OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I value your feedback, so thanks in advance.Since dumping my gf on boxing day out of pure paranoia I have been in deep regret. After initially asking her to come back I have collected my thoughts and have consulted much advice on the subject. This girl means everything to me and I must change in order to accomodate her. I have trust and control issues that I believe I'm working on. Since the split we have been intimate and seen each other several times, had constant contact etc. Last weekend she sent me a link for a house that she wanted stating in the long run would be ours. She has asked me out on valentines and stated that I should join her and family on a pre-booked vacation in may. I met with her on thurs and she started to cry as soon as we went out, saying that I didn't care about her. At the end of the night I told her that I wanted her back (by text). So we met on valentines day, had a lovely night at a very expensive restaurant. Then Sunday she came over in the morning and then again in the evening. I ditched my friends for her and we lay in bed together watching a movie until I said thias wasn't working and that I needed to go no contact as I felt so much for her. Anyway this produced some results, she started crying and immediately said that we should get back even though she wasn't fully healed as she didnt want to lose me. I said no as I dont want to control the situation. Anyway she admitted many things: - That she loved me and didnt want anyone else - Said she was feeling really down and needed tobe herself and once she was then she would come back - That she needed to rely on herself instead of me, and that she relied on me to make her happy during the relationship. That she wanted to be with me all the time. Anyway after this we had mind blowing sex and then I said I want to marry you some day, she cried and told me she wants that. She also said that she would come to counselling and follow me to australia. I know she has been to counselling before and the family have issues with depression. She has also done this to a bf before, taking 6 months out until they got back. Her mum has told me to be patient. 1) What is going on with this young lady, is she messing me? 2) I want her back but how long should I wait? Really need help here folks.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 1) What is going on with this young lady, is she messing me? 2) I want her back but how long should I wait? For #1, I think you have it backwards, your messing with her: Since dumping my gf on boxing day out of pure paranoia...So we met on valentines day...until I said thias wasn't working and that I needed to go no contact...we had mind blowing sex and then I said I want to marry you some day For question #2, I would say wait 15 minutes, because by that time your mind will change again and you will no longer want her.
Lillygoose Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 OMG, I must of read this post about twenty times. You are the one confused here not her. Infact, I feel for her right now. You dumped her on boxing day, she took you back. Then you hurt her YET AGAIN saying it wasn't working. AND SHE STILL WANTS TO BE WITH YOU? Do you not realize what your doing to her, by being intimate and then saying you dont think it is working. Keep no contact. UNTIL you decide for good what you want. And dont change your mind this time.
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