creighton0123 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I am not experiencing sadness that I can identify - and I am fairly good at identifying my emotions. After talking it out with a close friend, I've realized that 2 weeks post BU leave me less sad, a tad anxious, somewhat disappointed, and mostly upset not over the breakup, but at the number of changes it has forced into my life. I'm upset about the lost potential and recognize that I am most happy when I have someone to intimately share my happiness with. I think the three week mark will be a good time to get out and start casually dating again. Has anyone been in a similar emotional situation after a similar breakup (abrupt after 2 years)? Perhaps the fact that my ex and I were in an LDR for the first 13 months of our relationship softened the blow now... Or perhaps it indicates that I wasn't as passionately in love with him as I thought two weeks ago? I feel that I'm ready to casually date. I need a little more time (another month) before I feel I'll be ready for another relationship to begin. Thoughts?
Exitleft Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 It's good that you feel better and getting out is never a bad idea, although personally I find that my emotions fluctuate so much that I can't nail down how I am feeling. I go from confident and happy about the outcome to anxious like you that I won't ever share these things with anyone again. Like you we went from marriage and a life to nothing in the blink of an eye. It is confusing and painful and my emotions are all over the place but I think things turn around eventually you will know when you are ready to date others.
Author creighton0123 Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 Exit, My emotions don't seem to be all over the place at all. Today, I thought of the ex only three or four times: once on my way to work, once at work when I was taking a break to look at apartments, and when I mistakenly looked at a mutual friend's facebook page (I've since written to and unfriended all of his friends that I became close to). Aside from that, my emotions are about as stable as they were pre-BU, only with a tad bit more frustration/stress due to adding an unexpected apartment search and the financial crunch that comes with going from a two-income house to a single-income house. 1
Exitleft Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 You may be on your way then especially once the stress of apartment hunting is over. If it feels right to you then go for it. You are your number one priority right now.
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