boredom Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 So on Valentine's day I flirted with a guy (we're both college students), and we had a nice conversation going. Then maybe like 3 days later, I added him on facebook and sent him a simple message with a greeting. He read the message soon afterwards (I think 6 minutes later), but he never replied. I didn't think too much of it then. Maybe he didn't feel like replying. Meh, whatever. Fast forward a little bit, I saw him yesterday but I didn't want to come off too friendly (there were a lot of other people in the room as well), so I just kept my distance and talked to my friends. Then five minutes later, he tapped my shoulder and said "I saw your greeting on facebook the other day, but I was in the lab. And after I went home, I forgot about it." In response to this, I quickly reassured him and said that it was totally okay. But honestly I suspect that he lied. Nobody goes to the lab on a Sunday night at 11PM, I don't even think that the labs are open on the weekends. I don't know why he had to make an excuse about it and tell me. I'm confused. If I were interested in someone and he sent me a message, I would never forget to respond. Maybe it's just me though. What do you guys think?
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 So on Valentine's day I flirted with a guy (we're both college students), and we had a nice conversation going. Then maybe like 3 days later, I added him on facebook and sent him a simple message with a greeting. He read the message soon afterwards (I think 6 minutes later), but he never replied. I didn't think too much of it then. Maybe he didn't feel like replying. Meh, whatever. Fast forward a little bit, I saw him yesterday but I didn't want to come off too friendly (there were a lot of other people in the room as well), so I just kept my distance and talked to my friends. Then five minutes later, he tapped my shoulder and said "I saw your greeting on facebook the other day, but I was in the lab. And after I went home, I forgot about it." In response to this, I quickly reassured him and said that it was totally okay. But honestly I suspect that he lied. Nobody goes to the lab on a Sunday night at 11PM, I don't even think that the labs are open on the weekends. I don't know why he had to make an excuse about it and tell me. I'm confused. If I were interested in someone and he sent me a message, I would never forget to respond. Maybe it's just me though. What do you guys think? No, he is not interested. Interested men don't "forget" to reply.
Archgirl Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 First mistake - adding him on facebook! Comes off as needy and desperate. Never do this. Like ever. Well maybe after you are married. 1
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 No, he is not interested. Interested men don't "forget" to reply. They do if they're pre-occupied or playing hard to get (yes guys do this too). I'd say It's too early to tell, get into more casual interactions with him and see what happens.
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 First mistake - adding him on facebook! Comes off as needy and desperate. Never do this. Like ever. Well maybe after you are married. Have to agree that was a bit of a mistake after so few interactions with him.
filani Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 So on Valentine's day I flirted with a guy (we're both college students), and we had a nice conversation going. Then maybe like 3 days later, I added him on facebook and sent him a simple message with a greeting. He read the message soon afterwards (I think 6 minutes later), but he never replied. I didn't think too much of it then. Maybe he didn't feel like replying. Meh, whatever. Fast forward a little bit, I saw him yesterday but I didn't want to come off too friendly (there were a lot of other people in the room as well), so I just kept my distance and talked to my friends. Then five minutes later, he tapped my shoulder and said "I saw your greeting on facebook the other day, but I was in the lab. And after I went home, I forgot about it." In response to this, I quickly reassured him and said that it was totally okay. But honestly I suspect that he lied. Nobody goes to the lab on a Sunday night at 11PM, I don't even think that the labs are open on the weekends. I don't know why he had to make an excuse about it and tell me. I'm confused. If I were interested in someone and he sent me a message, I would never forget to respond. Maybe it's just me though. What do you guys think? @ boredom Seems to me that the issue is not so much this guy allegedly has no interest in you but that you have not effectively indicated your interest in anything deeper than a casual friendship with him. When did adding a guy on facebook become an indicator of romantic interest to girls? That would totally fly over my head as a 'come on'. This is the new millennium after all , if you really want some thing more with him then you're simply going to have to grow a pair of ovaries and be a bit more direct with him. Ask him out on a coffee date and tell him you would really like to get to know him better and that you guys should hang out more. Trust me if there's a spark then things will pick up from there.
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