BrookeM Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Hi everyone, thank you for taking the time to read this. My story begins about a month ago. I met this handsome guy and we hit it off immediately. We exchanged phone numbers and we began texting each other the entire next day. After about a week of steady text messages and phone calls, we met for coffee. After, we both had agreed that was one of the most amazing conversations either one of us had in a while. Since then, he told me every day (all day every day) how happy he was to have met me, how much he enjoyed being around me, beautiful I was and so on. I was led to believe the connection we had made was very mutual. Today, we had made lunch arrangements. Without much of an explanation, he blew me off. I was a little irritated as this was not like him to bail on plans we had. He barely spoke to me after that. I text him later on this evening to ask him if everything was ok, and if I had done something wrong. He said no, that he just had a busy day. He went out to play cards (his normal Thursday routine) but wanted to swing by afterward (at roughly 10-10:30) and would text me or call me beforehand. I fell asleep on the couch waiting for him and woke up around midnight, with no message or phone call. Again, I was blown off. I text him and said, "I'm not sure why you aren't being up front with me. This is ridiculous. It was nice talking to you." I regret being so harsh and jumping to a conclusion, but I was upset that twice in one day he had done this! He immediately read my message (the "read" receipt came up on my iphone) and didn't reply. I became a little emotional but left it at that. I'm racking my brain trying to figure out why things all of the sudden went sour. Do I delete his number and forget about him? P.S. Just yesterday he was telling me that, "Although I don't want to throw the "L" word around, I could absolutely see myself falling in love with you in the future." I don't understand it. I feel like an ass.
starla33 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Hi everyone, thank you for taking the time to read this. My story begins about a month ago. I met this handsome guy and we hit it off immediately. We exchanged phone numbers and we began texting each other the entire next day. After about a week of steady text messages and phone calls, we met for coffee. After, we both had agreed that was one of the most amazing conversations either one of us had in a while. Since then, he told me every day (all day every day) how happy he was to have met me, how much he enjoyed being around me, beautiful I was and so on. I was led to believe the connection we had made was very mutual. Today, we had made lunch arrangements. Without much of an explanation, he blew me off. I was a little irritated as this was not like him to bail on plans we had. He barely spoke to me after that. I text him later on this evening to ask him if everything was ok, and if I had done something wrong. He said no, that he just had a busy day. He went out to play cards (his normal Thursday routine) but wanted to swing by afterward (at roughly 10-10:30) and would text me or call me beforehand. I fell asleep on the couch waiting for him and woke up around midnight, with no message or phone call. Again, I was blown off. I text him and said, "I'm not sure why you aren't being up front with me. This is ridiculous. It was nice talking to you." I regret being so harsh and jumping to a conclusion, but I was upset that twice in one day he had done this! He immediately read my message (the "read" receipt came up on my iphone) and didn't reply. I became a little emotional but left it at that. I'm racking my brain trying to figure out why things all of the sudden went sour. Do I delete his number and forget about him? P.S. Just yesterday he was telling me that, "Although I don't want to throw the "L" word around, I could absolutely see myself falling in love with you in the future." I don't understand it. I feel like an ass. Um does it matter? The guy blew you off twice. DUMP his loser ass please. That is not the way you deserve to be treated.
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I dunno, I think you may have blown it out of proportion... He had ONE day of being a bit off on his communication, that's enough to warrant chucking him? This is why texting is the DEVIL lol. People become too attached to their phones. 1
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 He's tossing around implications of love that quickly? That was rather striking. You may be reading into the singled out scenario a bit much but It's definitely something to watch for in the future.
starla33 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I dunno, I think you may have blown it out of proportion... He had ONE day of being a bit off on his communication, that's enough to warrant chucking him? This is why texting is the DEVIL lol. People become too attached to their phones. That gives him no excuse to bail on you twice in one day. 1
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 That gives him no excuse to bail on you twice in one day. Agreed. That's kind of sketchy. Unless he had a really good reason.
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I dunno. Things happen, maybe it was a reallllly bad day for him. If he was making a habit of this kind of stuff then absolutely, yes. But I think he still deserves a chance.
Treasa Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 He's inconsiderate. Move on. You don't need this, especially so early in. 1
ChatroomHero Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Seriously, one day? You went way overboard and if I were him I would bail after your message because I see drama queen written all over it. He may have had a really lousy day or been really busy or gotten bad news. It's funny how with texting and constant communication I could get a text and just have time to quickly view it in the most important business meeting of my life and if I don't respond for 2 hours until the meeting is over, a whole back story of lies and deceit could be conjured up as to why I didn't respond soon enough. 3
Emilia Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Seriously, one day? You went way overboard and if I were him I would bail after your message because I see drama queen written all over it. He may have had a really lousy day or been really busy or gotten bad news. I agree, it was way too much drama for something that happened on the same day and had no chance to talk about.
