GuineverePendragon Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 So I know most of you won't have this problem unless you are married into a family like my husbands family. I'm so in love with my husband I melt when we gaze at each other. It's his mom, grandma and aunts that hate me. I've tried everything from spa day bonding to weekend retreats for the girls to Michael Bolton concerts. They just won't accept me. I was at a loss and really believed it was my cafe au lait skin and curly coils that just made them put up a stop sign. But it's not that - they aren't racist at all thank God. But they are loyal and apparently I was not the woman they had in mind as a daughter and in law. Their next door neighbor is the BFF of all 3 sisters. Apparently, her daughter was supposed to be the lucky girl. Only he saw me at college and forgot Heather ever existed. But they haven't. Since Liam brought me home to meet his Mom, I've gotten the bitch face. Now, 2 years after our wedding, I'm pissed and hurt because they won't give me a chance yet act like we are all BFFs when Liam's around. I'm 3000 miles away from my family and have no idea how to handle this. Desperately I've considered talking my husband into pushing up our deadline to get pregnant. Maybe a grandchild will wake them all up to their snobbery and hurtful treatment. I know that's not the answer. But what is?
TaraMaiden Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 The answer is to rise above it. Easy and simplistic as that may seem, you need to start making less effort to be their buddy, and more of an effort to be true to yourself. Don'r be so ingratiating, because whatever you do, they'll never respect you, accept you or be your best friends. Make it their loss, not yours. be distant, be detached and be indifferent. but be dignified and polite, and don't give them any cause or reason, to be justified in criticism.
Keenly Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Desperately I've considered talking my husband into pushing up our deadline to get pregnant. Maybe a grandchild will wake them all up to their snobbery and hurtful treatment. I know that's not the answer. But what is? I hope you are not serious.
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