Frazzle Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Yesterday, I met a girl who's a friend of my friend. I added her on Facebook. We chatted for a bit and I asked her to get lunch with me today. She said yes and we had lunch today. I think we had a good and interesting conversation but there would be awkward silences. But it was the first time I really talked to her though. She was talking about how she would take me around the fair in the city but then she added how people would ask her "who's that guy with you" since it's a small community. Then as part of the story, she said "oh we're just friends." That implies that she isn't interested right? However, she laughed a lot when I made a joke (like non-stop for 20 seconds). And she touched my arm at one point when I showed her my fortune cookie that said something like "a good friend will show up today" (we had Chinese food). She even gave me a hug after. She said we should have lunch again so I told her that we should go eat one of these days and she said sure. So what does this mean exactly? Does she consider me as just a friend? Did she think that this was just a friendly lunch?
sid3 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Yesterday, I met a girl who's a friend of my friend. I added her on Facebook. We chatted for a bit and I asked her to get lunch with me today. She said yes and we had lunch today. I think we had a good and interesting conversation but there would be awkward silences. But it was the first time I really talked to her though. She was talking about how she would take me around the fair in the city but then she added how people would ask her "who's that guy with you" since it's a small community. Then as part of the story, she said "oh we're just friends." That implies that she isn't interested right? However, she laughed a lot when I made a joke (like non-stop for 20 seconds). And she touched my arm at one point when I showed her my fortune cookie that said something like "a good friend will show up today" (we had Chinese food). She even gave me a hug after. She said we should have lunch again so I told her that we should go eat one of these days and she said sure. So what does this mean exactly? Does she consider me as just a friend? Did she think that this was just a friendly lunch? Probably. But that's just my opinion. I'd suggest kicking up the flirting a notch next time
Ruby Slippers Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Yep, start flirting more. Touch her. Treat her like your girl, not a friend. Her response to this will tell you everything. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Yesterday, I met a girl who's a friend of my friend. I added her on Facebook. We chatted for a bit and I asked her to get lunch with me today. She said yes and we had lunch today. I think we had a good and interesting conversation but there would be awkward silences. But it was the first time I really talked to her though. She was talking about how she would take me around the fair in the city but then she added how people would ask her "who's that guy with you" since it's a small community. Then as part of the story, she said "oh we're just friends." That implies that she isn't interested right? However, she laughed a lot when I made a joke (like non-stop for 20 seconds). And she touched my arm at one point when I showed her my fortune cookie that said something like "a good friend will show up today" (we had Chinese food). She even gave me a hug after. She said we should have lunch again so I told her that we should go eat one of these days and she said sure. So what does this mean exactly? Does she consider me as just a friend? Did she think that this was just a friendly lunch? you have to expect awkwardness when getting to know someone, you hav eto expect that sometimes they wont get where you come from.....they dont know you do they, so expecting it to be like old friends who automatically fit is wrong....if you care about someone new it doesn't matter about the awkward silences you accept them so they arent that uncomfortable..... as far as a friendly lunch goes, i am a bit different i feel in my thoughts on dating like prehistoric.......but....the only friendly lunches i have one on one....are with females....if i am anywhere out sitting down with a guy....i am getting to know him privately so ....thats a date one on one...and yes guys have had no idea that it was me getting to know them because i treat them like i would treat a friend, and i dont go by first lunch dates, its an ice breaker...i am not uncomfrotable in sliences, because i am interested , i could ask a thousand questions, i have to control myself, and let the silences happen........to give the guy time to breathe and eat.......smilin....lol....all my lunch dates have turned into relationships......one thing is i can talk when i liek soemone....after i get over the nerves....i actually feel relaxed on a first date i am happy to get to know the guy........its more nerve wracking setting it up....in fact the majority of the time it is the guy who has asked me to lunch....i either have been praying really hard or the guy liked me in the first place...... so if she i slike me .....a lunch with a guy one on one is not that friendly however it appears to be......there's interest of something more than friendship.best wishes on your next date......deb
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