tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I have posted on her a bit ago. Quick story is she left me (about a month ago) for what it sounds like G.I.G. syndrome and she is dating someone new. Well I went into NC and today is day 22 and doing better (even starting getting out there and trying to date (not really successful yet but helps) but just got general text from her today. "Hey I hope u r doing Good!" Is that breadcrumbs or something like? and NC means NC right or is it? But my question I need help with is...should I reply back? If so should it be general like "I'm fine"? I know it is a stupid question but would love your insight on this...Thanks!
calgary Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 do you want her back or are you trying to move on ?
Chi townD Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Total breadcrumbs dude. She wants to friend zone you. Stay NC. 1
Author tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Good Point...I guess I should really stick with NC. I do want to move on due to the situation and wanting to improve myself not based on her. But a part of me would take her back if the situation arose and she was willing to work back in.
Author tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 yeah Chi that is probably the best explaination no matter how i try to spin it. Thanks
Chi townD Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah, nothing in that text screams "I'm sorry. I was wrong. I need you back". What it did tell me was, "Hey! What's up dude! You probably already heard that I'm with someone else just 30 days after our breakup. But, no hard feelings, right? I just need to see if you hate me or not."
Amelie1980 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 You can do whatever you like.....the question is what do you want it to achieve.
destroyed4sho Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah, nothing in that text screams "I'm sorry. I was wrong. I need you back". What it did tell me was, "Hey! What's up dude! You probably already heard that I'm with someone else just 30 days after our breakup. But, no hard feelings, right? I just need to see if you hate me or not." Yep, chi is right. A guilt breadcrumb in hopes of friend zoning you too...nice how she is trying to kill 2 birds with 1 stone. The text does not ask you to respond to anything anyway, so there is nothing to write back. There is NO reason for you to text back that I can see. 2
jagdude14 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 As much as I want a text at least saying that from my ex...... Do not respond until she offers you something worth responding to. That is serious breadcrumbs man!!!!!!!!!! 1
mishy Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Well it seems maybe the grass that was greener might now be browner? If you reply she will ignore, I guarantee it 1
purplereigncb Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I want that text, but now I see it wont help.
jagdude14 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Let me ask you a question what do you think happens if you ignore it? She gives up after 1 lame try? No she will try harder and harder each time while she starts to realize she might lose you unless she tosses in her cards and lays it out for you. That is when you reply. The right move is to not reply. It is not a game it is protecting yourself from the garbage she is tossing on your wall to see what sticks. Be strong. I want that text so bad though. 1
Author tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah, nothing in that text screams "I'm sorry. I was wrong. I need you back". What it did tell me was, "Hey! What's up dude! You probably already heard that I'm with someone else just 30 days after our breakup. But, no hard feelings, right? I just need to see if you hate me or not." That is so true Chi! actually it was about 2 weeks (2 weeks after we broke up we were still seeing each other everyday after break up then it stopped and I found out why). But yeah trying to releave some guilt on her part i bet!
Author tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Thanks everyone! I think I was just trying to spin it so I had an excuse to reply. For sure if I text back she will be like, cool he is not mad and I can go ahead and releave my guilt. And your right she would not respond! I know some of you said you want that type of text from your Girl but trust me it just set me back a little (obvious from my post) but I am going to stay strong!
Derpderpleton Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 She's trying to make herself feel better about leaving you and immediately jumping into a new relationship. Although it's tempting to reply, stay NC. You're better off. 1
jagdude14 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Thanks everyone! I think I was just trying to spin it so I had an excuse to reply. For sure if I text back she will be like, cool he is not mad and I can go ahead and releave my guilt. And your right she would not respond! I know some of you said you want that type of text from your Girl but trust me it just set me back a little (obvious from my post) but I am going to stay strong! Why would it set you back? You just put your big boy pants on and did not respond to the person who hurt you. That my friend is power and self respect!
Author tvball11 Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Why would it set you back? You just put your big boy pants on and did not respond to the person who hurt you. That my friend is power and self respect! Yeah true... I just meant more I have been moving on better and not thinking about her as much, finally not expecting any text, email, or call from her (Up until about a week ago I looked at my phone every morning expecting something). But yup not gonna respond! Thanks. 1
Recommended Posts