KatZee Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I've been using Plenty of Fish on and off...Having looked into a few other free ones i think it is definitely the flagship site. If you're looking for purely hook ups, you're right. No one browses or meets guys/girls on PoF if they're looking for long-term serious commitment. PoF is more like the joke of OLD. Players, cheats... of course all sites have this but some more than others, and PoF is definitely the "some more than others" category. OKCupid is also free and I think that site holds slightly more weight than PoF. I think those looking for substance should suck it up and try the paid sites for a few months to see how they like it.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 My favorite thing about OLD is that I don't have to pay or my own meals anymore. JOKING
Woggle Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Nothing. Never met a quality person that way and the few times I tried it were complete trainwrecks.
Casablanca Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 If you're looking for purely hook ups, you're right. No one browses or meets guys/girls on PoF if they're looking for long-term serious commitment. PoF is more like the joke of OLD. Players, cheats... of course all sites have this but some more than others, and PoF is definitely the "some more than others" category. OKCupid is also free and I think that site holds slightly more weight than PoF. I think those looking for substance should suck it up and try the paid sites for a few months to see how they like it. I agree....I looked at the locals on both okcupid and PoF and was not impressed, PoF had a few that caught my eye, but I didn't get a response other than a two or three who wrote back, but never replied to my reply On match there have been a ton of women that have caught my eye in less than two months, I've gone out on dates with 5 different women...two I wasn't interested in, 1 wasn't interested in me, and another I think was mutual that there wasn't attraction and another that I've had a couple dates with and it looks promising so far.
Green Light Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I think the main plus for me is that there is a 'revolving door' of possible guys...it is like online shopping...i find it fun searching for what i am looking for And here, gentlemen, is why you struggle with OLD! She is the "consumer" and you are the "commodity." Until an OLD site addresses this "problem" then I think we will continue to see men not taking OLD seriously and using it to string women along until they get what they want. After all, why should a commodity aspire to be anything serious, or even good?
Casablanca Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 And here, gentlemen, is why you struggle with OLD! She is the "consumer" and you are the "commodity." Until an OLD site addresses this "problem" then I think we will continue to see men not taking OLD seriously and using it to string women along until they get what they want. After all, why should a commodity aspire to be anything serious, or even good? I'm a man and I don't struggle with it. A woman on an OLD site, at least a pay site, is looking for a relationship, and on the free sites they can specify what they are looking for. In person or online, if a guy makes the approach he has to sell himself to this girl that he is a quality guy worth her time. Women get far more offers then men, so of course they hold more power early on. Having a good attitude is one of the best things a guy can do for himself...at attitude like yours will make things harder for you online or off.
Ladybugz Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 what is old? im tired of all those abbreviations,\
Casablanca Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 what is old? im tired of all those abbreviations,\ OLD = Online Dating
Green Light Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I'm a man and I don't struggle with it. A woman on an OLD site, at least a pay site, is looking for a relationship, and on the free sites they can specify what they are looking for. In person or online, if a guy makes the approach he has to sell himself to this girl that he is a quality guy worth her time. Women get far more offers then men, so of course they hold more power early on. Having a good attitude is one of the best things a guy can do for himself...at attitude like yours will make things harder for you online or off. I don't even do OLD so it's not an issue for me. But my point is that I feel it's very dangerous that people are now approaching relationships with a consumer mindset. Very dangerous indeed. And we see the results all around. People toss other people in the trash just as they would an old appliance or a worn pair of shoes. Aren't human beings worth more than that? Aren't we more than some entry in some online catalog? I guess not.
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 I'm shocked at what some people will essentially tell the general public. Though I guess it's a good thing, because I can weed a bunch of women out, and not even have to talk to them.
Anela Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I'm shocked at what some people will essentially tell the general public. Though I guess it's a good thing, because I can weed a bunch of women out, and not even have to talk to them. What do you mean?
Green Light Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 What do you mean? Yeah, what do you mean?
