3 mins into the 1st phone conversation and she was already asking me what I had???

[anne1707]

Maybe you should send these poor women an agenda before the phone call so they know what they are allowed and not allowed to talk about. Or are they supposed to be mind readers?

[PhillyDude]

Where I live, "Do you drive?" Is like asking "Do you breathe?" But I don't think it is some kind of personal question anyway for OP.

 

All I can say is, if you are that poor then you better be really goodlooking or have some low standards to pull AT ALL from online (or IRL). This whole thread makes me suspect that you lie or exaggerate pretty hard on your profile.

 

I'm a member of the working poor like many people I know are.

[ShannonMI]

Because when you ask me do I drive and we only been on the phone 2 mins you don't need to know why because I'm already turned off.

 

Ummm maybe because you live in a big city and she's wondering how you get around. She was probably trying to make conversation. BIG DEAL.

[PhillyDude]

Count me as one more person in agreement that you went way overboard. Where I live, it's actually a sign of wealth not to have a car, and I suspect there are a few very central parts of Philly where that may also be the case.

 

Are you sure it wouldn't have suited you better to give her the benefit of the doubt and take it as a question about your lifestyle, and how the two of you might work from a logistical standpoint? On the other hand, if it was already established that you live within walking distance of each other, or right near connecting public transit points, then I would be more sympathetic to your reaction. However, a rude exit is universally less respectable than a graceful one.

 

This thread is the flip side to another recent one about whether a man should ask a woman's age on a date. It's really interesting to see which posters so blinded by gender that they disagree with this man's reticence to answer the car question, but feel that a is woman justified in withholding her age, or vice versa.

 

Let me see this again. I had no issue with the question just the timing of the question. If we had talked and laughed for 30 or 40 mins and then she asked me that question then I would not have had a issue.

 

By her asking so early on before I had a chance to get a feel for her personality made me just lost interest because of the materialistic vibe

[bolase]

Maybe she wanted to know if you guys could drive to hang out and go on adventures together, especially if you're different ends of town.

 

You have terrible manner and a bad attitude if you think she was somehow judging you. In my view you are not ready to date.

[PhillyDude]

Are you kidding?? Hahahahahaha wow this girl dodged a bullet. Good thing you hung up on her. So asking a simple question like "do you drive" automatically means she's materialistic? I'm guessing you live in Philadelphia?? That's a large city and a lot of people take public transportation. Maybe she was just asking if you had a vehicle. And so what if she was asking. Talk about reading wayyyyyyy too much into one question.

 

 

Wrong, it was too early to discuss meeting face to face so that's not why she was asking.

[PhillyDude]

And why do you keep blaming the economy?? The economy has improved in the last few years. It's not like a person can't get a decent paying job now a days. Give me a break. Like a poster said earlier, you are apparently insecure about being broke and you are taking it out on this poor girl.

 

 

Get a decent paying job? Oh please, all the jobs I see fall into the categories below which is why most people are working TWO JOBS

 

Seasonal Jobs

Part-Time Jobs

Temp Jobs

[PhillyDude]

Are you really this stupid? Who knows why she asked, but if it really went like this;

 

 

 

Maybe it could have gone like this, if instead of hanging up you go:

 

You: "No, I just get around by train, bus and walking." (makes even more sense if you live in a downtown setting)

 

Her: "Me too! I hate driving, it is such a pain. Blah blah blah blah blah. Maybe we should meet each other for drinks, neither of us has to worry about drinking too much for the drive home lol"

 

or

 

Her: "That's cool. I just got a new car and am really excited about it. Maybe I can come pick you up and we can just go for a ride."

 

Who knows how it could have gone, because you are just ridiculous OP. Seriously, you took something that wasn't even the size of an ant hill and made it into an impossible mountain. You suck.

 

 

In this city, when a woman ask that question they want you to say YES.

 

Not sure about any other city

[PhillyDude]

Ummm maybe because you live in a big city and she's wondering how you get around. She was probably trying to make conversation. BIG DEAL.

 

 

That's not how you make conversation

[ShannonMI]

Wrong, it was too early to discuss meeting face to face so that's not why she was asking.

 

Did I say she wanted to meet face to face?? No, I didn't. She was MAKING CONVERSATION because you live in a large city and she was probably wondering how you get around. And you, without any manners whatsoever, hung up on her. So you are broke, bitter and with ZERO manners. Like I said before, this girl dodged a huge bullet.

[StanMusial]

Let me see this again. I had no issue with the question just the timing of the question. If we had talked and laughed for 30 or 40 mins and then she asked me that question then I would not have had a issue.

