Kaza Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Any suggestions? So far, I've immediately gone and chatted with a friend. I can't quite decide if I want to hang around people tonight or stay home and try to do things around my house.
babylonsister Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Go to the movies. Yes, by yourself. And when your movie is over, go walk in on another movie. And another movie and another movie until the thrill of trying not to get caught theater-hopping coupled with seeing 3 or 4 new movies takes your mind off of things. It's bad, but it's not like I'm saying you should go try to steal a car lol.
MN85 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 so here's a question - I'm a guy and I'm one of those types who always want to clear things up - i.e. deal with a problem head on and immediately vs. let it fester for days or weeks and then dig it up again How do you girls usually remain so calm right after a breakup? Many of my female friends have said that they just manage to push the pain off for days or even weeks after a breakup until they finally can't hold it in anymore and are ready to deal with it. This is what I call the "I need time" strategy... So - how do you do it? Personally, I can't bear to live with such a sting for too long....
stevie_23 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 MN85, I'm not liike those other girls you refer to. After a BU I am distraught and in shock and just REALLY not happy. I have never been a dumper though, only a dumpee, so I don't know if it's different to be the person doing the dumping. As the dumpee, you're usually kind of surprised and feel there are many things left unsaid that you want to get out and sort out. In any case, Kaza, you may find that you are very restless. Like, if you go out and be with friends, this may be a slight distraction for a short while but soon enough you may feel tired (both emotionally and physically) and will just want to be alone. So you go home, and for a short while there's a slight comfort but then you dwell and...basically, you can't escape your own head, no matter what you do or where you go or who you're with. It's tough.
Author Kaza Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 MN85, either way you deal with it, I guess you need to let yourself go through the whole process otherwise you won't heal properly. No point letting it fester and all. This time even though I was the one who dumped him, it was more like I helped him make the decision that he couldn't decide to make. So in some ways it is easier for me to keep calm and do things.
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