positive things about OLD?

[salparadise]

I feel it's very dangerous that people are now approaching relationships with a consumer mindset. Very dangerous indeed. And we see the results all around. People toss other people in the trash just as they would an old appliance or a worn pair of shoes. Aren't human beings worth more than that?

 

I agree. I really do not like being treated like a commodity, and don't want to think of others that way either. But it's an inherent characteristic of these sites. I try to communicate my human qualities and treat every person with the respect we all would like to be treated with ourselves. Just as in real life, there are huge numbers of people who are not a good match, but also a good number of authentic, caring, honorable people.

 

The trick is separating the wheat from the chaff. I am having a fair amount of success by not being the one to initiate contact and waiting for women to find me. Invariably they will begin by complimenting my writing. The ones that demonstrate that they are articulate, and make the effort to write a few good paragraphs have proven to be worth the effort and the wait. Initiating contact has proven to be a low odds endeavor no matter how much effort I put into it.

 

I think good looking women get so many messages every day that the best way to stand out in their eyes is to look like an evolved, mature prospect who is not chasing! I think of the profile as a filter that will appeal to a certain type of person but not to the masses of women who have that shopping for a deal, consumer mentality.

Edited February 24, 2013 by salparadise

[irc333]

Very VERY good point, Sal Paradise.

 

And I get a kick out of this so-called, Pick-up Artists, advise that puts the burden of the man's role to "Keep her interest"

 

"Oh, you're problem is, you're not keeping her interested" or referring to "interest levels".

 

It's the fact that people , in general, are so spoiled they wind up bored way to easily, and it's some how the man's job to keep her from BEING bored?

 

I don't think so.

 

 

 

I agree. I really do not like being treated like a commodity, and don't want to think of others that way either. But it's an inherent characteristic of these sites. I try to communicate my human qualities and treat every person with the respect we all would like to be treated with ourselves. Just as in real life, there are huge numbers of people who are not a good match, but also a good number of authentic, caring, honorable people.

 

The trick is separating the wheat from the chaff. I am having a fair amount of success by not being the one to initiate contact and waiting for women to find me. Invariably they will begin by complimenting my writing. The ones that demonstrate that they are articulate, and make the effort to write a few good paragraphs have proven to be worth the effort and the wait. Initiating contact has proven to be a low odds endeavor no matter how much effort I put into it.

 

I think good looking women get so many messages every day that the best way to stand out in their eyes is to look like an evolved, mature prospect who is not chasing! I think of the profile as a filter that will appeal to a certain type of person but not to the masses of women who have that shopping for a deal, consumer mentality.