iouaname Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 When you're feeling down or thinking about your ex - what are the things that you do to help you take your mind off of things? What are your "safety blankets?" For me: - I have a few television shows that I love that I watch and that sort of distract me for a little while. - My mother bought me this breakup book that I find oddly comforting, because it's harsh but true and also has plenty of stories and great advice. It's kind of like LS in a book form! - this is not so healthy, but I've been on anxiety medication because of panic attacks and they also give you a tranquilizer type medication to reduce immediate anxiety, and I've found that helpful. - I've started writing again. I used to love writing but kind of stopped over time, and I've recently picked it up again.
Chloe1980 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I wrote some poetry today, listened to music and cooked but nothing seem to relief my pain. Any comic movie to recommend on Netflix? Any TV show tonight?
newsbug Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I can't find anything yet. Everything reminds me of him. All the shows I loved were shows he loved too. My whole house has his finger prints on it. Every place my brother wants to go eat is a place we have been. I'm going to see my parents this weekend and play bingo again. I know that is an old person's thing to do, but that is the only thing I have looked forward. It doesn't have anything to do with him, except for the fact it's at the VFW which is where his parents belong. feh. 1
stevie_23 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 - Cigarettes (I know, I know! They're so bad. I have about 7 a day and I find they give me something to "look forward to") - Junk food (again, I KNOW it's bad, but right now I'm just trying to get by, you know? I don't eat it during the day except on weekends. I only indulge at about 9pm each night and I stuff myself with chocolate and sweet stuff. Again, it's something to look forward to) - Zoloft (anti-depression / anti-anxiety meds) - and yes AGAIN this is not a good crutch, but for now they help me - TV shows I enjoy and that distract me (generally reality TV) - When I was visiting my family and friends at Christmas (2 weeks after the BU), my mum gave me these books to read (romantic suspense) and there are a HEAP of them in the series, and I've become addicted to them. Usually with those types of books, I only read them when I'm visiting my family and then don't think of them until next time I'm there, but this time my mum is now posting them up to me a few at a time because I NEED the next ones once I've finished the previous ones - Making music / writing songs - it expresses and channels my feelings pretty well and in a fun and creative / slightly detached but emotional way (if that makes sense), and singing relaxes and uplifts me - Sleeping - I went through a time a few years ago where I used to dread bedtime because my partner was snoring (not my ex, but my long term partner) and I couldn't find a decent pair of earplugs that worked, and I just wouldn't get much sleep. But lately, I have good earplugs and have been sleeping very well, and it comforts me to be lying in bed, in that stage of pre-sleep where you're really sleepy and drowsy and relaxed
BUBS Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 *cigarettes *really crappy food *joel osteen motivational speeches on youtube and positive affirmations on youtube (i wasnt religious before the break up, but they give me hope) *A few tv shows that arent overly lovey dovey, the big bang theory, 1600 penn stuff like that (I used to hate sitcoms) *Loveshack *Farmville on facebook *Video logging and journaling *Bubble baths *Pinterest *whiskey None of these things really help me entirely, but they seem to be a go-to when I'm really breaking down, though pinterest is starting to depress me with all the wedding junk.
adelia Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 There's some great ideas here! Mine have been... Watching a few favorite shows Eating, no pigging out, on chocolate lol Exercising/gym Spending time with friends Journaling And crying... It can be comforting just being able to be alone and let the hurt and pain out. The hardest part is getting through work and day to day smiling and acting like it's ok when inside you're torn to shreds and broken.
Kengne Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 When I was going through heartbreak, MUSIC was the end all be all. I had/have a theme song for every painful breakup that I would listen to on steady replay Listening to those songs even now is like jumping back into time, very powerful. Naturally, I never listen to those songs
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