gravi1 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I am now convinced that no contact is a good place to start over. I was in a state for a while where I would constantly text my ex, (yes ex,I was not even ready to call her that). I would text her a variety of messages, sad ones, swearing, why-why-why's etc. I would go to her and pour out my heart sobbing, tel her how much I love her and that she did me wrong, she would make me lay in her lab and you know what follows. But I was still very hurt dissapointed, frustrated and angry. I asked her questions over and over, why she did it, how many times she has been with him etc. She is welcoming because the other guy seemingly used and droped her. I had hopes that all will be well again. This is never true. I just become more angrier and hurt, what she says or does will never satisfy me or make things right or go away.Its like chasing a ghost. I decided to cut contact, it is a week (6) days now and I feel much better. I still have flashbacks that make my heart race and sweat, I become jealous and angry, I feel like texting her and ofloading some deep analysis of everythng demonic and heasrtless she is, but I have decided and I will stick to it.It gives me a another perspective of what truly I was in and its not good or healthy for me or her.
marklarsson Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I am now convinced that no contact is a good place to start over. I was in a state for a while where I would constantly text my ex, (yes ex,I was not even ready to call her that). I would text her a variety of messages, sad ones, swearing, why-why-why's etc. I would go to her and pour out my heart sobbing, tel her how much I love her and that she did me wrong, . you couldnt keep doing this NO contact was the correct thing to do. you have to get your MOJO back. plus constantly doing that would have made you look more and more unattractive to her. the quicker you get your mojo back the better.
Lillygoose Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Hey!! Im only 3 days into this whole NC thing, and we where together 5 years odd. Im hoping Like in your situation this will do me good, because right now It doesn't feel like its doing any good. Im running out of things to take my mind off him. xx
Author gravi1 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 I never in the life of me could imagine that just ignoring someone you love could be such hard and exhousting work. Just everything counts in the process. Its so sad that someone you love can cause such heartache to you and you have to go through such a cumbersome process to try and mend. I think the ideals of NC are very good in the long run, the rule and condition is very simple and therefore very tough-just focus on ignoring whatever happens, just make sure anything you do or think doesnt become an obsession.
hockeyfan99 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Hey!! Im only 3 days into this whole NC thing, and we where together 5 years odd. Im hoping Like in your situation this will do me good, because right now It doesn't feel like its doing any good. Im running out of things to take my mind off him. xx hang in there. i'm in your shoes to and i feel your pain. i believe that it will get better down the road. for me, the hard thing is that i can't see THAT light at the end of the tunnel. as for doing things to take your mind off him, i know EXACTLY how you feel. my family has been trying to help me out so much by hanging out with me more and more to help take my mind off everything. but its so hard for me to sit still. i went to my brother's house to hang out and i was SO caught up in my problems that all i wanted to do was go home and watch tv alone. i know thats not the right thing to do but i go crazy when i don't feel like being somewhere ESP right now. you know what i did yesterday to get my mind off it???........i got a freaking pedicure!!! go ahead laugh all you want. lol but i remember getting one and how relaxed it made me feel so i was all over that when i got home from work. lol its helped. but hang in there. i'm sure its hard after being with someone for 5 years and then all the sudden not talking to them. people describe it like a drug addiction. at first i laughed cause it didn't make any sense. but boy were they right!! i'm in total ex withdrawl right now. so i feel your pain. chat it up with me if you would like. 1
jumbojet123 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 hang in there. i'm in your shoes to and i feel your pain. i believe that it will get better down the road. for me, the hard thing is that i can't see THAT light at the end of the tunnel. as for doing things to take your mind off him, i know EXACTLY how you feel. my family has been trying to help me out so much by hanging out with me more and more to help take my mind off everything. but its so hard for me to sit still. i went to my brother's house to hang out and i was SO caught up in my problems that all i wanted to do was go home and watch tv alone. i know thats not the right thing to do but i go crazy when i don't feel like being somewhere ESP right now. you know what i did yesterday to get my mind off it???........i got a freaking pedicure!!! go ahead laugh all you want. lol but i remember getting one and how relaxed it made me feel so i was all over that when i got home from work. lol its helped. but hang in there. i'm sure its hard after being with someone for 5 years and then all the sudden not talking to them. people describe it like a drug addiction. at first i laughed cause it didn't make any sense. but boy were they right!! i'm in total ex withdrawl right now. so i feel your pain. chat it up with me if you would like. I know how you feel..I wish I could shut my brain off actually. I want to be busy and be at work to keep my mind off of him, but then I am there, and all I can think about is him, so I cannot focus on my job...then I want to be at home in bed alone..when I am at home I want to be out because I am thinking about how I am in an empty house ..empty bed, lonely sofa, missing cat..I guess it is because you take your mind everywhere you go. No escape. Even in your dreams, sadly. Time heals all.
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