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The quick

 

20 plus year marriage, 2 teenagers, had what I thought was an amazing life with my wife.

 

10 weeks since Ive been out of house after our argument.

 

Tried mc, she only went once. I do IC once a week.

 

We both have lawyers, she did not want the cheaper mediation route. I probalby have 12 months of D crap ahead of me.

 

Im living in apartment while my sbxw lives in my/our house. My 16 year old lives with her

 

I know when the house is empty (I legally can be there, but I dont go where I am not wanted). Yesterday I went in the house, snooped around. among other things am looking for her legal stategy for our D. No 3rd party involved as best as I can tell.

Bottom line, it appears shes carrying on as if nothing happened. (I am as much as I can)

This snooping brought me down. I feel like crap. I hate to admit it, but I still love the sbxw. With the info I gleamed, it just wrecked me. Previously I had been acting tough like this is the way life goes.

I have been doing the NC big time but I messed up and now paying for it.

My reaction also includes anger big time. I will make sure that she does not get to live in my house. I am going to go midevil on her in the divorce proceedings.

 

Sorry about the pity party.

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Grow up. Move back home and get a different marriage counselor. I don't know what was said in the marriage counseling, I only went once with my wife as she used it as b*tch session towards me and the marriage counselor being a women took her side without once every asking me how I felt or my side. But my marriage is now way past counseling. If you screwed up and I bet you did, say your sorry and move forward.

 

Revenge will never make you happy. If it really is divorce time, be nice for your children's sake. I am not saying cave into you wife, I am saying be fair and hopefully she will be fair too.

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