BlueBoy1 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Hello everyone, I really hope someone can help me. My girlfriend of 7 years recently admitted that she had an affair with a married man who is almost 30 years her senior and also sort of her boss. She says it's only been a single night a few months ago, and I of course have no way of knowing if that's true. She says that right now, they are still friends but nothing more. Now after I learned about this, I told her our relationship was over and took the next plane home (we are in a long-distance relationship), because I just couldn't tolerate the whole situation anymore. At that time (now 2 days ago) she asked me to stay and give our relationship another chance, but I just couldn't. Now yesterday I texted her again because I just wanted to talk and see whether I can forgive her, but now she suddenly says she needs time and that she regards my decision as final. She also said she will eventually call me, but was unable to say when. Now I have drafted a long E-mail in which I try to clarify my feelings, but I don't know whether I should send it to her? Or should I stick to the NC rule until she actually calls? I think I am still in love with her. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thunderchild Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 (edited) Blueboy - NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! :eek::eek::eek::eek: Bear in mind - she cheated on you! She has no consideration or respect for you (or your former relationship), time to put on the Gestapo jackboots and slash the riding crop against them!! Slowly and calmly - Step away from the send button. Then - with extreme prejudice - delete that e-mail. Don't appear weak or clingy to her it's very unattractive. If she needs space, let her have all the space she needs. Go "No Contact" with her - erase her from your life, block e-mails, mobile phone, social networks. DO NOT CONTACT HER UNTIL SHE CONTACTS YOU! If/when she's ready to talk to you, she will. Until then back of - major league, It'll be hard as hell, but that is what these boards are about. There's always someone around who will see your post and advise Edited February 23, 2013 by Thunderchild 1
Author BlueBoy1 Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 (edited) Thanks so much for the advice guys. Writing at this point in time would have been a huge mistake and I was so close to doing it, but your posts made me look at the situation from a different angle ... today the world already looks a bit better. It will be a long way to go but I think I am beginning to learn the lesson: don't ever lose your self-respect. Edited February 24, 2013 by BlueBoy1
H3Drvr Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 . It will be a long way to go but I think I am beginning to learn the lesson: don't ever lose your self-respect. One on the most important thing during a breakup! Unfortunately, most of us get lost in the heat of the moment and we turn into sobbing sacks of ...
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