Should I be concerned? Bf lost his virginity to me

[crystal.mayer]

My bf lost his virginity to me last night. He's 19 and I'm 23, he was saving it for marriage but decided to give it to me. We've been together for a year and a half. Afterward, he was freaking out!!. It was weird, and it sort of ruined the moment. He was saying things like "I feel dizzy", "You don't have anything like STDS right" (which is the dumbest question ever for that moment, we've done other sexual things before), he didn't want me to touch him, he didn't kiss me goodbye. It was the weirdest after sex ever. I didn't know what to do or how to react. I just tried my best to clam him down but he seemed so dazed. After he left he told me he was happy and he said I love you but I'm a little worried about why he acted that way. Guys usually don't really get that way about it. Sounds stupid but I wanted to make it special for him because I know it means something for him. I don't want him to regret it.

[Emilia]

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Do you find that he has intimacy issues of any kind sometimes?

[crystal.mayer]

Emilia, he's usually really good with intimacy which is why this is even more shocking to me. He's always been more open than I am emotionally and intimately.

[Emilia]

Then just give him a little time. It seems you have a loving relationship. Maybe the intensity freaked him out a little. You have to admit full sex is pretty intense

[crystal.mayer]

I think you maybe right, he probably is a freaked out over the intensity. I guess me not being a first timer at it, I didn't really think of how intense it was for me my first time (duhhh). Thanks!