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 What do you mean? I made a dummy account on okc when I was trying to figure out what site I should start with, and it has a questionnaire (for lack of a better term) section. I find some of the questions shocking and the fact that some people answer them even more shocking. for example: Q: Is exposure to sexuality damaging to the minds of children? A: No Q: Does the idea of flipping a coin to make important life decisions appeal to you? A: Yes Q: Would you ever eat something out of the trash? A: Yes Q: Would you like to receive pain during sex? A: lots & lots Q: Would you have sex with someone you hated? A: Yes Q: How does the idea of being slapped hard in the face during sex make you feel? A: Aroused 2
Green Light Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I made a dummy account on okc when I was trying to figure out what site I should start with, and it has a questionnaire (for lack of a better term) section. I find some of the questions shocking and the fact that some people answer them even more shocking. for example: Q: Is exposure to sexuality damaging to the minds of children? A: No Q: Does the idea of flipping a coin to make important life decisions appeal to you? A: Yes Q: Would you ever eat something out of the trash? A: Yes Q: Would you like to receive pain during sex? A: lots & lots Q: Would you have sex with someone you hated? A: Yes Q: How does the idea of being slapped hard in the face during sex make you feel? A: Aroused Were those someone's actual answers?
Author Lonely Ronin Posted February 23, 2013 Author Posted February 23, 2013 Were those someone's actual answers? They are multiple choice, but yes, those are actual answers of some women in my area.
Casablanca Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 They are multiple choice, but yes, those are actual answers of some women in my area. Different strokes for different folks
sb129 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 And here, gentlemen, is why you struggle with OLD! She is the "consumer" and you are the "commodity." Until an OLD site addresses this "problem" then I think we will continue to see men not taking OLD seriously and using it to string women along until they get what they want. After all, why should a commodity aspire to be anything serious, or even good? I think it runs both ways. I made a dummy account on okc when I was trying to figure out what site I should start with, and it has a questionnaire (for lack of a better term) section. I find some of the questions shocking and the fact that some people answer them even more shocking. for example: Q: Is exposure to sexuality damaging to the minds of children? A: No Q: Does the idea of flipping a coin to make important life decisions appeal to you? A: Yes Q: Would you ever eat something out of the trash? A: Yes Q: Would you like to receive pain during sex? A: lots & lots Q: Would you have sex with someone you hated? A: Yes Q: How does the idea of being slapped hard in the face during sex make you feel? A: Aroused Well, thats one way of sorting the wheat from the chaff...
FitChick Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Q: Would you ever eat something out of the trash? A: Yes Clearly a
Anela Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 I made a dummy account on okc when I was trying to figure out what site I should start with, and it has a questionnaire (for lack of a better term) section. I find some of the questions shocking and the fact that some people answer them even more shocking. for example: Q: Is exposure to sexuality damaging to the minds of children? A: No Q: Does the idea of flipping a coin to make important life decisions appeal to you? A: Yes Q: Would you ever eat something out of the trash? A: Yes Q: Would you like to receive pain during sex? A: lots & lots Q: Would you have sex with someone you hated? A: Yes Q: How does the idea of being slapped hard in the face during sex make you feel? A: Aroused Oh, those... one of the WTF? questions I came across was something about someone's partner chewing their food for them. (?????) Luckily, I didn't come across anyone who thought that was a good idea.
apple OR orange Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 define old??? personally, you get the position to speak your mind and other not tell you your wrong
sillyanswer Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 I made a dummy account on okc when I was trying to figure out what site I should start with, and it has a questionnaire (for lack of a better term) section. I find some of the questions shocking and the fact that some people answer them even more shocking. Most of the questions are submitted by members. You don't have to answer them, and you can answer them and keep your answer private if you wish. But to see how somebody else answered the same question you both have to answer it 'publicly'. Given the source of the questions, I'd be more worried that someone found none of the questions weird than that they found some of the questions weird.
