nickcali Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) Hello everyone, I'm in a pretty complicated situation with this girl and I'd just like to hear everyone's toughs and opinions on the matter, although I'm fairly certain it is not going to work out in my favor. I will try to keep this short as possible, but I do want to miss any information either which may critical to the analysis of the situation. I met this girl in college through a mutual friend about 4 months ago. Since we have met, we have been talking everyday and have started hanging out a lot. She is still a virgin and we have not escalated beyond kissing which is absolutely fine with me. I enjoy spending time with her and she is an amazing girl. She would tell me everything, but she was unable to talk about something that happened with this one guy. I never pushed because she said she really did not want to think about it. Well, anyways, a few weeks ago, she finally told me about it... She loved this guy, but they never ended up going out because she was not ready yet. This happened a few months ago. She told me she is not talking to the guy right now and is giving him his space, but she used to talk to him. I told her how I felt about her (told her I am really into her), and she told me she likes me a lot and cares deeply about me. Well, anyways right now she is very confused about what she wants, and she told me she feels cruel making me wait because I know what I want and it makes her really sad. I told her it's fine and she told me she still wants to talk to me, but thinks it would be easier if we were friends. I said I am fine with us being friends for now. Well that about summarizes the situation... I don't see this working out in my favor honestly... and I am having a hard time because I really got along with this girl and she was just everything I was looking for. I would normally just move on, but I really believe in this girl and would like to go through with this to end and see what happens... Thank you for your inputs and thoughts. Edited February 22, 2013 by nickcali
GSB81 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 You're just setting yourself up for pain and not exercising self respect. Don't stick around waiting for her to see what's going to happen with her other guy and hoping it fails and she comes running to you finally ready to give you a shot. If it does fail, do you really want to be backup guy? If it doesn't can you be her friend while she's in a relationship with another guy? Notice how both of those options suck? Sounds like she's willing to miss the chance to get with a good dude in the hopes of reviving a failed relationship.
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) Hello everyone, I'm in a pretty complicated situation with this girl and I'd just like to hear everyone's toughs and opinions on the matter, although I'm fairly certain it is not going to work out in my favor. I will try to keep this short as possible, but I do want to miss any information either which may critical to the analysis of the situation. I met this girl in college through a mutual friend about 4 months ago. Since we have met, we have been talking everyday and have started hanging out a lot. She is still a virgin and we have not escalated beyond kissing which is absolutely fine with me. I enjoy spending time with her and she is an amazing girl. She would tell me everything, but she was unable to talk about something that happened with this one guy. I never pushed because she said she really did not want to think about it. Well, anyways, a few weeks ago, she finally told me about it... She loved this guy, but they never ended up going out because she was not ready yet. This happened a few months ago. She told me she is not talking to the guy right now and is giving him his space, but she used to talk to him. I told her how I felt about her (told her I am really into her), and she told me she likes me a lot and cares deeply about me. Well, anyways right now she is very confused about what she wants, and she told me she feels cruel making me wait because I know what I want and it makes her really sad. I told her it's fine and she told me she still wants to talk to me, but thinks it would be easier if we were friends. I said I am fine with us being friends for now. Well that about summarizes the situation... I don't see this working out in my favor honestly... and I am having a hard time because I really got along with this girl and she was just everything I was looking for. I would normally just move on, but I really believe in this girl and would like to go through with this to end and see what happens... Thank you for your inputs and thoughts. i have this friend know her really well,she really likes this guy who is not interested in her, for some strange reason he makes her happy......then this second guy is in the picture he seems to really like her they can converse she .has a fair bit in common with him ........she is friendly with him thats it, he is showing more interest than her because her interest is elsewhere.if it came to the crunch how do you think she would pick.......she is a good person bit goofy, but good and the last thing she would do is want to hurt a guy so i have advised her to be honest......and let the second guy down gently when something gets said past the friendship mark..she would only hurt him ......and herself....i hope she listens to what her heart tells her... ..you are that second guy to your girl who is probably a good girl too....i advise you let her go...make it easy on her and yourself....you shouldnt be friends for a while it isnt fair on you ....unless you feel you can be friends and nothing more..... dont hold out for her.....best wishes..........deb Edited February 22, 2013 by todreaminblue 1
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