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I met this girl on OKC and we exchanged numbers so we could chat on the phone. She seemed really down to earth and nice from her pics and once we talked on the phone, 3 mins into the conversation she asked

 

"DO YOU DRIVE?

 

 

Of course I had to hang up the phone because that was just flat out ridiculous to ask me what i have in this shaky economy. I have never been into woman who give off the judgmental and materialistic vibe and I had to end the conversation. She didn't deserve to know why I didn't drive and it was best for me to move on. I am still stunned with all the things going on in this country right now, some woman think it's ok to ask what you have

 

Weak Job market

Bad economy

millions unemployed

people losing homes

rising gas prices

 

 

How bout asking me things about my personality and my likes and dislikes?

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So is this how the conversation went?

 

 

"Hey new online girl how are you doing?"

 

"Do you drive????"

 

or was it in context of something like..

 

"So I just came back from work, **** I hate the long commute!!!"

"Oh do you drive?"

 

 

those are 2 different things, you know...

 

Either way, she asked if you drive, NOT what kind of slick ride you have.

 

You take this **** way too personally.

And yes, it is a bad economy for all people in the States, so does that mean that everyone gave up driving???

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So is this how the conversation went?

 

 

"Hey new online girl how are you doing?"

 

"Do you drive????"

 

or was it in context of something like..

 

"So I just came back from work, **** I hate the long commute!!!"

"Oh do you drive?"

 

 

those are 2 different things, you know...

 

Either way, she asked if you drive, NOT what kind of slick ride you have.

 

You take this **** way too personally.

And yes, it is a bad economy for all people in the States, so does that mean that everyone gave up driving???

 

 

It was like this

 

"Hey how are you

 

Her: "I;m fine and you?

 

"So how are you liking Philly so far?

 

Her: "I;m getting used to it day by day

 

Her: "Do you drive?

 

Me: HANGING UP THE PHONE

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So is this how the conversation went?

 

 

"Hey new online girl how are you doing?"

 

"Do you drive????"

 

or was it in context of something like..

 

"So I just came back from work, **** I hate the long commute!!!"

"Oh do you drive?"

 

 

those are 2 different things, you know...

 

Either way, she asked if you drive, NOT what kind of slick ride you have.

 

You take this **** way too personally.

And yes, it is a bad economy for all people in the States, so does that mean that everyone gave up driving???

 

I feel that in this bad economy woman over 25 should be more understanding and less judgmental of a guy's financial and living situation

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It was like this

 

"Hey how are you

 

Her: "I;m fine and you?

 

"So how are you liking Philly so far?

 

Her: "I;m getting used to it day by day

 

Her: "Do you drive?

 

Me: HANGING UP THE PHONE

 

Hmmm, judgind by that convo, it seems to me that she's new to the city...

Maybe she was gonna suggest that you go with her & show her around her new home town!! OMG what a monster!!! How dare she think of a way for you 2 to meet up!! :mad::p

 

oyi...all you proved was that you've got bad manners.

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I feel that in this bad economy woman over 25 should be more understanding and less judgmental of a guy's financial and living situation

 

 

But she didn't even judge you!!

She was asking a question and you took at as judgement and I think that just shows that you are judging yourself for not having things like a car and whatever else that's eating away at you.

 

All she did was ask a question. You assumed she was going to judge you.

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TigerCub Established Member

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No i hung up on a woman because she asked me what I have

 

A licence to drive?

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But she didn't even judge you!!

She was asking a question and you took at as judgement and I think that just shows that you are judging yourself for not having things like a car and whatever else that's eating away at you.

 

All she did was ask a question. You assumed she was going to judge you.

 

 

Why ask that question that early in the conversation???

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A licence to drive?

 

 

No, she asked me something that was not relevant to the conversation at that time.

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Why ask that question that early in the conversation???

 

Just like I suggested in my other reply, maybe she was going to lead into you showing her around town as a way for you to get together.

 

Honestly PD, I'm not trying to be mean, but most normal guys don't spaz out at a question as simple as "do you drive"?

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So a woman is supposed to have a car to shlep your sorry butt around Mr. Women-Are-So-Shallow-and-Materialistic? Doesn't this woman with her own car live in the same economy you do?

 

 

The point i was making is the girl i met on Thursday never asked me did I drive in the first 2 or 3 conversations, she got to know me as a person and understood I didn't drive because I live in a area where I can walk to work, to the market, to the cleaners, to the mall and other places

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Hmmmm, geee, perhaps she actually wanted to meet you??

