3 mins into the 1st phone conversation and she was already asking me what I had???

[Locust]

Go get a college education then or move someplace where there in more full time work.

 

 

It's never a bad thing to get educated. You can go to these vocational schools and get some kind of certification. As me for I went to a community college and got a engineer technician education. Now I'm almost finished with my BS degree. ShannonMI does have a good point. I will admit the economy is not good but its not as bad it was a few years. But most people skills are lacking for today's jobs.

 

PhillyDude, I have had girls ask me what I had I told them the truth. Lot of them ask what I do a for a living. As long you got something going for yourself it should not be a big problem.

[MidwestUSA]

I love cheese fries

 

NOW we're getting somewhere!

[ChatroomHero]

I love cheese fries

 

Keep working hard and maybe they'll promote you and you'll get to make them. Cheese fry cooks own cars.

[Casablanca]

No grown woman should be nervous over the phone. Now face to face I can understand but not when you are in the comfort of your own home

It happens, the first time you talk to someone can cause someone to get nervous, male or female. When dating loses all its excitement and uncertainty then it ceases to have its fun and meaning that it once had. Getting nervous is a good sign, it means you're interested and hope it goes well

[todreaminblue]

No grown woman should be nervous over the phone. Now face to face I can understand but not when you are in the comfort of your own home

 

 

 

nerves are with you no matter where you are, ringing a guy when you are a shy person is the same basically as seeing them in person...... the only thing is, you can cover a blush on a phone. its not as nerve wracking sure, still up there though if the person you are talking to is someone you like....still think you are scared that they are going to hang up so you beat them to it.......deb

[PhillyDude]

It's never a bad thing to get educated. You can go to these vocational schools and get some kind of certification. As me for I went to a community college and got a engineer technician education. Now I'm almost finished with my BS degree. ShannonMI does have a good point. I will admit the economy is not good but its not as bad it was a few years. But most people skills are lacking for today's jobs.

 

PhillyDude, I have had girls ask me what I had I told them the truth. Lot of them ask what I do a for a living. As long you got something going for yourself it should not be a big problem.

 

 

Yeah I was lucky to find a government job 2 months ago and have been thankful everyday since then.

[PhillyDude]

It happens, the first time you talk to someone can cause someone to get nervous, male or female. When dating loses all its excitement and uncertainty then it ceases to have its fun and meaning that it once had. Getting nervous is a good sign, it means you're interested and hope it goes well

 

 

I guess that's why I always hated the first 20 mins of a 1st conversation

[StanMusial]

I met this girl on OKC and we exchanged numbers so we could chat on the phone. She seemed really down to earth and nice from her pics and once we talked on the phone, 3 mins into the conversation she asked

 

"DO YOU DRIVE?

 

 

Of course I had to hang up the phone because that was just flat out ridiculous to ask me what i have in this shaky economy...

 

Did she, or did she not ask you what KIND of car you have?

[Shaun-Dro]

It was like this

 

"Hey how are you

 

Her: "I;m fine and you?

 

"So how are you liking Philly so far?

 

Her: "I;m getting used to it day by day

 

Her: "Do you drive?

 

Me: HANGING UP THE PHONE

 

That's pretty bold of you but I like it. Might've worked better if you went on to brag about the hot car you own, then hung up on her.

[KatZee]

It was like this

 

"Hey how are you

 

Her: "I;m fine and you?

 

"So how are you liking Philly so far?

 

Her: "I;m getting used to it day by day

 

Her: "Do you drive?

 

Me: HANGING UP THE PHONE

 

LOL this is the most ridiculous thread I think I've ever seen on LS.

 

Since she asked how you like Philly so far, I'm assuming you've moved there pretty recently. She asks, "Do you drive?" And you just hang up.

 

You have NO CLUE why she was asking if you drove, for all you know, she was asking if you drove because she knows some pretty awesome Philly spots that need a car to get there.

 

Instead you act like a whiny little immature brat and you slam the phone down.

 

Girl: 1

You: 0

 

She dodged A HUGE bullet if that's the way you respond to people in general. Grow the hell up.

[ShannonMI]

It's never a bad thing to get educated. You can go to these vocational schools and get some kind of certification. As me for I went to a community college and got a engineer technician education. Now I'm almost finished with my BS degree. ShannonMI does have a good point. I will admit the economy is not good but its not as bad it was a few years. But most people skills are lacking for today's jobs.

 

PhillyDude, I have had girls ask me what I had I told them the truth. Lot of them ask what I do a for a living. As long you got something going for yourself it should not be a big problem.

 

Oh OP is college educated and has a full time job . It's the "bad" economy that's to blame.

[johan]

I've seen many of these threads from PhillyDude. I think he has a very skewed perception of reality and finds it nearly impossible to relate to people. He is so easily offended by women he might date, he can barely get a date. He is so easily offended by potential employers, he can't get a job. In the process of describing his situation to people here, he gets into arguments and can't connect with anyone here.

 

It's sometimes amusing and easy to criticize him, but ultimately I think he suffers a lot from his dysfunction and is in dire need of treatment. I think the criticisms come from the fact that he doesn't see himself as abnormal and is not the least bit introspective. People don't understand how he could possibly be so clueless, and think he's just being belligerent on purpose.

[Imported]

Why does she have to know how I get around the city? You see how irrelevant the question was at that point of the convo?

 

She probably didn't get the memo on how to talk to Phillydude. Seems there are a lot of do's and don't s, farther confused with it is fine after 30 minutes, but never before 10 minutes.

 

It is amazing she didn't have a problem with you asking her "So how are you liking Philly so far?"

