drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 There is a very cute blonde girl that sits on the other side of the room in my class. And by "cute blonde girl" I mean a freaking goddess. She's absolutely perfect. She's stunning, really, and I am absolutely terrified of approaching her. She's caught me stealing a glance at her a few times, so now I'm DEFINITELY even more scared to talk to her. How can I talk to her? Would it be too obvious if I sat next to her? If I get to school early would it be okay if I sat by the seat where she normally sits? What if I walk into class and she's already there, could I sit by her? I want to die just thinking about sitting by her yet I want to so bad. Help? Even if I DID talk to her, how would I strike up a conversation?
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Meditate on the issues you face and you will see there is only one thing holding you back. The Dalai Lana once said "if there's a solution to a problem, there's no need to worry, if there isn't a solution, there's no need to worry". Take a chance and sit next to her, be yourself and just chat like you would with anyone else. It sounds as though you're a little intimidated, which is perfectly reasonable, but don't let illusions keep you from taking a risk, especially in a situation where the only risk involved is a hit to the ego. You really only get so many heart-racing palm-sweating situations in life so have fun with it. Keep expectations grounded and you won't risk taking a major hit if it doesn't work. 2
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 *see pretty girl* *see vacant seat next to pretty girl* *sit in vacant seat* You asked. Brutally honest. Just be like "hey my name is xxxx" and do some casual joking about whatever seems topical about the class if you're at a loss for words. Don't try too hard. Just letting your presence be known sparks some kind of questioning, which will get a result of some kind. Compliment her hair or shoes, without being stalkerish of course. With any luck you'll get a cute little blush out of it and she'll see you appreciate her presentation.
Imported Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 *see pretty girl* *see vacant seat next to pretty girl* *sit in vacant seat* You asked. I like sitting behind them. Usually there is space between, so I hook my foot around the legs of their seat and pull them slowly towards me as an opener. They usually look back smiling. I just pretend that I didn't do anything and say Hi and blah blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah. Works every time I used it (4 or 6 times). Women in college are easy. Just about anything works.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Ugh, you guys make it seem so easy...
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Ugh, you guys make it seem so easy... There's very little about life that's easy, but that's no reason not to live it anyways. I do understand what you're going through, and why you feel what you're feeling. After awhile it gets to the point where you have to take a chance if you want something, it may work, it may not, but you'll never know unless you try. In reality, what do you have to lose?
rushingwaters Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Sit next to her. If you don't, someone else will. She's not going to over-analyze every single person who sits around her. Trust me, you got this.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Meditate on the issues you face and you will see there is only one thing holding you back. The Dalai Lana once said "if there's a solution to a problem, there's no need to worry, if there isn't a solution, there's no need to worry". Take a chance and sit next to her, be yourself and just chat like you would with anyone else. It sounds as though you're a little intimidated, which is perfectly reasonable, but don't let illusions keep you from taking a risk, especially in a situation where the only risk involved is a hit to the ego. You really only get so many heart-racing palm-sweating situations in life so have fun with it. Keep expectations grounded and you won't risk taking a major hit if it doesn't work. I don't know how I can pretend she's just like everyone else. She's the prettiest girl in class. Maybe the whole school. I'm so intimidated by her I can't even fathom being within five feet of her. I'm scared ****less.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Sit next to her. If you don't, someone else will. She's not going to over-analyze every single person who sits around her. Trust me, you got this. No I don't think I "got this" lol.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Brutally honest. Just be like "hey my name is xxxx" and do some casual joking about whatever seems topical about the class if you're at a loss for words. Don't try too hard. Just letting your presence be known sparks some kind of questioning, which will get a result of some kind. Compliment her hair or shoes, without being stalkerish of course. With any luck you'll get a cute little blush out of it and she'll see you appreciate her presentation. Nevermind I give up lol. This is just impossible
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 I like sitting behind them. Usually there is space between, so I hook my foot around the legs of their seat and pull them slowly towards me as an opener. They usually look back smiling. I just pretend that I didn't do anything and say Hi and blah blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah. Works every time I used it (4 or 6 times). Women in college are easy. Just about anything works. I'm pretty sure I would get slapped in the face if I dragged her towards me lol...
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I don't know how I can pretend she's just like everyone else. She's the prettiest girl in class. Maybe the whole school. I'm so intimidated by her I can't even fathom being within five feet of her. I'm scared ****less. There's no need to pretend, she is everyone else. I do get what you're saying, but you're going to have to do it. The more you work yourself up about it the less likely you'll be to give it a try. Just do it. Go for it. Don't think this one through, just act. Do you, and that's the best you can do. It'll be fun. Getting out of your comfort zone can really help sometimes. If it doesn't work you'll be more comfortable doing it next time. That last part made me laugh, talk about aww.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 There's no need to pretend, she is everyone else. I do get what you're saying, but you're going to have to do it. The more you work yourself up about it the less likely you'll be to give it a try. Just do it. Go for it. Don't think this one through, just act. Do you, and that's the best you can do. It'll be fun. Getting out of your comfort zone can really help sometimes. If it doesn't work you'll be more comfortable doing it next time. That last part made me laugh, talk about aww. Yeah but she's SEEN me check her out before. She's probably FELT me staring at her, several times. And I'm freaking ugly man. I have no confidence whatsoever. I'm hopeless.
