LauraA Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I have a crush on a co-worker it's been like 5 months now. He flirts with me and stuff but the thing is that I feel like he flirts with everyone, he looks like that kind of guy. He's older then me by the way. So after coming back from my trip, he asked me if I had missed him and I said sarcastically "Oh yeah, the first plane ticket I found I bought to be over here ASAP." He just laughed. He'll pinch me playfully and poke me. Another time we went to a co-workers wedding and I had to leave early so didn't party for long, the next day when I saw him he asked me why I had left early and said "Was it because you didn't wanna dance with me?" I laughed and told him why I had to leave early. Like the next month me and a friend of mine were talking to 2 co-workers who were gonna get re hired. We stayed out there talking for like an hour until I had to leave. The next day he jokingly said "Oh so your cheating on me with Steve?" I said "Oh no I would never." I asked him how he had seen us talking, since he was working at the time, and he said that as he was going out to the back he had seen us talking. So it was the day of my birthday the next month and I got a text message from an unknown number that said "Happy birthday...from your secret admirer" I really had no idea who it was I asked who it was and said they couldn't tell me. I said "Oh well maybe someday you'll have the courage to tell me, have a nice day" He replied "Maybe someday" and told me to have a nice day too. Two months later as he was giving me a ride from work he asked me if on my birthday I had gotten a text from an unknown number and I said yeah...and since he didn't say anything more I asked "Was that you?" He acted like he didn't know what I was talking about and never really told me straight up. In December near Christmas, he was like what are you gonna get me for Christmas and I said nothing, and laughed. He said lets get eachother gifts and he made me pinky promise eachother that we would but we really didn't. So most recently and he was out back throwing some trash and I had to throw away something too I didn't know he was out there but I saw him and I could tell he was like mad and asked what was wrong. He said "nothing." I said "It doesn't look like nothing" He told me I crashed my car, I said something else and as I was about to go back inside I said "Sorry, ai know how much you loved your baby(his car)" He said "Yeah but not as much as I love you" I smiled and rolled my eyes and walked away. He calls my mom, his mother in law and she knows it. He'll play around with my mom and call me his gf. We all work together. So another time I was starting off on a new position and he was helping me out a lot, so a co-worker a girl asked me how long I had known him for I said since I started working here, she said oh because I think he has a crush on you. I said noooo he's just helpful. She then went over to talk to him but I couldn't hear them. And one time, as I was leaving he said oh your gonna leave and not give me a hug, and so he gave me a huge bear hug. So do you think he might have a crush on me too? Reasons I think he might not, he looks like he's the flirtatious kind of guy. I think he would want a prettier looking girl, I look really young for being 18 while he's 21. He has never asked me for my number. He'll sometines come in and not say hi until he feels like it. One day he'll be really flirtatious and another day completely opposite. I just don't understand him.
kamani Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 You are still 18, so don't worry. I feel like he has a crush on you, but I don't like him flirting with others. Does he use it as a tool to make you jealous? May be he is still testing the waters.
RandomName12 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 It sounds like he likes you but he's worried you might not like him back so he doesn't want to put it all out there seriously. If you like him then just ask him straight up and see the reaction, I doubt it will make things awkward as he seems like a pretty laid back dude.
Author LauraA Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 l think so too sometimes, but why after being so flirtatious one day the next he'll completely ignore me until he feels like finally saying hi? Are most guys like that?
RandomName12 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Maybe he feels he doesn't want to give too much away, or as I said put himself out there only to find you're just being friendly and make a fool of himself. That being said workplace relationships are a very bad idea, if you ended up getting together and things turned sour you then have to see each other every day which can be painful and awkward for one if not both of you. If you feel that strongly about him then confront him and try and get things out in the open but be aware of the potential risks and think hard about it before you decide anything. If it's meant to happen it will.
Apolodor Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 You are both very young. From what you say it seems that he really likes you and you feel flattered by the attention you receive. There is nothing wrong with that, but you need to remind yourself that you are paid to do your job rather than develop intimate relationships with your colleagues. It's best to keep your social life separate from work. He might be afraid of taking to the next level the thing the two of you have because sexual harassment is a serious business. You should also consider carefully what would happen in the eventuality that you two embark on a relationship and things don't work out. Things can become very awkward pretty quickly......
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