de892 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 The "No-Contact Process" would be my usual go-to, since it has worked for me in the past. Basically, after failing to move to a relationship, I would simply make a point to be so busy as to not see her at all for a month or two. This allowed the "friend zone" status to die and reopened the door to intimacy. Sadly, since we share a bunch of classes (currently in university) this type of disappearance isn't currently possible and will not be feasible in the near future. What methods (if any) have worked for you guys in the past? How do you leave the friend zone without disappearing? Thanks in advance
iKING Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Get other girls interested in you, preferably someone she knows. It may spark her interest, and it could also help find someone more appealing then the original one you were going for.
Author de892 Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 Get them interested? Meaning... Date them? Flirt with them? ONS? How far should I go?
iKING Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Get them interested? Meaning... Date them? Flirt with them? ONS? How far should I go? Don't take it too far, some flirting should be plenty. The goal there is to have the girls chatting about particular qualities of yours they find irresistible. It's more or less going off of the power of suggestion. Let the girls get to know interesting things about you. Sometimes girls don't realize they like you until they think there's competition if they wanted you. Keep in mind it doesn't always work but It's an alternative to absolute non contact.
Archgirl Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Get other girls interested in you, preferably someone she knows. It may spark her interest, and it could also help find someone more appealing then the original one you were going for. Just don't go too far with the flirting with other one I think. Or it could potentially really backfire. I tend to ignore guys once they've seemed interested but then moved onto another too easily.
2.50 a gallon Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 When I first moved out on my own, I was like most other college kids and made my entertainment center for my albums (shows my age) record player, etc., with cinder bocks and shelves. Wanting to break away from that I hit upon stacking the wall with a variety of different sized boxes, one big enough for the TV, another for the player, other for small and large sized books, others for knick knacks, like beer steins. I started by anchoring the bottom wth my album collection, searching for something to fill the rest of the bottom I hit upon a large acquarium set on 4 x 4's, which I filled with peaceful or community fish. I liked to relax by watching the fish swim so added a couple of classy pillows Bring over date, cook her a gourmet meal, then turn on the soft music and retire to watch the fish, maybe play a game of chess or backgammon, with some sort of alcoholic drink, wine, dauquiri, and let nature take over.
Casablanca Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 The only way to leave the "friendzone" is for her to decide she actually likes you...only way you get to the "friendzone" is when someone isn't attracted to you physically and/or mentally. So I guess say if someone is overweight and lost weight a woman could regain interest in that person, but there is no secret to it
Calvin's wagon Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 (edited) Hi. My advice would be to tell her that you like her. Preferably tell her after you will have spent a great day/evening/date with her where she will enjoy herself, for example after going to the movies/dinner/.... So after/in a romantic setting. My advice would be to make it connected to sth she really likes -> if she's into astronomy, take her to a community observatory -> make her feel special etc. If you have time/patience, it might be worth to consider doing that (going out and doing "couple things") a couple of times before you tell, especially since from your words I gather there's a chance you've been reserved in the past days/weeks. But tell her! I regret not telling a couple of girls with whom I was friends that I liked them, because after a couple of years it turned out (they told me - it was at different times, not 2 at the same time:)) that at the same time they liked me. But I had thought at the time that they weren't interested/were out of my league, so I didn't tell them. And they didn't tell me. And of course, by the time we both realized it was too late, one or both of us were already past that feeling/were in relationships etc. So tell her! Of course it's a risk, but it's better to risk and at least know you've done all you could, than to regret and ask yourself "what ifs". Especially because if you give her space for her to miss you (without telling her that you like her), she might think you're not interested and that space will be taken by someone who will show her he's interested. And if she doesn't like you that way, than you can still reduce/eliminate communication with her. I think you gain nothing in the long run by not telling her you like her, but you risk losing so much. Best of luck! Tell us how it went:) P.S.: Edit part -> I'd tell her before you start trying to flirt with other girls etc. True, that might work with some girls, but with some girls it might put her off, think "he's flirting with others, he doesn't like me etc.". Also, if you know her (female) friends (or if you have common friends), perhaps ask one or a couple of them for advice before deciding how to tell her... Edited February 23, 2013 by Calvin's wagon added the last part
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