iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 There. Fixed it for you. Well played brother, well played. As far as being approached goes, give it a try. Some guys think It's great and yes it does work out. Not always of course, but it shows you have the confidence to give it a try. Some guys really like being the prey every now and again. Do something nonchelant like the number drop idea mentioned in the first post. That was pretty smooth. Bite your lip and twirl your hair to give off some serious signs, those are pretty universal. 2
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Bollocks. You tell them what to think by how you act: As in there is no better option, you are everyone's type And if that still doesn't work for you just start an ordinary conversation, stare really intently at their mouth while they are talking and lick your upper lip a lil, look up at them with your eyes really wide now and then, wait for him to start having trouble reaching for words then, when there's a pause, go in for a kiss. Never fails. You'll get at least three dates on that alone. Sounds realllllly intense haha. I'm a bit awkward and geeky really, I'd go in for the kiss and probably trip over my own feet 1
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 So play it up, do the geeky shy awkward vulnerable doe thing to the max. I can't pull it off. Skip the kiss bit then, play with your hair, stick you boobs out and wait for him to ask for your number 2
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Bollocks. You tell them what to think by how you act: As in there is no better option, you are everyone's type And if that still doesn't work for you just start an ordinary conversation, stare really intently at their mouth while they are talking and lick your upper lip a lil, look up at them with your eyes really wide now and then, wait for him to start having trouble reaching for words then, when there's a pause, go in for a kiss. Never fails. You'll get at least three dates on that alone. Woah that takes guts. I did a low key version when I met my ex. We were having an ordinary conversation at a party and I wasn't sure if it was going anywhere. So I waited for a brief pause and lightly touched his chest then kissed him on the cheek. I continued talking as normal. After that, he had trouble speaking He called the next day. 2
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 So play it up, do the geeky shy awkward vulnerable doe thing to the max. I can't pull it off. Skip the kiss bit then, play with your hair, stick you boobs out and wait for him to ask for your number This girl is a master of seduction. Ha! The geeky vulnerable play is adorable in its own right, might even incline the guy to make the first move. Shy girls are the best to do the whole lift up the chin with one finger and give a light kiss with. Granted they showed signs of interest of course.
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Shy girls are the best to do the whole lift up the chin with one finger and give a light kiss with. Granted they showed signs of interest of course. If a guy did that to me I'd probably melt 2
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Got laid off from my job, couldn't afford rent, had to move away to a cheaper living area in the desert Aww babe! That sux! *hugs* 1
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Aww babe! That sux! *hugs* Thanks Just trying to make the best of it out here! 1
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Woah that takes guts. I did a low key version when I met my ex. We were having an ordinary conversation at a party and I wasn't sure if it was going anywhere. So I waited for a brief pause and lightly touched his chest then kissed him on the cheek. I continued talking as normal. After that, he had trouble speaking He called the next day. kamikaze for eternal sunshine....that took guts....deb 2
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Woah that takes guts. I did a low key version when I met my ex. We were having an ordinary conversation at a party and I wasn't sure if it was going anywhere. So I waited for a brief pause and lightly touched his chest then kissed him on the cheek. I continued talking as normal. After that, he had trouble speaking He called the next day. Heheheh! Scarlet woman! I know I do things that my gfs would never do, I've never quite figured out what makes me different though. I just do stuff. Maybe lacking the shame gene? 1
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I've thought about going back someday, but not for a long while. I still probably wouldn't be brave enough to pull a move on any guy haha. Although I do need someone to practice my approaching skills on!! See what'd I tell ya - you already know how to do the shy awkward doe thing you terrible hussy 1
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 See what'd I tell ya - you already know how to do the shy awkward doe thing you terrible hussy Master of manipulation and she doesn't even realize it. That's skill right there. 2
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Considering this is the most interesting man in the world, take him up on that offer. Not so much the most interesting just the only one on here at the moment that will play
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 This girl is a master of seduction. Ha! The geeky vulnerable play is adorable in its own right, might even incline the guy to make the first move. Shy girls are the best to do the whole lift up the chin with one finger and give a light kiss with. Granted they showed signs of interest of course. How'd I miss this!?! Why thank you kind sir!
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 How'd I miss this!?! Why thank you kind sir! My pleasure. Work time ladies and gents, hope you all have a wonderful evening. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Master of manipulation and she doesn't even realize it. That's skill right there. shy and awkward isnt good when you like someoen if you are shy and awkward for real, its draining to act like you arent shy and awkward.so you dont make others uncomfortable or yourself for that matter...its contagious...i dont consider it a skill....i think its a serious handicap....deb 1
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 i dont consider it a skill....i think its a serious handicap....deb handicap? that's highly alarming haha
ChessPieceFace Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yes, pretty good success, the more ballsy in a joking sort of way the better. I save it for the really really cute ones though. Yep, not every guy is deserving of being approached Good to see shallowness and hypocrisy alive and well.
