Caldespair Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 The quick 20 plus year marriage, 2 teenagers, had what I thought was an amazing life with my wife. 10 weeks since Ive been out of house after our argument. Tried mc, she only went once. I do IC once a week. We both have lawyers, she did not want the cheaper mediation route. I probalby have 12 months of D crap ahead of me. Im living in apartment while my sbxw lives in my/our house. My 16 year old lives with her I know when the house is empty (I legally can be there, but I dont go where I am not wanted). Yesterday I went in the house, snooped around. among other things am looking for her legal stategy for our D. No 3rd party involved as best as I can tell. Bottom line, it appears shes carrying on as if nothing happened. (I am as much as I can) This snooping brought me down. I feel like crap. I hate to admit it, but I still love the sbxw. With the info I gleamed, it just wrecked me. Previously I had been acting tough like this is the way life goes. I have been doing the NC big time but I messed up and now paying for it. My reaction also includes anger big time. I will make sure that she does not get to live in my house. I am going to go midevil on her in the divorce proceedings. Sorry about the pity party.
jf2good Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Grow up. Move back home and get a different marriage counselor. I don't know what was said in the marriage counseling, I only went once with my wife as she used it as b*tch session towards me and the marriage counselor being a women took her side without once every asking me how I felt or my side. But my marriage is now way past counseling. If you screwed up and I bet you did, say your sorry and move forward. Revenge will never make you happy. If it really is divorce time, be nice for your children's sake. I am not saying cave into you wife, I am saying be fair and hopefully she will be fair too.
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