 

By her asking so early on before I had a chance to get a feel for her personality made me just lost interest because of the materialistic vibe

 

Did she specifically ask what kind of car? I know people who are broke as a joke so they drive a shytty old beater. Big deal. You make yourself out to be completely destitute.

[ShannonMI]

Get a decent paying job? Oh please, all the jobs I see fall into the categories below which is why most people are working TWO JOBS

 

Seasonal Jobs

Part-Time Jobs

Temp Jobs

 

Go get a college education then or move someplace where there in more full time work.

[SmileFace]

I don't talk about meeting until after I get a good vibe during the conversation. It was no need to ask me about driving because we had yet to determine if we liked each other

 

I talk on the phone 2 times and then set up a face to face meeting

How dare she expect that you both will be meeting sooner than later.

[sillyanswer]

We were not on the topic of meeting so why was that important at that point of the conversation?

 

It seems like an obvious topic that would come up on a first phone call, though, so perhaps she was just about to bring that up.

 

Do you drive?

- Yes, of course!

Let's meet in the country!

 

vs

 

Do you drive?

- Not at the moment.

Let's meet in town!

[SmileFace]

It seems like an obvious topic that would come up on a first phone call, though, so perhaps she was just about to bring that up.

 

Do you drive?

- Yes, of course!

Let's meet in the country!

 

vs

 

Do you drive?

- Not at the moment.

Let's meet in town!

 

No obviously by the op's logic she shouldn't even think about meeting this early.

[PhillyDude]

Did I say she wanted to meet face to face?? No, I didn't. She was MAKING CONVERSATION because you live in a large city and she was probably wondering how you get around. And you, without any manners whatsoever, hung up on her. So you are broke, bitter and with ZERO manners. Like I said before, this girl dodged a huge bullet.

 

 

I never said i was broke, I just spend money wisely. And that means treating woman who are not materialistic

 

The End

[PhillyDude]

Go get a college education then or move someplace where there in more full time work.

 

 

Have a degree

 

Work full time

 

Moving in 3 months

 

 

NEXT??

[PhillyDude]

It seems like an obvious topic that would come up on a first phone call, though, so perhaps she was just about to bring that up.

 

Do you drive?

- Yes, of course!

Let's meet in the country!

 

vs

 

Do you drive?

- Not at the moment.

Let's meet in town!

 

 

It can come up but not in the first 3 mins

[ChatroomHero]

Because when you ask me do I drive and we only been on the phone 2 mins you don't need to know why because I'm already turned off.

 

Probably for the best for her, she would probably be turned off by a low rent broke guy that sits around on her couch eating her food all day bitching about not having a job and then refusing to get a job because everything is beneath him.

 

What would you do in this economy any way, ask a woman on a date and then make her pay for everything?

[ChatroomHero]

I never said i was broke, I just spend money wisely. And that means treating woman who are not materialistic

 

The End

 

If you can't afford a car or rent, your ass is broke and you do not spend money wisely.

 

The End.

[MissLiberty]

I'm a member of the working poor like many people I know are.

 

You should launch a website exclusively for the "dating poor." You can surround yourself with a group of people who know better than to ask you such an elitist question like, "do you drive?" Instead you'll hear questions like, "Do you like Ramon noodles?" or "Have you ever taken a date to a soup kitchen?" Call the neighbors, we are having Steakums tonight!

[ShannonMI]

You should launch a website exclusively for the "dating poor." You can surround yourself with a group of people who know better than to ask you such an elitist question like, "do you drive?" Instead you'll hear questions like, "Do you like Ramon noodles?" or "Have you ever taken a date to a soup kitchen?" Call the neighbors, we are having Steakums tonight!

 

Omg love this hahahahahahahaha

[SmileFace]

You should launch a website exclusively for the "dating poor." You can surround yourself with a group of people who know better than to ask you such an elitist question like, "do you drive?" Instead you'll hear questions like, "Do you like Ramon noodles?" or "Have you ever taken a date to a soup kitchen?" Call the neighbors, we are having Steakums tonight!

" I like to workout and my gym membership allows me to bring a friend... who is in?"

[MidwestUSA]

Have a degree

 

Work full time

 

Moving in 3 months

 

 

NEXT??

Okay, I'll bite. Tell me about your personality, your likes and dislikes!

[StanMusial]

You should launch a website exclusively for the "dating poor." You can surround yourself with a group of people who know better than to ask you such an elitist question like, "do you drive?" Instead you'll hear questions like, "Do you like Ramon noodles?" or "Have you ever taken a date to a soup kitchen?" Call the neighbors, we are having Steakums tonight!

 

No women would join.