How do you choose the right woman to approach?

[Necris]

Today I was at a restaurant eating by myself as usual, feeling bored I observed the people there, and I noticed how similar some of the couples were to one another in terms of looks/physical personality (nerdy blonde guy with nerdy looking blonde girl, etc.) Also thinking back I noticed most of the people I've met who were in long-term relationships were very much similar to each other, for example guys often complain about women going after "bad guys" and not nice guys but those same women going after the bad guys are generally pretty bad themselves and they actually make a pretty good match.

 

Anyway this brings me to my next point I think one of the major problems people have in trying to actually get a date is approaching the right woman.The guys who are successful must have some way of knowing who to approach and who not to approach, now I know some basics but I still have 100% rejection I can't seem to ever approach any woman that will be attracted to me and I don't know why, what's the secret?

 

Also do you ever find it extremely difficult to find someone similar to yourself? Like similar personality, interests, intellectual ability, etc.

[Apolodor]

I think they even made some experiments and discovered that if two people share a considerable amount of time together they will start sharing some physical features. My parents once had a neighbour whose wife died years later. He bought a dog after that and I remember that I visited my parents and I met this chap with his dog; I was shocked how much alike they were physically (I don't think he was intimate with the dog, though!)

[Necris]

I think they even made some experiments and discovered that if two people share a considerable amount of time together they will start sharing some physical features. My parents once had a neighbour whose wife died years later. He bought a dog after that and I remember that I visited my parents and I met this chap with his dog; I was shocked how much alike they were physically (I don't think he was intimate with the dog, though!)

 

Okay... but how is that related to the topic at hand at all?

[AD1980]

Unless youre a good looking dude who gets non verbal clues like eye contact smiles etc theyres no fool proof plan

 

You just have to approach a women you think is attractive and hope for the best

 

I patiently wait for subtle signs from a women that she might be interested but it never happens

[iKING]

I think they even made some experiments and discovered that if two people share a considerable amount of time together they will start sharing some physical features. My parents once had a neighbour whose wife died years later. He bought a dog after that and I remember that I visited my parents and I met this chap with his dog; I was shocked how much alike they were physically (I don't think he was intimate with the dog, though!)

 

Instant de-rail.

 

There has to be some level of intellectual connection. Otherwise things are going to get boring. As for physical similarity, that seems more like personal preferences. Personally I don't feel as though a physical similarity is crucial to the longevity of a relationship, more of a coincidental observation. Perhaps we tend to look for those most similar to ourselves in every respect. That makes us look rather narcissistic.

[Weezy1973]

For me, the key is to get to know them before asking them out. And try (it's difficult) not to think about looks alone. Some women you'll click with - you'll share the same sense of humor, similar interests, similar values etc. Those are the ones you ask out.

[Necris]

Unless youre a good looking dude who gets non verbal clues like eye contact smiles etc theyres no fool proof plan

 

You just have to approach a women you think is attractive and hope for the best

 

This is what I normally do, but with a 100% rejection rate I must be doing something horribly, horribly wrong.

 

Unfortunately like you I also don't get any IOIs so I'm just wondering what to do.