bdfan1026 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 (edited) So at the end of the winter semester in school before 2012 came around, there was an absolutely BEAUTIFUL 20ish year old woman that worked in the office of our fine & performing arts building. I'm a music major there so I pass by the office on a regular basis, though rarely have a need to enter. I decided to try my luck (what did I have to lose?) and asked her if we could hang out sometime. I had previously said hi to her before in the context of making an appointment with somebody else in the office for academic advisement, so she had seen me before, though didn't really know me. I'm generally an introvert. She was certainly surprised, introduced herself (I was awkward and forgot to ask her name first, lol, of course) and said sure. I was surprised myself but excited. We went out the next week. Despite my general shyness I think I did a good job of making conversation, and she kept making comments (seemed very genuine) about how it was so nice to actually have an intelligent conversation with somebody. This wasn't prompted by me, in case you were wondering if I showed signs of insecurity and she felt like she had to be nice or encouraging, etc. I was sure to be confident and collected in the manner I presented myself. We walked to the local hang (somewhat of a hipster bar, but nice, and sat and talked for an hour where she CONTINUED to be genuinely complimentary of our short but sweet date. I learned she was adopted, what she wanted to do with her life, etc. etc. and I shared some of my interests, passions, ideas just the same as she did hers. It went really well! When we walked back to the place we came from, she said she wanted to do it again sometime. (without me even mentioning another date) and we went our separate ways. Despite what seemed to me like genuine interest on her part, she seemed nervous when I approached her about hanging out again a few days later. She said yes, but was difficult to get ahold of when I tried to communicate with her later on a good time to meet. Eventually I started assuming that she lost interest, so I stopped trying to set anything up after that. Since then I've dated another girl (didn't end up working out.) I'm not looking to intimidate people or make them think I'm creepy. All I want while I'm young is an opportunity to date, have fun, experience sex and everything else that dating entails, etc. though I'm 22 and have experienced very little of any of this. I've been in committed relationships though a commitment relationship I've learned is scary when I'm this young and don't even feel like I know what I would need in a long term relationship. I thought simply dating girls would help me learn. I just want to have fun (sex isn't all that it's about, I want sex but above all just to be able to talk and flirt and smile with girls just like anybody else.) But ultimately, I've met few others who seem interested. After making efforts to meet other girls, with varying degrees of weak successes, would it be out of line to approach this girl again? It's been well over a year since I've spoken to her and I would love to find out that she is interested but was just going through a tough time or something and didn't feel comfortably with dating, ANYTHING like that. She's absolutely beautiful and still single, so that makes me think that maybe it's just an independent streak or something. I still wonder why she would go out of her way to express what seemed like genuine interest in me on our first date if she wasn't really interested, and that is what gives me hope that I might still have a chance to hang out again. If I should approach her, how should I handle it this time? What should I say? If not how should I start meeting other women that I'm attracted to?. Edited February 22, 2013 by bdfan1026
will1988 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 How do you know she is still single? Do you have her on facebook, or are you stalking her in a way? you can be honest, no judgement! Anyway, you could try again but I would not recomend it. It seems that she enjoyed your company the first time around but eventually saw that maybe not all the sparks were there. Your best bet (if you want to see her again and see where it goes) is to go back and talk to her some more (try to find a reason to be there or else you may look creepy and stalkerish) and try to hit it off again and see how it goes. If it doesn't seem like things are going well, then you have your answer, and you can go about your day. If it seems like things are going your way, then you can try to ask her out again. From there it all depends on her. If she contacts you and wants to go out and truly meet up, then good for you, if she is flakey and hard to reach for a while that means she was just saying she'd go out with you to be nice. good luck.
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