Emissary Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I was pretty nervous today, there's a girl I obviously really like and we had decided to do dinner and a movie tonight, but then we saw that all the movies playing sucked and decided to call the whole thing off. No, actually her grandfather ended up getting diagnosed with lung cancer a couple hours before our date was to begin. I was starting to get really nervous throughout the day as she had gone a few hours without texting me, which believe it or not is a record, excluding before we started getting involved with each other (and sleeping time). Finally she sent me a message containing the bad news. I said I was sorry to hear it and all the standard sympathy lines. There's not much you can say in such a situation without being insincere. I wasn't sure about how she was feeling, so an hour later I dropped a line saying I was thinking of picking her up soon. I added a bit saying I understand if she's not up to it and would rather go out another time. She agreed, saying she just wasn't up for it now, so we left it at that. She apologized a bunch, but I told her it would be selfish of me to expect her to follow through tonight's date, that I lost my Grandpa in similar fashion. She's a really beautiful, nice and smart girl, but she's got a lot of **** to deal with in life, and few people to help her. She's coping well I think, but also admitted in the past to having low self-esteem. I told her that though it might sound insincere as we only recently met, I really do care about her. She said I'm one of the few and that she appreciates it. I wasn't lying when I said it either, I do care. It's possible I've increased my standing with her a bit more, but damn, what a gloomy start to a relationship.
meeji Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 I don't think its bad. She is dealing with her family. Anyone should cancel a date in that situation. Don't worry about it and ask her to let you know when she wants to reschedule. Don't bug her.
shadow15 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 your good dont worry about it. She seems like she likes you and trusts you, cause she told you something very personal about her family. Just give it time, in a couple of days, suggest lunch or something, it will get her away from that atmosphere and you can talk to her about it or different stuff. Dont fret though about not getting that dinner and movie, she was going to go with you but that came up, unless shes the type that makes stuff up at last minute, but i highly doubt that considering thats a horrible and stupid thing to make up. And if she made up something like that, then shes a waste of time anyways.
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