Author BrookeM Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Seriously, one day? You went way overboard and if I were him I would bail after your message because I see drama queen written all over it. He may have had a really lousy day or been really busy or gotten bad news. It's funny how with texting and constant communication I could get a text and just have time to quickly view it in the most important business meeting of my life and if I don't respond for 2 hours until the meeting is over, a whole back story of lies and deceit could be conjured up as to why I didn't respond soon enough. I agree, I feel the text I sent was extreme. I guess the reason I felt so upset was because it's out of his character to blow me off, ignore me, etc. Which is why when I asked if there was something wrong, I was expecting him to tell me there was. I feel an apology is in order for my reaction, but I don't want to continue communication when clearly he is no longer interested.
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I agree, I feel the text I sent was extreme. I guess the reason I felt so upset was because it's out of his character to blow me off, ignore me, etc. Which is why when I asked if there was something wrong, I was expecting him to tell me there was. I feel an apology is in order for my reaction, but I don't want to continue communication when clearly he is no longer interested. Chill, things will be ok. Take it as it comes. Don't let your thoughts become your downfall. Let go when you have to. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 The problem is, you have already come off as insecure and drama queen. If you now text him to apologize, you will only seem even more insecure. You have sort of dug yourself into a hole. I would not contact him again. 4
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 The problem is, you have already come off as insecure and drama queen. If you now text him to apologize, you will only seem even more insecure. You have sort of dug yourself into a hole. I would not contact him again. True that, and true signature! 1
IAmRobot Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I think you went overboard. This is what probably happened. - Lunch. Probably something came up and he didn't see it as a big deal. After all you were just eating food. Not like a date date. - He went to play cards. Probably lost a couple of stacks and the last thing on his mind was you. You on the other hand got irrational and emotional and turned him off even more. He ll come back around but Idk how eager. And seems like this guy has a gambling problem if he goes out every Thur to play cards. Cheers
Author BrookeM Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 The problem is, you have already come off as insecure and drama queen. If you now text him to apologize, you will only seem even more insecure. You have sort of dug yourself into a hole. I would not contact him again. I also agree with that. I'm usually a very confident and easy going person. I was having a bad day to begin with and I guess I may have took everything way too personally and I let it show. Thinking about how I would have reacted if the roles were reversed, I'd be a little turned off by my response as well.
Author BrookeM Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) oops, tried to delete post Edited February 22, 2013 by BrookeM Posted it twice
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I also agree with that. I'm usually a very confident and easy going person. I was having a bad day to begin with and I guess I may have took everything way too personally and I let it show. Thinking about how I would have reacted if the roles were reversed, I'd be a little turned off by my response as well. Brush it off, keep your chin up. Today is a new day! You never know what'll happen in this crazy world we live in. It's nothing major, really. Nothing to get too upset about. Just know for future reference 1
Author BrookeM Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Brush it off, keep your chin up. Today is a new day! You never know what'll happen in this crazy world we live in. It's nothing major, really. Nothing to get too upset about. Just know for future reference Thank you iKing! You're right. Nothing to get too upset over 1
ChatroomHero Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I agree, I feel the text I sent was extreme. I guess the reason I felt so upset was because it's out of his character to blow me off, ignore me, etc. Which is why when I asked if there was something wrong, I was expecting him to tell me there was. I feel an apology is in order for my reaction, but I don't want to continue communication when clearly he is no longer interested. If it's out of character and everything was great before, why not give him the benefit of the doubt? Why ASSUME the worst and it was some kind of passive aggressive signal? You know you owe an apology so just give it. How is he clearly no longer interested after one day of quiet? If you think that a relationship = constant contact every day and quick responses every time and there are no "off" days, you are not ready for a relationship. It was probably no big deal. If I have a bad day i do not usually like to talk about it much because then i have to rehash it and feel sh*tty all over again. It doesn't mean I don't want to share it with my gf and lean on her...it means I want to get past it. This is drama you created. From your story there is no clear lack of interest only your assumptions based without his side. Cut the drama, apologize.
stillafool Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I don't understand how you could be so heavily invested and it's only been 1 month. If he is so handsome he may still be involved with other women. Don't listen to the "L" word talk, look at his actions. You should be dating others as well until you two decide to form a relationship. One month is too soon (IMHO) to get so emotional over some guy. You barely know him.
Yamcha Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 There are some details missing from this story. Did he text you to cancel the lunch plans, or did he just not show up? Did he really promise to contact you later that night or was it just in the event that he was gonna stop by? The answer to those questions determines if your reaction was warranted. But, at this point, what's done is done. You should absolutely delete his number, move on, and not jump to conclusions in the future. It's better to flat out ask if someone is still interested rather than assuming that they aren't. Although sometimes you have to read through their bull****. Oh well.
TigerCub Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 There are some details missing from this story. Did he text you to cancel the lunch plans, or did he just not show up? Did he really promise to contact you later that night or was it just in the event that he was gonna stop by? The answer to those questions determines if your reaction was warranted. I agree, I'm wondering about all those details too.
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