 

Duh.

 

 

Wanted to meet me? The conversation had just started

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So has the other girl (the one that has her own car) asked you what you do for a living yet?

 

Just to let you know, it is a common question in the getting to know more about someone process - so.....just be warned that question might come up.

 

Will you just hang up on her for that?

Or if you're with her at the moment, will you just walk off in anger?

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Just like I suggested in my other reply, maybe she was going to lead into you showing her around town as a way for you to get together.

 

Honestly PD, I'm not trying to be mean, but most normal guys don't spaz out at a question as simple as "do you drive"?

 

 

I used to get that question all the time a few years ago and the fact that it was asked so early made her seem like she is all about what I have.

 

The next questions would have probably been.......

 

"Do you live along?

In a House or a APT?

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So has the other girl (the one that has her own car) asked you what you do for a living yet?

 

Just to let you know, it is a common question in the getting to know more about someone process - so.....just be warned that question might come up.

 

Will you just hang up on her for that?

Or if you're with her at the moment, will you just walk off in anger?

 

 

 

She did eventually but before that we actually chatted and had a light conversation on the phone that lead to laughter.

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I used to get that question all the time a few years ago and the fact that it was asked so early made her seem like she is all about what I have.

 

The next questions would have probably been.......

 

"Do you live along?

In a House or a APT?

 

I think those are just getting to know someone questions.

That's all.

 

I doubt she's planning to take you for all you've got.

 

When I dated, I got asked what I did for a living, where about do I live, is it a house or apt, do I have pets, where did I go to university, etc...

Those are just interest questions without much motive to them other than getting to know more about the person.

 

You blow it way out of proportion, and assume someone is a gold digger or is judgmental, etc...

 

 

You're way too sensitive about those things, because I think you're insecure about those things.

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Guess what... that's the point of having the conversation for most normal people. When you call a woman after you get her info off of a dating site, it's generally to set up a time to get together and meet face to face. Assuming you're older than twelve, there's no other real reason to chit chat after you've read one another's profiles and communicated online. What the heck did you think the phone call was for?

 

I swear you did the girl a favor...

 

 

The phone call was for me to chat for 45 mins to an hour and then set up a date the following week

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I think those are just getting to know someone questions.

That's all.

 

I doubt she's planning to take you for all you've got.

 

When I dated, I got asked what I did for a living, where about do I live, is it a house or apt, do I have pets, where did I go to university, etc...

Those are just interest questions without much motive to them other than getting to know more about the person.

 

You blow it way out of proportion, and assume someone is a gold digger or is judgmental, etc...

 

 

 

You're way too sensitive about those things, because I think you're insecure about those things.

 

 

A woman asking me do I live in a house or a APT is grounds for terminating a phone conversation because as long as I don't live with my mom and live alone, it shouldn't matter.

 

I will be moving into a studio apt in a few months to save money for a car, so I guess some woman will be turned off but I can care less

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I'm willing to bet that I've been on A LOT more dates than you, so lets not get confuse the way you work with the way normal folks do. The fact is that for most normal adults, that first call is not a "get-to-know-you". The first face-to-face meeting is, especially in cases where you find one another online and the preliminary legwork is done. The phone is a tool to make the first meeting happen. Unless you happen to be living far away from each other, there's really no reason that the first phone call should be anything more than confirmation and an arrangement to meet.

 

 

Well I guess some people are different because I need to see if I can laugh with a female before I leave this apartment and meet her face to face

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From what I have read, I really think that the poor woman just wants to know so maybe the dude can show her around. It's not "Do you own a car? what type of car?"

 

poor woman. *smh*

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Uh-oh. Another thing to worry about. Who knew that "do you drive?" could be such a horrible breach of etiquette.

 

When I read the thread title about asking what he had, I thought it might pertain to a sexually transmitted disease!

 

Driving is not "having" anything, for the record.

 

OP - do you have a social life outside of your contact with women via the Internet?

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What is this nonsense?? I text and/or talk on the phone and arrange dates...and I'm a hell of a lot older than you!

 

 

I thought anyone over 35 had no problem chatting on the phone

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The point i was making is the girl i met on Thursday never asked me did I drive in the first 2 or 3 conversations, she got to know me as a person and understood I didn't drive because I live in a area where I can walk to work, to the market, to the cleaners, to the mall and other places

 

So, tell the other woman you hung up on that instead of hanging up on her. You just had a PANIC attack my friend!

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They don't, but they generally know what it's for as well.

 

 

I know what's it for too

 

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