miss_jaclynrae Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Some of us don't have casual sex. Some of us don't have sex before knowing the other person is clean. Before my current BF, I didn't have sex for 2 years. Who was less likely to get an STD in that case? Me or you? Did you get tested? Did you request to see his? 1
iris219 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Did you get tested? Did you request to see his? Yes, we've both been tested. Also, he's only slept with one other person in the last 12 years.
Submisfit Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Ahh yeah, because it's not like people have ever cheated and brought something home to their partner or anything... If you can't trust your partner in a LTR, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship. 4
meeji Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah I was referring to doing it moreso to prevent having kids. I was with a girl for 4 years and we used to pull out method every time, and thankfully nothing happened. New girl seems to big on the condom thing and it feels... weird (not the condom, but just the insistence on using it... and yes, we're both clean and faithful and whatnot). That's pretty funny that you used condoms, birth control and the pullout method though hahahah. IF I were her, I would feel weird that you think its weird that she wants to use condoms. First of all, she's the one that going to carry a baby for 9 months and or... go through an abortion IF she gets knocked up. Not you. I hate how men feel entitled so often when it comes to sex. You need to be a little more respectful of your gf's body and be happy that she wants to have sex with you, period... If that is her preference and you dont like it you can always find a girl who doesn't care either way. Her vagina doesn't belong to you and she has first choice over what goes in and how its maintained.
rainfall Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I've been with my partner forever but we still always use condoms. I know we are both 100% STD free but I have don't want kids ever so I guess I will have to keep using condoms. 1
Pyro Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Ah I see, I was just going by word of what I was taught in school by an actual doctor. I wouldn't go by what people have said on the internet, this is on their word alone and is unverifiable, it's more likely their partner accidentally ejaculated without even knowing it. You usually know when it's coming, but there are times when the orgasm isn't very intense and could be mistaken for the sort of pre-orgasm sensation that is the cue to pull out. The method itself carries possible risk, but I'm merely saying the belief that pre-ejaculate is a serious concern for unwanted pregnancies is essentially unfounded. I'm not yet qualified to give advice on such matters, sexual health isn't even my specification, but most people who make such claims haven't even opened up a medical text. So you are expecting to take your word? (something that is being said on the internet) If you read the whole thread you would see that at first I said that pre-cum was as much of a risk for pregnancies as not pulling out at all but then after discussing it I did say that while pre-cum still does have a risk but it is minimal in comparison to not pulling out.
Radu Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Doesn't pull up on my phone for some reason, but sounds legit. I had a friend who got his girl preg while using both birth control and condoms, he was fairly confused. They had the kid and it actually worked out great, really nice couple. If I remember correctly the condom broke as he came or something. Possibilities : - dude doesn't know how to store his condoms and his girl forgot her pill that one time, which broke the chain; if you don't store the condoms properly you run the risk of them tearing - dude's gf decided she wanted to have a baby, so she 'forgot' the pill that one time and put holes in his condoms; seeing as how your average dude doesn't know much about a woman's reproductive system [jaclynrae was not the only one shocked], this happens quite a lot ... some women use it as a way for the men to commit - he was really really really unlucky Applying Occam's Razor, it's probably the 2nd with the 1st coming in close behind it. ------------ Pull out is a good birth control method, but you need good control ... if you don't have it, don't use it. Practice with a Polypropylene condom on [good heat transfer]. It's very important that you 'flush' the urethra after cumming by peeing, and that you make sure the foreskin is cleaned afterwards [if you are uncut]. Otherwise, you run the risk of getting her pregnant. Condoms should never be stored in pockets or wallets. They can be subjected to shearing forces, which will result in the macromolecule being torn or having greatly weakened bonds; a condom is one giant molecule ... Best is to keep them in a metal box, the kind that were used for cigarettes back in the day. That way, you don't subject them to shearing forces, and don't keep them for more than half of their availability period. It also helps to check them after use to see if holes are present. Beyond this just practice common sense and keep an eye on them, you don't want to end up with holes punctured in them. About STD's, if you are a smart guy you will ask for her to take a bloodtest even before going down on her and also ask for her papsmear test. HPV is the leading cause of cancer in mouth/throat, skin, penile, anal, colon, prostate and for only women, cervical cancer.
ASG Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 Did anyone look at my chart? It is less effective than a condom. Friends who got pregnant on the pill probably were not regularly taking it. Thus why I didn't go on the pill. Miss one pill and you can have a baby! It is very effective birth control though if taken as required. That is not exactly true. You're only really at risk during the first week after the 7 day break. After that first week, even if you forget to take the pill ONCE (if you forget to take it a few days in a row... then it ends up being a break week and therefore you'll be at risk the week after), the amount of hormones in your body compensates for the missed pill. You should take it as soon as you remember though and keep taking as scheduled. If it didn't work like this, you'd be completely unprotected during the 7 day break.
runningfar Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 We got an std test together and did not use condoms. Neither of us have extensive sexual histories and I cannot have children.
ja123 Posted February 23, 2013 Posted February 23, 2013 you know how to pull out, there isn't much of an issue going bareback. No, you mustn't think pulling out is a safe birth contol method. I know a couple, both educated in the sciences, who used that method. She got pregnant, and he didn't want it so they broke up. She's a single mom now.