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Yeah but she's SEEN me check her out before. She's probably FELT me staring at her, several times. And I'm freaking ugly man. I have no confidence whatsoever. I'm hopeless. Good! At least she'll have an idea of your intent. You're not a bad lookin' guy, not sure where you're getting that idea from. Girls like tattoos also, It's a plus from my experience. I'm telling you man, just do it. I'm sure you have plenty to offer, whether your humble nature allows you to see that or not. It's good to be modest, but try not to beat yourself up when in reality you've probably got some good stuff going for you. Nothing in history has happened by inaction, you gotta take some risks. What's the worst that could happen? You end up exactly where you are now?
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Good! At least she'll have an idea of your intent. You're not a bad lookin' guy, not sure where you're getting that idea from. Girls like tattoos also, It's a plus from my experience. I'm telling you man, just do it. I'm sure you have plenty to offer, whether your humble nature allows you to see that or not. It's good to be modest, but try not to beat yourself up when in reality you've probably got some good stuff going for you. Nothing in history has happened by inaction, you gotta take some risks. What's the worst that could happen? You end up exactly where you are now? I don't know man this is so difficult... this girl is flawless, it's like trying to talk to Katy Perry or something. I just want to shrivel up and hide in the corner of the room. And no worse could happen, like what if I try to talk to her and she thinks I'm a freak, then the rest of the semester I have to know that girl in the corner of the room thinks I'm pathetic...
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I don't know man this is so difficult... this girl is flawless, it's like trying to talk to Katy Perry or something. I just want to shrivel up and hide in the corner of the room. And no worse could happen, like what if I try to talk to her and she thinks I'm a freak, then the rest of the semester I have to know that girl in the corner of the room thinks I'm pathetic... It's only difficult because you're making it difficult. A friend of mine played a show with Katy, he wasn't intimidated. Dude is a mastermind. The only reason I can think of her assuming you're a freak is if you freak out. Just be cool. Let go. Deep breath. And so what if one human being ends up thinking you're strange? You'll get over it. Don't make assumptions of a situation before it has happened. We can play what-if until we're blue in the face and it still won't change the fact that you gotta do it. You have to at least give it a try. Look at it like a mini-adventure, mission impossible classroom edition. Have fun with it. 1
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 It's only difficult because you're making it difficult. A friend of mine played a show with Katy, he wasn't intimidated. Dude is a mastermind. The only reason I can think of her assuming you're a freak is if you freak out. Just be cool. Let go. Deep breath. And so what if one human being ends up thinking you're strange? You'll get over it. Don't make assumptions of a situation before it has happened. We can play what-if until we're blue in the face and it still won't change the fact that you gotta do it. You have to at least give it a try. Look at it like a mini-adventure, mission impossible classroom edition. Have fun with it. I think I'm just going to be a coward and keep staring at her all semester there's no way I can ****ing talk to this chick... ugh. Thanks for trying to help though...
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I think I'm just going to be a coward and keep staring at her all semester there's no way I can ****ing talk to this chick... ugh. Thanks for trying to help though... If you don't get a little reckless with this one you'll probably regret it. You could end up with a super attractive and possibly nice girl, but you never even tried? You don't even have to go full board with it, just say something when you get a chance that's convenient. "lose your pencil" and ask her to borrow one then thank her, or ask her something in regards to homework. Actually that's a manipulation trick come to think of it. You don't have to strike up an amazing conversation with this girl but you're going to have to start somewhere. She has to know who you are. Don't give me this I'm gonna wuss out nonsense, get up soldier. You're living life, live it to the fullest. You only get so many years on this planet. It's silly not to have fun and take some risks. 1
PogoStick Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Stare at her a lot and keep a large smile on your face at all times.
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Stare at her a lot and keep a large smile on your face at all times. That one is pretty hit or miss, but for sure an option. More passive-aggressive. Do it a couple times and see if you catch her looking or smiling at you, eye contact for a few seconds is a good sign, plus It's one heck of a rush.
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 If you don't get a little reckless with this one you'll probably regret it. You could end up with a super attractive and possibly nice girl, but you never even tried? You don't even have to go full board with it, just say something when you get a chance that's convenient. "lose your pencil" and ask her to borrow one then thank her, or ask her something in regards to homework. Actually that's a manipulation trick come to think of it. You don't have to strike up an amazing conversation with this girl but you're going to have to start somewhere. She has to know who you are. Don't give me this I'm gonna wuss out nonsense, get up soldier. You're living life, live it to the fullest. You only get so many years on this planet. It's silly not to have fun and take some risks. I already regret not talking to her and I doubt I could get someone like that. I can't talk to her if I can't even sit by her ugh I'm such a wuss...
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 Stare at her a lot and keep a large smile on your face at all times. That sounds pretty creepy...
Author drakewrites Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 I'm ****ing ugly as hell there's NO WAY she'd go for a guy like me I don't even know why I bother checking her out...
iKING Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I already regret not talking to her and I doubt I could get someone like that. I can't talk to her if I can't even sit by her ugh I'm such a wuss... Why give yourself a regret that you are 100% capable of changing? Sit by her. Normal people sit by each other. It happens. Hmm.. You could try the pencil idea while sitting next to her to break the ice and then be like I'm xxx by the way, or ask her about the subject. You're already lucking out by having a mutual interest, It's a great ice breaker. Don't think about things like oh I can't get a girl like that, It's simply not true. I know this from experience. Be a bit mysterious, they are captivated by it. But seriously manly man, you have to do it. Living with the what-if is going to suck more then giving it a try, even if you get rejected.
Phoe Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Don't sit directly next to her, especially if there are typically a lot of available seats nearby. I always found it odd when someone would come and sit RIGHT next to me when there were available seats enough that everyone could have space. Sit behind her or in front of her, ask to borrow a pen or something, ask about an assignment, anything really.
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