3 mins into the 1st phone conversation and she was already asking me what I had???

[StanMusial]

Somewhere in this thread he pretty much equates asking if someone drives as the same thing as what kind of car they drive

 

Yeah he warped a simple inquiry into something completely out in left field. And then got majorly offended by it. I can't imagine trying to date someone like this. You'd REALLY have to watch what you say. What a fragile ego.

 

 

Well feck me this is a complete waste of time.

 

It could've very well been something like this:

 

OLD girl: Hi, how's it going?

 

PD: OK. What are you up to?

 

OLD girl: I just had dinner. Have you had dinner yet?

 

<CLICK>

 

OLD girl: What in tha... must've lost the signal.

 

PD's thoughts: Have I had dinner? Have I HAD DINNER?? What a beotch!!! Doesn't she know that in this economy that most of us only eat one meal per day???? What does she think I'm rich???? I'm sick of these materialistic beotches!!! RAGE RAGE RAGE DESPAIR

[PhillyDude]

Isn't unemployment down as compared to a couple years ago?

No, more people are out of work. So some of these woman need to realize the world we are currently living in

[PhillyDude]

Well feck me this is a complete waste of time.

 

It could've very well been something like this:

 

OLD girl: Hi, how's it going?

 

PD: OK. What are you up to?

 

OLD girl: I just had dinner. Have you had dinner yet?

 

<CLICK>

 

OLD girl: What in tha... must've lost the signal.

 

PD's thoughts: Have I had dinner? Have I HAD DINNER?? What a beotch!!! Doesn't she know that in this economy that most of us only eat one meal per day???? What does she think I'm rich???? I'm sick of these materialistic beotches!!! RAGE RAGE RAGE DESPAIR

 

 

That's 2 meals a day LOL

[Casablanca]

No, more people are out of work. So some of these woman need to realize the world we are currently living in

Actually, just looked it up, they are down when compared to the last 4 years, so that would be things getting better.

 

I don't know how a girl "realizing" the world we live in has anything to do with small talk about how one gets around a huge city? She was just trying to get to know more about you, not asking you what you make and how much your rent is, etc

[ShannonMI]

Well feck me this is a complete waste of time.

 

It could've very well been something like this:

 

OLD girl: Hi, how's it going?

 

PD: OK. What are you up to?

 

OLD girl: I just had dinner. Have you had dinner yet?

 

<CLICK>

 

OLD girl: What in tha... must've lost the signal.

 

PD's thoughts: Have I had dinner? Have I HAD DINNER?? What a beotch!!! Doesn't she know that in this economy that most of us only eat one meal per day???? What does she think I'm rich???? I'm sick of these materialistic beotches!!! RAGE RAGE RAGE DESPAIR

 

Or that materialistic bitch wants me to TAKE HER OUT TO DINNER!!! Probably to some 5 star restaurant!!! I'm BROKE!!! How dare she!!!!

 

Nothing like taking a simple question and making ridiculous assumptions. Too funny.

[serial muse]

You know, just as an idea, you may want to make a list of things that people shouldn't do/say/think in your presence before dating someone

 

A preliminary list was compiled, at one point, but it's far from exhaustive.

 

And anyway, as johan says, PhillyDude's real problem is his lack of introspection. It's pretty obvious that everything on that list that he doesn't want people to ask about are topics that he's basically just feeling bad about and he can't handle that. Much easier to ask a woman if she's got sexy feet; that way the onus is on her.

[FitChick]

PhillyDude, you need to check if there is a gun "buy back" program in Philadelphia and then turn your gun in. You are constantly shooting yourself in the foot.

[pettie baige]

"Persecutory delusion" is what I would describe this nonsense.

[SmileFace]

Careful, he will get all bent out shape and report you for calling a spade a spade.

Not when he himself knows he is a spade. HA!

[NoLeafClover]

i have a better solution. stop meeting women online so they wont judge you before they meet you

[KatZee]

I was referring to how the economy is as a whole.....high unemployment, rising food prices, rising gas prices, people working 2 jobs to survive

 

So that's why I said I don't want a woman asking me do I drive or live in a house because it's ROUGH OUT HERE

 

Is it really so difficult for you to answer a simple question?

 

No, I don't drive. We live in a city and I get around by train/bus/cab/walk/bike.

 

Any judgment, assumption, etc., that runs through your mind are YOUR THOUGHTS not hers, and not anyone elses. Have you ever gone to a support group? Do you have problems making and sustaining relationships in your life? Friend or otherwise?

 

Stop with the "IT'S ROUGH OUT THERE" in screaming font. The economy has NOTHING to do with your lack of social skill and your ability to speak to people on a normal level. The economy doesn't have any factor in your ability to talk to people and cultivate relationships.

 

You overreacted. Plain and simple. No one here agrees with you that what you did was right, or that what she asked you was wrong. IT WASN'T. The sooner you get over that and the sooner you learn how to take a look at yourself on a deeper level, the better off you're going to be. You may find that things in your life start looking up as well. That includes jobs, and finances.

