Locust Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 (edited) I met this Russian woman when I was in community college late 2010 from a math class, and she made the first approach. Few days later I remember we caught the same train home. While on the ride home she sat next me with her legs crossed, playing with her hair, she was twirling it and she had her eyes on me the whole time. She knew I’m a science major, so out of the blue she told me she joined a physics club and tried to get me to join. I couldn’t come to the events every week because of work, but I came the times I was free. Then one day I was with a friend on school campus when she ran into me while I was talking to my buddy. She then asked I was free to come to a field related to the physics club, they were two trips I was going to one for sure. However, she wanted me to come to the second one. Then she asked me 3 times in a row kind like the please, please tone. I told her I may not be able to go because I may have to work that weekend, I said it’s a maybe. She understood and said I’ll call or text you later. Then there was another moment I told her I was going to this technology conference and she was like I wanna go and she did. She invited herself on that. Then there was that evening we hanged out for a while and we were saying bye to each other I gave her a simple hug and she did but she gave me a kiss in the cheek. Sometime around August last year she just stopped talking to me and I haven’t heard from her since. Not sure what happen but I let it go. Even if I was for sure she had some interest in me I couldn't go for her as I was intimidated by her looks, she was pretty. She even does some modeling so that kind of gives you a clue. Edited February 23, 2013 by Locust
Eggplant Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Yes, I think so. She was giving you the green light to ask her out/pursue her.
TheZebra Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 She was super interested in you. The reason she eventually stopped is because you weren't pursuing her back so she assumed you weren't interested. She literally gave you every signal in the book, why did you not do anything, exactly?
Author Locust Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 She was super interested in you. The reason she eventually stopped is because you weren't pursuing her back so she assumed you weren't interested. She literally gave you every signal in the book, why did you not do anything, exactly? It was 2 things. She said she had girlfriend and I wasn't sure if it was a lover or close friend, I do live in San Francisco big gay and lesbian community. The second, she was good looking and I felt that she was out of my league. I'm sure there are other guys that get really nervous around a gorgeous girl. She was a true Russian, she had the accent since she is from Russia. I'll admit I checked her out a few times though.
Mumbles Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 It was 2 things. She said she had girlfriend and I wasn't sure if it was a lover or close friend, I do live in San Francisco big gay and lesbian community. The second, she was good looking and I felt that she was out of my league. I'm sure there are other guys that get really nervous around a gorgeous girl. She was a true Russian, she had the accent since she is from Russia. I'll admit I checked her out a few times though. Oh man, you let that opportunity slip through your fingers. From your words above, she was as forward and forthright as any girl is likely to get - but ultimately girls need feedback, just like guys. I love Russian accents - I have had Russian friends in the past, and that accent with the girls just does something for me. As for maybe being a lesbian, well, maybe she was, or maybe bi, or maybe not ... you'd never know unless you went out with her. Don't find reasons _not_ to go out with hot girls .. for goodness sakes. I was going to mention this to you earlier, in a post of yours where you say you went to Russia for a conference. Remember, people, men and women both, are often attracted to the exotic. Remember this girl, with the accent and everything, how exotic she must have seemed to you - well, you were just as exotic to her. As for being 'too good looking' for you - please save me now. Its not your decision to make, its entirely hers. If you were attracted to her, thats all you need to know - don't try and make up her mind for her on whether you are 'in her league' - providing she was an adult, thats entirely her choice. Worst case scenario, you go on a few dates, have a huge amount of fun, start getting a little experience with interacting with a hot girl, and maybe have a good snog ... thats the _worst_ possible outcome.
Author Locust Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 He wasn't confident enough to pursue it and probably convinced himself that she didn't like him and he was mis-reading it. How do I know? I did it often in the past. I agree what CaptJack said.
Mumbles Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I agree what CaptJack said. Sure sure. I'm really glad you have recognised this though. Its quite probable that you are passing up opportunity all the time and maybe not realising it. From your description of events, this girls sounds pretty forthright - more so then I'd expect most girls to be if they don't already know you that well. So you definitely need to be on the look out for far more subtle approaches by girls. Basically, as the man, you have to put yourself out there, as mostly, the girls won't do it (with exceptions, as you have seen). Next time a girl invites you to anything, I mean anything, agree and go. don't let fear rule your life. Don't matter if she's "too hot" for you, or more plain, just go. I find interacting with women immensely pleasurable, whether we hit the sack or not is largely immaterial. Any woman asks me to have coffee and I'm 99% sure to say yes, unless her personality really puts me off. You never know where these things will lead, worst case, you maybe make a new friend, and even if there is no romantic 'spark' then she'll have girlfriends, who themselves have girlfriends, its a method of widening your circle and meeting, usually in non threatening scenarios, lots of women.
Author Locust Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 I'm starting to open up. I usually try to go for average looking, shy, nerdy Asian girls but they usually never feel interested or hardly talk to me. I one had a girl located in Europe said to me on Mysapce you look handsome. It seems like I'm more appealing to Europeans then my own kind of people. I'm Indian and mixed with Latin, so I thought I would have Indian girls interested in me but not really. Never would thought in my life I would had some Europeans interested in me but I guess like Mumbles said its the exotic probably.
Author Locust Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 I guess I was a little intimidated by Russian beauty. Like I said I usually go for girls who are not attractive.
dchin1985 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 (edited) Mate, you sounded like when i was 21. I am not that much older, i am 28 this year. But let me tell you this. WOMEN ARE WEIRD, no matter how hot or attractive they are, there is always something about a certain guy that clicks her, regardless of whether that guy is good looking, fat or not. There is just SOMETHING that click them and you need to know what that is in you. Every women are different. Some likes your charm, some likes your eyes, your smile, some like your hand (sounds like a fetish), some like your humor, some likes your shoulder.. But the more important thing is, she LIKES you! Who give a **** about whether she is hot or not. She already opens her door and welcome you in, all you have to do is get to know her and enjoy your time. I love socializing with women, i find their shyness very cute and their uncertainty very cute and their blush very cute. Almost like, they know they like you, but they are just too shy and uncertain to say it out and its your job to let them know that they are making the right decision (It takes a bit of time and experience to understand how though). THOUGH I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT SOMETIME THIS IS ANNOYING. Just ask her out for a coffee or dinner mate. Get to know her, its not like you are getting married tomorrow night anyway. LISTEN AND KEEP THIS IN MIND. When you walk everywhere with a hot women, you sure will get alot of attention from other women as well. SO Just enjoy it Nothing else to add. Edited February 24, 2013 by dchin1985
apple OR orange Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 yeah, she wanted you to do something.... personally i avoid this kind of thing (past posts will back this up), ive been setup before, i really dont want that again, so if it looks to good to be true then it is.... i am very happy missing an opportunity (and i can count at least 5, none of which are sexual, most are work related and would have changed my life drastically to the point most people would tell me to get my head tested). But then I wouldn’t be here now typing on this forum if I changed the decisions… (past lottery numbers etc…)
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