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Ok so iv been broken up 3 months and did all the usual crying, begging ect then finally decided to go strict nc and have kept it for almost 3 weeks to try and move on and heal. My question is does nc take away the power away from the dumper?

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No.

 

It gives you yours back.

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One Note - From what I've read and (on reflection) from my own past experience, NC gives you back your equilibrium/confidence, strength and power so that if you do have a mind game playing dumper/ex you can say literally or symbolically:

 

"I'm not going to play your games any more, I won't feed your vanity/insecurity or assuage your guilt. I have control of my life and you have no power over me!"

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So true I feel I walked away with some dignity. I pretty much gave myself some respect back even if deep down inside I feel like crap. The dumper is none the wiser to how you truly feel.

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They then can't lie and feed you breadcrumbs. NC- means not being used for sex.

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