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Good to see shallowness and hypocrisy alive and well. is it shallow not to appraoch a guy who spits in public snarls when he talks or swears every second word....ummm no doesnt deserve an approach by any self respecting woman...no hypocrisy there.deb 4
todreaminblue Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 handicap? that's highly alarming haha having your tongue tied up to me i consider a handicap by tongue tiedness.....smilin...it sucks...then you say something stupid..i do accep tit though and i have a few strategies....one of them is avoidance when it gets too much for me to handle....i play invisible....give em a helicopter ill even jump without a parachute...my shyness is compounded by voices....so yes its debilitating...i feel retarded hearing things others cant hear only me....so as i said avoidance when that happens...and i get out of there pretty quickly...happens when i worry or get nervous or shy or paranoid..... and i volunteered to be in a play with the guy i like as a fellow volunteer and i have to play a fairy godmother with wings and a flower halo.....kamikaze all the way....make a giant purple goof of myself...i am a purple fairy godmother.....i am going to freeze up again i know it and stand at the door and miss my cue...like i did before...but i have to do it.....so no choice......at least most of the audience can hardly see and the other half cant hear so ....thats the only reason i think i can do it ir i agreed to do i tbefore i foudn out heart stopper was going to be there.......and i know they the audience will all smile at me ...they are lonely old people....they love the plays and songs.......deb 1
Shardish Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I wouldn't mind being directly approached by a girl. Normally the few women who are interested in me at any one time give me subtle hints and I never pick up on them and if I do it is usually a few hours later after some contemplation.
Curious-One Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) I swear to god i am retarded when it comes to reading female signs. Today i started talking to this very cute korean girl and someone called her on the phone so she talked to them a bit and hang up and i was like who is that your hasband and she was quick to say "Oh no i am not married i dont have a boyfriend" I didnt even pick up on it till i parted ways that i didnt even ask her about bf and she might have been giving me a clue that she is single. **** my life, my school is 30 000 students so chances of seeing her again is slim to none. So yes i would love it if a girl approached me but youd have to be super direct. The other day i was going to class and i made eye contact with this tall beautiful girl as she was toward me. I am 6'4 btw.... anyway i was waiting to cross the street and she comes up to me and asks me for directions to a building. I explain where the building is and pretty much leave at that...she says oh ok andi am just gonna go this way. In total opposite direction where i told her where the building is. Edited February 22, 2013 by Curious-One
Emilia Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I never did this much and picked from the men that came to me, which were mostly options I wasn't fully happy with. [...] By approaching I mean make one clear move to show your interest and then leave the ball in his court. I'm social and talk to lots of people in social settings. When I click with a guy it's great. I won't approach beyond a basic friendly level though ie I won't give him my number if he doesn't ask. I like men with balls so he needs a certain level of assertiveness. Call me old fashioned but that's the kind of guy I like. I will keep chatting with him and make an effort to get to know him to encourage him. He does have to pull that trigger though, I won't do it for him 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 I think that it can work if you don't get overly bummed out by rejection. There are situations where men haven't noticed you (yet) or they are too shy to approach or they think you are taken or out of their league....
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 having your tongue tied up to me i consider a handicap by tongue tiedness.....smilin...it sucks...then you say something stupid..i do accep tit though and i have a few strategies....one of them is avoidance when it gets too much for me to handle....i play invisible....give em a helicopter ill even jump without a parachute...my shyness is compounded by voices....so yes its debilitating...i feel retarded hearing things others cant hear only me....so as i said avoidance when that happens...and i get out of there pretty quickly...happens when i worry or get nervous or shy or paranoid..... and i volunteered to be in a play with the guy i like as a fellow volunteer and i have to play a fairy godmother with wings and a flower halo.....kamikaze all the way....make a giant purple goof of myself...i am a purple fairy godmother.....i am going to freeze up again i know it and stand at the door and miss my cue...like i did before...but i have to do it.....so no choice......at least most of the audience can hardly see and the other half cant hear so ....thats the only reason i think i can do it ir i agreed to do i tbefore i foudn out heart stopper was going to be there.......and i know they the audience will all smile at me ...they are lonely old people....they love the plays and songs.......deb It does me good to read your posts, I admire how you accept yourself and keep on going no matter what. Thanks
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