 

I mean, you asked her that in the first 2 minutes!!!!@@@!!!!! You simply don't ask questions like that in the first few minutes! Total creep alert, you should know better automatically. I mean, it's almost as ridiculous a don't as your not liking being asked if you drive.

 

On the bright side, with all your rules you will probably never find a girl and muck up the gene pool.

[KatZee]

I've seen many of these threads from PhillyDude. I think he has a very skewed perception of reality and finds it nearly impossible to relate to people. He is so easily offended by women he might date, he can barely get a date. He is so easily offended by potential employers, he can't get a job. In the process of describing his situation to people here, he gets into arguments and can't connect with anyone here.

 

It's sometimes amusing and easy to criticize him, but ultimately I think he suffers a lot from his dysfunction and is in dire need of treatment. I think the criticisms come from the fact that he doesn't see himself as abnormal and is not the least bit introspective. People don't understand how he could possibly be so clueless, and think he's just being belligerent on purpose.

 

I only read the first few posts, and then commented. I didn't even need to read this in it's entirety to get this exact same vibe. If he's in such a bad place right now, I'm willing to bet it's completely OP's fault on how he relates to people in the world, how he interacts with people, etc.

[PhillyDude]

Oh OP is college educated and has a full time job . It's the "bad" economy that's to blame.

 

 

I was referring to how the economy is as a whole.....high unemployment, rising food prices, rising gas prices, people working 2 jobs to survive

 

So that's why I said I don't want a woman asking me do I drive or live in a house because it's ROUGH OUT HERE

[ShannonMI]

I was referring to how the economy is as a whole.....high unemployment, rising food prices, rising gas prices, people working 2 jobs to survive

 

So that's why I said I don't want a woman asking me do I drive or live in a house because it's ROUGH OUT HERE

 

It's really not as bad as it was. Especially in a big city. There are a lot more opportunities then there are in small towns, but whatever. Keep blaming the economy and those nervy women who ask such heinous questions.

[KatZee]

I was referring to how the economy is as a whole.....high unemployment, rising food prices, rising gas prices, people working 2 jobs to survive

 

So that's why I said I don't want a woman asking me do I drive or live in a house because it's ROUGH OUT HERE

 

Again, you completely skewed what she said IN YOUR OWN BRAIN. You can't sit here and b.itch about how the economy is so bad and that she was trying to freeload or see if you're worth something. You didn't take the conversation to the 5 minute mark, YOU HAVE NO CLUE WHY SHE ASKED WHAT SHE DID.

 

She most likely was going to give you some really great recommendations. She didn't ask WHAT you drove, or what your salary was, or if you owned a home. It was a simple question.

 

If you can't answer simple questions, stay away from dating. It's no wonder you seem to be failing in this economy because you simply cannot relate to people on that level. It seems you jump to conclusions, make assumptions, jump the gun on anger and being defensive of yourself.

 

Just stop. You don't really have any valid points here.

[StanMusial]

Originally Posted by PhillyDude

I met this girl on OKC and we exchanged numbers so we could chat on the phone. She seemed really down to earth and nice from her pics and once we talked on the phone, 3 mins into the conversation she asked

 

"DO YOU DRIVE?

 

 

Of course I had to hang up the phone because that was just flat out ridiculous to ask me what i have in this shaky economy...

Did she, or did she not ask you what KIND of car you have?

 

 

Which is it? In your original post you quoted her as saying "Do you drive" but then immediately continued with she asked you "what I have".

[Casablanca]

Which is it? In your original post you quoted her as saying "Do you drive" but then immediately continued with she asked you "what I have".

Somewhere in this thread he pretty much equates asking if someone drives as the same thing as what kind of car they drive

[ScreamingTrees]

So let me get this straight... an online dater asked you a question "do you drive" and it offended you and you hung up and came to LS to complain about it.

 

I see you referencing "MEN" a lot in this thread but yet you do not know a single thing about "MEN"

 

#1 Men don't online date

 

I've never online dated, and going by age, I'm technically in-between a youth and "man", but that seems like a pretty ignorant statement to make. Having a penis is what makes a man.

 

I know how you're trying to spin the term "man", but a "man" could still be using online dating. Maybe the "man" is a doctor or in a field that is time consuming and he's searching for a specific type of person. Generalizations are lame, especially when they're not the truth written in stone..

 

The other two aren't as bad, but that's not exclusively a "man" trait, that's just a positive trait that anyone could/should have.

[ShannonMI]

Somewhere in this thread he pretty much equates asking if someone drives as the same thing as what kind of car they drive

 

Yeah he warped a simple inquiry into something completely out in left field. And then got majorly offended by it. I can't imagine trying to date someone like this. You'd REALLY have to watch what you say. What a fragile ego.

[PhillyDude]

It's really not as bad as it was. Especially in a big city. There are a lot more opportunities then there are in small towns, but whatever. Keep blaming the economy and those nervy women who ask such heinous questions.

 

 

How is the economy getting better when

 

1.No Employers are hiring

2. Employers only offering part-time work

3. Food prices are up

4. Gas Prices are up

5. People are still being laid off

[xxoo]

In any decade, it is normal to drive or not drive in Philly. Hence the curiosity about whether you are among the drivers or the non-drivers.

 

The judgment is yours and yours alone.

[Casablanca]

How is the economy getting better when

 

1.No Employers are hiring

2. Employers only offering part-time work

3. Food prices are up

4. Gas Prices are up

5. People are still being laid off

Isn't unemployment down as compared to a couple years ago?

[soccerrprp]

PhillyDude,

 

Take a couple of PT jobs until it really does get better for you. In general, it is getting, better, but for far too many it's not. Different economic and workplace landscape since 2008.

 

But I do have to admit when I read your original post. I was baffled. I'm even more baffled that people have spent so much time regarding this topic.