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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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I never did this much and picked from the men that came to me, which were mostly options I wasn't fully happy with.

 

A friend of mine had good luck recently with making a first move. She dropped her phone number into a cup of a cute guy. He called her immediately and they are going out :) She has been seeing him around the coffee shop for months and finally decided to do something.

 

I also want to make a distinction between approaching and pursuing.

 

For example, if a guy in the case of my friend didn't call, and she tried to talk to him next time she saw him that would cross the line into the desparation land.

 

By approaching I mean make one clear move to show your interest and then leave the ball in his court.

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Gosh, I hope the coffee cup was empty.:)

 

Ever time I approached a guy - he ended up being in a relationship so my luck with that isn't great.

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I have had a ton of success.

 

Nothing really went anywhere long term, but I still met some great guys just by gaining the courage to go up and make the first move.

 

I always just approach and leave the ball in his court. Recommend we go out together some time, give him my number, just tell him I thought he was hot and wanted to talk to him.

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Archgirl Established Member

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Yes, pretty good success, the more ballsy in a joking sort of way the better. I save it for the really really cute ones though.

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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Yes, pretty good success, the more ballsy in a joking sort of way the better. I save it for the really really cute ones though.

 

Yep, not every guy is deserving of being approached :p

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Do it, it's how I ended up in my last relationship. Subtle hints just don't always work.

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Yep, not every guy is deserving of being approached :p

 

I will take that as a compliment :D

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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I will take that as a compliment :D

 

hellz yeah ;):cool:

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MrCastle Established Member

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Some girl approached me. Offered her number. I texted her, never heard from her ever again.

 

Truth be told, the way things were going, it seemed like she wanted me to take her to pound town that same day, she had asked to have lunch with me and I said I had already made plans, which was true.

 

Dumb on my part, sure. But I figured I had her number, I could take her to pound town some other time.

 

Never heard or saw her again :(

 

If you're gonna approach, then don't be a tease like that girl.

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Some girl approached me. Offered her number. I texted her, never heard from her ever again.

 

Truth be told, the way things were going, it seemed like she wanted me to take her to pound town that same day, she had asked to have lunch with me and I said I had already made plans, which was true.

 

Dumb on my part, sure. But I figured I had her number, I could take her to pound town some other time.

 

Never heard or saw her again :(

 

If you're gonna approach, then don't be a tease like that girl.

 

Noted.

 

I won't do that to you MrCastle ;)

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MrCastle Established Member

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Noted.

 

I won't do that to you MrCastle ;)

 

Well then :)

 

At the risk of sounding too forward, I would like to take you to pound town some day :love:

 

Like the lady in my erotic story in the sex section :p

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I've never had success, my past approaches ended with rejection so I have not tried lately haha.

 

I assume that if I tried a little more often I might end up eventually having a succesful reaction! Just gotta get brave haha

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Well then :)

 

At the risk of sounding too forward, I would like to take you to pound town some day :love:

 

Like the lady in my erotic story in the sex section :p

 

Oh you are such a romantic :love:

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MrCastle Established Member

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I've never had success, my past approaches ended with rejection so I have not tried lately haha.

 

I assume that if I tried a little more often I might end up eventually having a succesful reaction! Just gotta get brave haha

 

You wouldn't have to approach me if that's you in the avatar. I would approach you :bunny::)

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i only approach guys who i do genuinely want to get to know,i have always been pursued and so in the past its more been me accepting at a later time....i dont think i could approach all teh time...luckily i dont really get interested enough to have to go through the approach jump.....its white knuckle stuff....jumping out of a helicopter is more fun much less scary...;0)..deb

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Phoe Established Member

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You wouldn't have to approach me if that's you in the avatar. I would approach you :bunny::)

 

ooh really you would? that's encouraging haha :)

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ooh really you would? that's encouraging haha :)

 

You should see his pictures ;)

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Phoe Established Member

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What the hell?

 

No way.

 

I call bullsh*t.

 

 

...why? lol

 

the guys just weren't interested, or perhaps I am lousy at approaching guys haha. it happens *shrug*

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You should see his pictures ;)

 

That's it! Your ticket to pound town has been punched! No refunds!

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What the hell?

 

No way.

 

I call bullsh*t.

 

:( making me all jealous Capt :love:, why you have to be so cruel like that?

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Phoe Established Member

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Because you're attractive.

 

I find it extremely hard to believe that any guy would turn down an approach from you, no less multiple guys.

 

 

I'm decent, sure, but those guys probably had better options or I just wasn't their type

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I'm decent, sure, but those guys probably had better options or I just wasn't their type

 

How can I class this up--I would do things to you.

 

That's as classy as I can get at this time. It is 2:21 am here.

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Phoe Established Member

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There. Fixed it for you. ;)

 

 

:laugh::D how sweet haha!

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Phoe Established Member

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How can I class this up--I would do things to you.

 

That's as classy as I can get at this time. It is 2:21 am here.

 

 

Hehe, I will pass no judgment! :)

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Archgirl Established Member

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I'm decent, sure, but those guys probably had better options or I just wasn't their type

 

Bollocks. You tell them what to think by how you act: As in there is no better option, you are everyone's type

And if that still doesn't work for you just start an ordinary conversation, stare really intently at their mouth while they are talking and lick your upper lip a lil, look up at them with your eyes really wide now and then, wait for him to start having trouble reaching for words then, when there's a pause, go in for a kiss. Never fails. You'll get at least three dates on that alone.

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