irc333 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It's kind of sad it's coming to pass that women aren't wanting to be approached in places like bookstores, grocery stores, gyms, etc, because....well...most simply don't like being approached. I used to strike up conversations with women in public, but they seemed to be rather short with me, they would not be engaging in conversation. One time , I was waiting for my coffee at the bookstore counter, and another woman approached the counter and placed her order....so we were both waiting, and it was pretty quiet at the venue, so I decided to strike up a conversation. She was short with her answers as much as she possibly could be, no smile, would answer briefly hardly ever making eye contact and looking straight at the menu (even though she already placed her order). Some women would be friendly, but would quickly scurry off. Chances are, women like her, prefer the online dating scene, because she's not keen on men approaching her in public. Online, it's a controlled environment...in real life, they're kind of obligated to at least answer.....because there's no "delete" key in real life. "capture audience" you could say. I restored my OKcupid account two years ago, after shooting out of a bookstore when it seemed like two guys were paying me some attention, on the couches where I was reading with my mother. I was out on a rare Monday evening visit to the store, and felt so nervous, that I followed my mother when she got up. She jokingly said to me, "How are you ever going to meet anyone, if you keep doing that?!" I was hoping I might find the one guy online, but I didn't. I ended up feeling overwhelmed, and worried that the guys who messaged me, wouldn't like me in person, so I gave up - especially after most of the guys I was interested in, weren't interested in me.
RedRobin Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It's kind of sad it's coming to pass that women aren't wanting to be approached in places like bookstores, grocery stores, gyms, etc, because....well...most simply don't like being approached. I used to strike up conversations with women in public, but they seemed to be rather short with me, they would not be engaging in conversation. One time , I was waiting for my coffee at the bookstore counter, and another woman approached the counter and placed her order....so we were both waiting, and it was pretty quiet at the venue, so I decided to strike up a conversation. She was short with her answers as much as she possibly could be, no smile, would answer briefly hardly ever making eye contact and looking straight at the menu (even though she already placed her order). Some women would be friendly, but would quickly scurry off. Chances are, women like her, prefer the online dating scene, because she's not keen on men approaching her in public. Online, it's a controlled environment...in real life, they're kind of obligated to at least answer.....because there's no "delete" key in real life. "capture audience" you could say. I'm very open to chatting with strangers... just not dating them... at least not where I currently live. After agreeing to go on dates with these guys, then quickly finding out they are recovering 'something' (addicts, alcoholics, credit... blah blah) or just players in general... I say NOPE. Even the Meetup groups around here are like that... so no... only people I meet through professional association or established friendships.
irc333 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Oh, those... one of the WTF? questions I came across was something about someone's partner chewing their food for them. (?????) Luckily, I didn't come across anyone who thought that was a good idea. Yeah, and there was this Christian woman that had these questions. One asked if, during the course of sex, if you happened to enjoy slapping your mate across the face" My jaw dropped. LOL. I'm thinking that's NOT what she's looking for in a man, but coming from a Christian woman, I'd think she'd leave all those questions alone.
irc333 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 I'm very open to chatting with strangers... just not dating them... at least not where I currently live. After agreeing to go on dates with these guys, then quickly finding out they are recovering 'something' (addicts, alcoholics, credit... blah blah) or just players in general... I say NOPE. Even the Meetup groups around here are like that... so no... only people I meet through professional association or established friendships. Well, that's cool, at least your open to talking with strangers, guess it doesn't take too long about their substance abuse problems, right? How far long into the conversations do you find this out? There was this one woman I was talking to at a Meetup bonfire event, seemed every joke she made revolved around either teasing me about me choosing to drink a bottled water that evening or some jokes about her own drinking experiences. She was indeed attractive, and quite healthy looking, but a lush. Then I moved on to mingle in other parts of the party, and occasionally she'd see me in passing and say, "IRRCCCCCCCC!!!" what's up, duuude!" I thought she was going to yell "Cowabunga!!" and the turtles would come out with their Ninja weapons. LOL Or this guy...
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