spice4life Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Good news. MMs Mum has called him to apologise for her behavior saying she was upset and angry. She says she now offers him her full support having had a talk with the W. Apparently the W has now confessed to her that their marriage was not fixable. MMs parents have offered him an open door to return to their home in order that MM and W can have the space they need to move forward while they sort out their financial arrangements etc. MM has been granted immunity to come and go as he pleases with promise that he won't be talked at by them. He has also received apologies from his siblings. I am so pleased they have now seen the situation for what it is. It hurts bad seeing the person you love suffering, esp wrongly, when there is so little you can do to help. Thanks for all your comments. That is awesome! Best wishes to you!
Decorative Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Good news. MMs Mum has called him to apologise for her behavior saying she was upset and angry. She says she now offers him her full support having had a talk with the W. Apparently the W has now confessed to her that their marriage was not fixable. MMs parents have offered him an open door to return to their home in order that MM and W can have the space they need to move forward while they sort out their financial arrangements etc. MM has been granted immunity to come and go as he pleases with promise that he won't be talked at by them. He has also received apologies from his siblings. I am so pleased they have now seen the situation for what it is. It hurts bad seeing the person you love suffering, esp wrongly, when there is so little you can do to help. Thanks for all your comments. Cool. Have you seen any evidence outside of him that either of these scenarios actually occurred ? That he was shunned and unshunned? Or is it still just his word? Something is off. For your sake - especially if you are planning a future with him, I think you should make sure you know the truth, and from more than just his sayso. I am warning you, in this manner, because my spouse did this sort of of thing to his OW. None of it was true. So confirm for yourself- and if it's real, then you can proceed the way you wish. 1
18Years2Late Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Well. Now all is right with the world. No...all is right in HER world ...
Author The hated OW Posted February 25, 2013 Author Posted February 25, 2013 Hi Decorative, thanks for your concern. For me trust is always a big issue since my last marriage broke down for this reason (exH was a compulsive liar and left me with the burden of a trust issue). I was with MM when his Mother called him on his cell phone. During the conversation I politely left them to it, as it was their business to discuss and not mine and they were both very emotional. Thanks again
jwi71 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Hi Decorative, thanks for your concern. For me trust is always a big issue since my last marriage broke down for this reason (exH was a compulsive liar and left me with the burden of a trust issue). I was with MM when his Mother called him on his cell phone. During the conversation I politely left them to it, as it was their business to discuss and not mine and they were both very emotional. Thanks again Given that you have trust issues predating your A - what are you doing to address them? Lack of trust is a cancer - water eroding the foundation of what can POTENTIALLY be a great thing. What are YOU doing to address these issues for yourself? Have you considered couples counseling for you and your BF? One more thing...and I'm trying to tread delicately here - why didn't your MM's mom call YOU? Shouldn't such an apology be TO you?
Decorative Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Hi Decorative, thanks for your concern. For me trust is always a big issue since my last marriage broke down for this reason (exH was a compulsive liar and left me with the burden of a trust issue). I was with MM when his Mother called him on his cell phone. During the conversation I politely left them to it, as it was their business to discuss and not mine and they were both very emotional. Thanks again Okey dokey. As long as you are sure it was his mother, and it was a genuine conversation. Then that's good. Although I admit- I still don't quite grasp the huge swing from one side to the other by his relatives. It's just unusual. It is interesting that trust is a huge issue and yet you became involved on a relationship built on dishonesty. Therapy for you and your boyfriend would probably help increase the chances of a successful relationship in the future.
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