OneNote Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Why do we do crazy things after being dumped? Cry, beg, plead, Facebook stalking, waiting day and night for a call or text. Iv been doing things I never thought I would. I feel so desperate whilst knowing deep down my ex isn't worth it or is never coming back. So why can't I just move on?
Sososad Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 It's all emotions I think like your flooded with them , your hurt ,angry ,sorry everything all rolled into one and then you get the fear/shock that there gone and u alone ..it's very tough time. .. I think no contact for this initial breakup is truly amazing cause if anything it saves your dignity . Don't be hard on yourself to much you panicked and you made a ass out of yourself it happens us all... Hope ur ok
FailedFirstLove Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Being dumped is a horrible feeling. Alot of the times unexpected.... It's the initial shock that makes us think OMG their leaving for real now. And the reaction would be to do anything that first comes to kind to keep them there. of course it doesn't help but it's what we do. Like wen we fall we tend to put our arms out hoping to catch the fall but only to break our arms. in denial just happens naturally. If we've been with that person for so long we tend to not accept the fact that they would leave and we will never be with them again. so we tend to hope and hope they wud come bak. We don't start the healing process early on so it takes us months to get to that point. Most of us would continue to try get them back because we want what we once had and te comfort of someone there for us. It really sucks but I think once we make it through it will make you a mch stronger person.
Author OneNote Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah your right I have so many emotions going on I don't know how to handle it! I made a total ass out of myself and have now been no contact for 3 weeks but still finding it so hard. 1
GingerVixen Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yes we do crazy stuff because being heartbroken is definitely not the greatest feeling... But remember, ALWAYS GO NC. NEVER BREAK NC, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. I'm the living example that you should never break NC... I've broken it five times and it only hurt me more and made it much longer for me to recover from that horrible relationship... NC IS ALWAYS THE BEST ATTITUDE. 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Because love causes chemical reactions in the brain and the brain becomes addicted. These are withdrawal symptoms...the brain is asking for more and the body is tryig ti get.more but can't. NC is the way to go cold turkey. LC will.always make you ask for more. 1
marklarsson Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 As I have mentioned somewhere before its always about what state of mind and in check of your emotions you were in before the break up. The few times I have been dumped, I have always seen it coming before because I was intune with how my ex's were seeing things and I could most of the time see when they wanted out concerning things I could not change thier mind about so there was no crazy stuff after. But other times when it catches you off guards that's when the crazy kick in. You think begging will work cause you thought the one you knew will take you back if you begged etc... You forget or don't see the fact that they have changed
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