FitChick Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 (edited) My college roommate's parents used the rhythm method -- charting the woman's temperature -- and the pull out method. My roommate did the same. Her mother taught a class at her church on how to do it. Did I forget to mention that they had eleven children, including one that was born when my roommate was a college freshman? And maybe I forgot to tell you that my roommate had to drop out of school because she got pregnant herself using those methods. Um hmmm... I think younger people assume nothing bad can ever happen to them, so they smoke, take drugs, drive while drunk or texting, and have unprotected sex. If they have a shred of intelligence, they change those habits when they grow up. Edited February 24, 2013 by FitChick
zanzi Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 not anymore now that I'm on the injection. NO BABIES YAAY. I like to feel Im doing my part in not birthing another earth gobbling, green burning, carbon emission-ing human to eat the earth like a termite.
man_in_the_box Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 4 years and still using rubbers. The pills hormonal side-effects have a bit too much effect on her.
Pyro Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 4 years and still using rubbers. The pills hormonal side-effects have a bit too much effect on her. I hope that you are going through the checklist listed below before you and your GF have sex. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/375638-tips-avoiding-pregnancy-trap 1
apple OR orange Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Just curious. By long term I mean, I dunno, anything over 6 months (even though I know that's not very long term) 6 months, this is "long time", wow.... i would have thought 5 years or more would be long term. 1
AlexDP Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Just curious. By long term I mean, I dunno, anything over 6 months (even though I know that's not very long term) Sometimes. Mainly because it can be less messy.
Ladybugz Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 its normal right? if you dont want kids.specially/
man_in_the_box Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I hope that you are going through the checklist listed below before you and your GF have sex. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/375638-tips-avoiding-pregnancy-trap Thanks for the tip but I'm pretty sure my girlfriend never, ever wants to become pregnant. 1
FitChick Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Thanks for the tip but I'm pretty sure my girlfriend never, ever wants to become pregnant. Why don't you tell her to get her tubes tied? It's an easy procedure where they cut a tiny incision in her belly button. Not sure of the cost. If you have to pay, try going through a family planning clinic. My friend was 27 and had it done. I was at the drugstore yesterday and noticed the birth control section -- Encare ovals and contraceptive foam are still being manufactured so she can try those in the mean time.
man_in_the_box Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I think she's planning on getting a IUD when we move in together. I really dislike sterilization although I know it is irrational. But that choice is up to her - I cannot tell her what to do with her body Is it permanent?
salparadise Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I've researched it thoroughly and found that the rhythm method combined with a secondary method (condoms, abstinence, or pull out on the fertile days) is effective as long as you are meticulous in tracking days and have a regular cycle. You can accurately determine ovulation by checking temperature. The problem is that it's difficult for many people to be that precise, or they get carried away and careless. So it's not that the method is flawed, it's human error that makes it risky. Pre cum does not contain sperm unless it's round #2 and you didn't pee in between. Another caveat is that men who can relax the pc muscle to delay orgasm and stay at the threshold can flow semen without the ejaculatory contractions that usually accompany orgasm, and should obviously not try that if using pull out on fertile days. The only 100% effective, goof-proof method is abstinence. I know someone with two children that were both conceived while condoms were being used. I also know someone who has used the above method for two decades, through several relationships, with no unplanned pregnancies. So I believe it's more about managing the method than which method you choose.
Bengal Tiger Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I don't know why anyone would even want to pull out, its so disappointing to stop when you're getting it on hot and heavy. And how confident are you that you will stop in time? Because I don't trust myself. It is so much more satisfying to cum inside a condom AND inside a woman who is on some form of birth control. (IUD or pill or something else). For those of you who know that bare feels so much better than a latex condom, have you tried polyisoprene? I looked into this when I was interested in a girl who had latex allergies. They feel really good and work just as well with thinner material. A friend of mine got pregnant even with strict regular use of birth control but she never use condoms due to her latex allergies. She didn't know about polyisoprene. All the major brands have it: Durex, LifeStyles, Trojan, etc. Read the labels. It takes me a very long time to cum with latex condoms, but the polyisoprene ones are almost like bare. And I love, love, love cumming deep inside. And have not liked cumming outside.
Bito Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 So I know I am a bit of an outlier here. My ex was on the patch so there was no chance of forgetting the pill. I came inside her bareback for years. there is not much better then a beautiful girl begging you to creampie her. God she was hot. Excuse me while I change websites
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