Chloe1980 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 How do you deal with your sexuality after the breakup? Do you still feel desire? Do you think of him/her when you masturbate? I'd like to know how to deal with this part of the breakup. I feel an enormous urge to feel him again
adelia Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Every person is different From my experience I felt no desire of any type after my break up. Just an emptiness. I don't feel that way towards my ex now. I care and wonder but nothing physical. 1
Bando89 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 If I think too much about it, I miss it. Sex was so good...but it's like missing the walks together, etc. They're gone
H3Drvr Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I have a true FWB relationship with one particular girl-friend and we've known each other for about 4 years now. She initially caught feelings for me but we talked it out and both agreed that we make better F-buddies then bf/gf. So as long as neither of us are in a serious RS...we call each other up to work our "frustrations" out on each other. I have no emotional attachment to her and we both have some mind blowing sessions! Maybe because she's Asian and I really don't like Asians...I joke and say I'm afraid I might be date my cousin or something lol Last time she called me, she had just broken up with her bf and since I was single at the time...game on! No cuddling, no pillow talk, just straight out bump and grind. Unfortunately, since I broke up with my ex, she turned me down since she's in an RS...which I respect. I really don't want to start anything new with anyone right now so I have turned to porn. I usually start with porn but end up fantasizing about my ex. After I'm done, oddly, I don't miss her as much...maybe it's a guy thing. But I'm getting tired of the porn/fantasy thing. Need some real human touch! And tonight...going out on a party bus with some sorority girls so we shall see. i feel like im in another "slut" phase like I was when i met my ex lol
geegirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 How do you deal with your sexuality after the breakup? Do you still feel desire? Do you think of him/her when you masturbate? I'd like to know how to deal with this part of the breakup. I feel an enormous urge to feel him again I couldn't fathom being with anyone, even the thought of another man touching me made me sick. Plus the sense of idealizing him, his body, his voice, his smell, etc. made it so difficult to be able too cast any man in a positive or attractive light. When I would masturbate, I would imagine him. But after the high, I would feel worse and cry because it only reinforced the fact that I could never have that with him again. So I stopped. It's something you just have to go through. I would stay away from it for awhile because that too can be a painful trigger. It's normal to want to feel him again. Unfortunately, it's part of the pains of going through a break-up.
mcdo Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 For the first month I had absolutely no sexual desire of any way, shape or form. I had no enthusiasm for ANYTHING, never mind sex. But it passed. And after that first month I had a "browse" online. I "browsed" online a few times a week but it wasn't at all satisfying. So I stopped that. But at least when I was looking online I wasn't thinking about my ex. Now I'm completely open to intimacy again. If the right girl is making moves I'm going to gladly accept!
Sari Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 This is one of the hardest things about my BU. Because we were only together for 6 months, the sex never had a chance to go downhill or even become a bit samey. It was great, perfect. And now every feeling or urge I get is totally synonymous with my ex. It breaks me all over again every time. What makes it 10 times worse is that he slept with me just a couple of hours before he dumped me. So now I have all the lovely memories plus a big fat slap in the face from being used.
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