jessicanm Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I am having a dating dilemma and was wondering if you could give me some advice on what to do: Recently I changed to a healthy lifestyle that includes eating right and exercising. I've lost 22 lbs since Dec. 31st. I recently started dating this guy after not having dated anyone for about 4 years. I used my weight as an excuse not to date because I thought no one would want me. I realize that I am a pretty amazing chick with a lot to offer someone now. Anyhow, so to get back to it I started to date this new guy and things have been going exceptionally well. We connect on so many levels and just share a lot of common interests. He is a really great guy and after all the *******s I have encountered up to now, its refreshing to have a nice guy. We went to his apartment to hang out and while we were watching a movie I noticed that he had a couple of roaches in his apartment. I didn't know how to react, and I was waiting to see if he would, but he didn't. I'd like to say that he doesn't seem like a dirty person at all. His apartment is rather small and not in the best area. How do I approach this issue with him without hurting his feelings? I don't have a whole lot of dating experience so this is difficult for me. I really like this guy, but I don't want to have to worry about a roach crawling on me while we are at his place, and especially if we are having sex. It would be a mood killer... Could this be a dealbreaker? Secondary question... so far the sex with him isn't that great, but I really want things to work out with him. It's been a while for me too so I don't know if we just need a bit more practice for it to get better. We definetely connect on all other levels. Should I give that more time as well?
Rob2183 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Hey, first off I would like to say good job on losing the 22 lbs you should be proud of yourself! As for the roaches I would talk to him about it and see what he can do to address the issue. Maybe try to hang out elsewhere until the issue is fixed see where things go. As for the sex I'm sure it will get better in time especially if you haven't done it in a while. Hope I helped! Help me out ? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/375286-she-done-me
Eggplant Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 He may have hoped you didn't see the cockroach! May have been embarrassed. Cockroaches can happen to clean people, especially if the whole apartment complex is infested. My ex had roaches. The whole apartment had them. One bit me and I got a huge infection and had to take antibiotics. They can be exterminated. If you live in a southern climate, they are more prevalent I think... The roaches are definitely not a deal breaker. To me, at least, that issue it utterly trivial and has nothing to do with him. Do not let the roach thing keep you from a great guy. As far as the physical part, however, I think it is important that you have definite chemistry with whomever you end up with. Sex is critical to a happy relationship, and in particular, the man wants the woman to enjoy it and his ego will get hurt and he'll notice if that's not the case.
Recommended Posts