 

You're going to get no where in life acting like a pouty baby. No one's hiring? Really? I'm pretty sure there are. I'm pretty sure that's how I got a job a year ago, WHEN THE JOB RATE WAS WORSE.

 

You're trying to make excuses for you and your poor behavior. There are NO excuses for it. You should look into a few resources for your issues:

 

The Art of Talking to Anyone: Essential People Skills for Success in Any Situation: Rosalie Maggio: 9780071452298: Amazon.com: Books

 

» How To Make Conversation ? Improve Your Social Skills

 

Self Introspection Skills

 

Learning to Relate to Others - Utilizing Verbal Abilities to Relate to Others

[KatZee]

You are a 37 year old man who never learned to drive. You could have learned that skill over 20 years ago while in high school. The current economy has nothing to do with you not knowing how to drive.

 

I know the OP's history, as he has posted under different names on various websites.

 

So then him not driving has absolutely NOTHING to do with the economy or how bad jobs are or how much money he has. There is a fundamental issue within himself that's just never been addressed.

[PhillyDude]

So then him not driving has absolutely NOTHING to do with the economy or how bad jobs are or how much money he has. There is a fundamental issue within himself that's just never been addressed.

 

 

I have a license and learned how to drive in 2008

[MissLiberty]

So then him not driving has absolutely NOTHING to do with the economy or how bad jobs are or how much money he has. There is a fundamental issue within himself that's just never been addressed.

 

No, it's a cop out. The economy is his umbrella excuse for everything. Mark my words, no matter how bad things get he will never work two jobs.

[ja123]

OP, you could've answered,"Yes I drive, but don't maintain a car at the moment. Everything I need is in walking distance. How about you?"

 

No shame in that.

 

Pretty simple, hunh?

[MissLiberty]

I have a license and learned how to drive in 2008

 

Why didn't you answer the question that way, instead of hanging up the phone? You could offer to rent a car, and take your date away for the weekend. No need to rudely end the conversation.

[PhillyDude]

OP, you could've answered,"Yes I drive, but don't maintain a car at the moment. Everything I need is in walking distance. How about you?"

 

No shame in that.

 

 

 

Pretty simple, hunh?

 

 

I usually say that but it's after a hour or so. Not 3 mins into the conversation

[ja123]

You projected your insecurity onto her question.

 

The question in and of itself is innocuous.

 

You'd no way of knowing that early on if she was materialistic or not.

 

Your hanging up the phone like that reflects badly on you.

 

I hope you find a way to work through your shame. How does holding on to such shame work for you? There's got to be a pay-off for you somewhere. Think ... think deeply.

[TigerCub]

Why didn't you answer the question that way, instead of hanging up the phone? You could offer to rent a car, and take your date away for the weekend. No need to rudely end the conversation.

 

OMG! Your suggestion is going to give PD a stroke!

You want him to spend money Renting a car! AND taking her on a weekend away??!! OMG I really hope his head doesn't explode when he reads this.

 

You must remember the bad economy my friend....

 

I'm just sayin.....

[PhillyDude]

You projected your insecurity onto her question.

 

The question in and of itself is innocuous.

 

You'd no way of knowing that early on if she was materialistic or not.

 

Your hanging up the phone like that reflects badly on you.

 

I hope you find a way to work through your shame. How does holding on to such shame work for you? There's got to be a pay-off for you somewhere. Think ... think deeply.

 

 

I hung up because I was turned off. I am not insecure about anything. If u ask me what I have I will hang up

 

The end

[PhillyDude]

OMG! Your suggestion is going to give PD a stroke!

You want him to spend money Renting a car! AND taking her on a weekend away??!! OMG I really hope his head doesn't explode when he reads this.

 

You must remember the bad economy my friend....

 

I'm just sayin.....

 

 

Bad Economy just means.................I'm extra picky and only will do things for someone who I feel is dating material

 

 

If I was broke I wouldn't be on a dating site. I;m just more picky now in who I meet face to face

[todreaminblue]

A preliminary list was compiled, at one point, but it's far from exhaustive.

 

And anyway, as johan says, PhillyDude's real problem is his lack of introspection. It's pretty obvious that everything on that list that he doesn't want people to ask about are topics that he's basically just feeling bad about and he can't handle that. Much easier to ask a woman if she's got sexy feet; that way the onus is on her.

 

 

i was looking for that word introspection..not in relation to philly......thanks....deb

[TigerCub]

I hung up because I was turned off. I am not insecure about anything. If u ask me what I have I will hang up

 

The end

 

PD, even if her question turned you of, it's simply bad manners to just hang up on someone like that.

 

You could have just said "I find your question offensive and I don't wish to continue talking to you, good bye"

 

You need to learn to use your words rather than just reacting like a child.

[ja123]

OK. So, let's say that it's a turn-off for you to speak to materialistic women.

 

Why the need to hang up?

 

Why not find a kinder alternative to end the conversation?

[Casablanca]

I hung up because I was turned off. I am not insecure about anything. If u ask me what I have I will hang up

 

The end

She just asked you if you drove, didn't ask if you liked your prostate played with...jeeze