Yatesrow Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Gf leaves me at the beinning of the year, for ambigous reasons that she labeled "fundamental differences". She then goes on to say that "the future may bring us together again". She disappears for a month, not a word. Shortly after I get a text form her saying that she's sorry she's been silent and asks how I'm doing. A couple of weeks pass and I straight up ask her if these "fundamental differences" are just a cop-out and if there was someone else. She said that she didn't leave me for anyone else and that she was completely devoted to me, however, I did come to learn that over the past couple of weeks since our most recent contact that she's been seeing this guy she had a brief encounter with, long before she met me. He apparently rejected the idea of a relationship back then. Upon further discussion she says that "she misses me like crazy" "she dreams about me" and basically wants to keep in contact (I know). I'm thinking this new relationship is somewhat of a rebound. She really isn't his type and they lead completly difference lifestyles. To add to it, I'm pretty sure he's aware of the fact that my ex is recently out of a relationship and is trying to capitalize on this since she doesn't like to be alone. I know I should just walk away but I'm going through so much mental anguish trying to read her, I can't see straight. Why is she saying these things? to keep a door open? to keep me on the back burner? I can't be a door mat but she's got me wrapped around her finger.
Apolodor Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I don't know the answer to your problem, but here is a different perspective. Maybe she felt she could do a lot better and decided to dump you. While you two were incommunicado, she probably tried her luck with dating some new guys; maybe her attempts did not materialise in anything more than just a couple of one-night stands (something that will be very hard for you to know about). She felt disappointed and decided that the relationship she had with you provided her with more emotional security. Hence she tries to re-establish contact with you for fear of not losing the proverbial "bird" in the hand. The fact that you learned that she's been seeing an old flame should already raise some red flags. Let her go, nothing good will come out of it. A mended thing will never be new again.
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