1 stalker !! Very embarrassed and ashamed about this one.

Had it all worked out she was seeing a guy (I was wrong too)

Couldn't even keep it quiet ended up asking her and all hell broke loose.

Some very poor judgement on my behalf in a very difficult time not proud of unit and learned a valuable lesson..

No contact will save your dignity !!

And look don't bother snooping you only find out stuff u didn't wana know or else work out things backwards either way stay clear ..

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Ill share with you something a colleague of mine did I don't think it was dumb but hey maybe you guys can decide.

 

he had a gift sent to his ex that he bought before they broke up, it was a very thoughtful one and because she had been having a hard time personally he thought it will cheer her up. He would have done it himself but he didnt want to turn up at her work place un annoynced. a friend of his who works in the same building as his ex offered to take it off his hands that if he did bump into her he would give it to her. So the friend did indeed see her and gave it to her.

 

Now when she found out it was from him she turned around and started calling him names one of which was a stalker etc.. I told him he sound never do such a thing to her again. One time people may think he over reacted if he keeps doing it he will defo be a stalker.

 

I think it was more a window of opportunity because doesn't a stalker have to be there in person?

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oh wow. years ago, when he told me on Valentine's that he was seeing someone else for awhile and "they" were going to make another go of it. Get engaged, etc.. I went to the dating site he had always been on. He wasn't any longer, because he was trying to be a good boy for her. He was just keeping me around in case she dumped him again (and that was the day he told me about her)

 

So, I went to the dating site. I created a profile. The main pic was him. The other pics were of pinocchio, things about liars, etc. Then I wrote the profile about him, how he had kids but sometimes put he had none. Or they were over 18, when they weren't. Or how he put he was widowed when he was divorced. Stuff like that. I put all of his dating profile aliases in there. All the names he went by. Etc.

 

Then... I clicked on the profile of EVERY woman on the eastern seaboard. And as he and the woman he so longed for, were at their Valentines dinner the following day, one of her friends sent her a message and said "I think you need to see this."

 

Eventually, she contacted me. She was so nice. I just told her who he really is. When she told me he told her that I was just some woman who couldn't let go of him, that I borrowed money from him (never asked for a red cent, nor got one) that was this, that.. I just told her I didn't expect any less from him. He was a pathological liar.

 

She said she was going to leave him. She didn't at first. She actually accepted his proposal. Nice huge ring and car he bought her. Other gifts. You name it. I think he bought me a pair of shoes. Not that gifts were what I was ever about... but, that's an example.

 

After I did that with the profile & spoke to her, I never looked back. I had once been soooo heartbroken. Why he gave her so much and wasn't good to me. But I didn't feel bad after that incident. I moved on. I felt good.

 

Turned out, she eventually kicked him to the curb anyway. He is back on the dating site and recently contacted me. I laughed and it felt wonderful to feel nothing about his pathetic self. I ignored the sad sorry son of a B. ;)

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