Sanctionne Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Long story short. I had been dating someone that has major jealousy issues and only believes the stories he makes up in his head and is now saying things about me that are NOT true and making me out to be some monster. He & I had been friends for roughly 6 yrs. I always thought he was different and one of the last good guys left. I thought that we would be great together since we had both liked each other for yrs. We have a lot of mutual friends and frequent the same places. I broke things off 3 times. The 1st time was because he was accusing me of trying to F a mutual friend because this friend was giving me a program I had been wanting for my photo editing. But I gave it another go, no one is perfect and he said he was sorry. But he did it again, so I broke it off a 2nd time. The 3rd time was because I just wasn't really happy. But we cont to talk. Trying to understand each other more in order to have a good relationship. Wed he did it again. I had bought him a ticket to a concert that I was going to because he really wanted to go, but couldn't afford it. The day before the event he posted via FB how he wished he could go. (after I had already told him that I got him a ticket) The day of I asked him if he was going. 1st he ignored me, then said yes, then said no. So when a mutual friend invited me out for that evening I offered the ticket to him. When the guy found out once again he exploded and made accusations of me wanting to F his friend. Again, we have a lot of mutual friends and frequent the same places. I'm NOT this person he is making me out to be and hate that he is speaking so ill of me. I'm not perfect and feel that I had good reason to break it off the times that I did. And by giving the ticket away is on him, he said NO. But refused to admit to saying no, even refused to read his own msg saying no that I had sent to him. Should I just say nothing and let ppl think what they want or use all of the info I have to do damage control?
Amelie1980 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Is there a chance your.mutual friends know.what he.is like?
Kengne Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I think you need to spend less time worrying about what people/mutual friends are going to think (if they know YOU & YOUR CHARACTER they should be able to see through his twisted version of events)... and spend more time understanding why you are still in contact with your ex, after breaking it off 3 times due to his jealousy/insecurity and last your unhappiness. If he is showing you - now that you are "just friends" - that he hasn't changed, why are you still talking to him? If you want to preserve the friendship you guys had BEFORE DATING - that's fine, but first both of you need to give each other breathing room to heal/move on so that no romantic feelings are involved, as there are now. If you are still pining to be with him in a bf/gf relationship then you have two choices - ACCEPT HIM AS HE IS, FLAWS & ALL - and just be with him. OR, ACCEPT HIM AS HE IS, FLAWS & ALL, and let him go on with his life in the Universe and you do you. WHAT WILL NOT HAPPEN - is that he will CHANGE just because YOU want him to. You cannot make him change the way he is. He has to do that, HIMSELF. Stop carrying his emotional baggage ur not a flight attendant. Let that dude go! K.
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