lemonlegs Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Think about this. If you were dumped... did your ex treat you like crap? Did you suspect that they were talking to other people behind your back, emotionally abusive, making you feel like crap, etc? I've only been dumped once and it was with a lying piece of sh*t. Didn't take me long to realize what I wasn't missing. Many people here post things their exes did yet seemingly still want them back. I dont get it?
TheBladeRunner Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Funny how it worked, she had the affairs and it is all my fault (yeah right). For a long time I tried the "be friends thing" but had to go to LC about a month ago. Since I only deal with her regarding our daughter and some divorce stuff, things have gotten much better for me. As far as wanting her back? By some miracle I lost that desire within 2 weeks after moving out. I so don't miss being talked to and treated like a POS, trash, waste, etc. 1
McDonald Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Its the whole Id rather be with "someone hurtful then being alone" feelings I know it sounds dumb... but it vanishes once you find someone else... I hope.
lullaby Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 Not all the exes treat you like you crap. I don't ever want to see my last boyfriend's face, he was a pieace of s***, it you see my post on Second Chances there's the full story. I had to end the relationship via chat because he couldn't face me, and he ended saying "stop nagging and don't bother me anymore, leave me f**** alone!". When all I wanted was to talk and put an end to it like grown-ups (he agreed with the separation btw, I was not being a heartless dumper I may add). So that's a person I don't miss and I'm happy I ended it. No other ex treated me like him, my former ex, whom I still love, was always available to talk things through, even though we couldn't make it work, he never said a mean word to me
SendHope Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 Not like crap per se. She was just really inconsiderate. I would put my nose to the grindstone everyday to free up time to see her. When I do, she's too sleepy to be with me because she stayed up til morning even though she knows we have a date. She also makes last minute plans with her friends on times we were suppose to spend together. Other times, she's either really late or she just forgot altogether. It really made me feel unappreciated and crappy. I hanged on hoping she would change and to work it out with her. We've had fights about it and I think she was starting to feel the pressure so she ended us.
Toddbt12y1 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I do not think loveshack has enough virtual data to hold all she did, in our last 1.5 years. I will list some, 1)Constantly lied. 2) Put her friends(even new friends before me). 3) Put facebook before me. 4) De-valued my gifts, even though they cost a lot of money(even keeping one expensive necklace on the floor). 5)Gladly wearing some golden necklace someone brought her. 6)Games. 7) Gladly told me how hot other guys where. 8) Gone for days. 9) Cheated with four(possibly more) guys. I could name them all. 10) Had alternate accounts, dozens, I knew nothing of. So did she treat me badly? I think so...But meh.
Sugarkane Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 They really like blaming everyone but themselves for everything. They'll lie and paint you black in front if everyone to cover their butts. I don't know how these people can look themselves in the mirror.
Sugarkane Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I've been extremely tempted to contact and tell them I met someone the complete opposite. Since it's ok for a dumper to be a complete Ahole and doing The right thing didn't change the outcome.
Amelie1980 Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 The first one treated me like crap. The second one was just inconsiderate The third one was lovely until the end and he went psycho on me.
Lillygoose Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 It is hard, throughout the relationship he was the perfect (in my eyes) boyfriend and its when we broke up he went into a crazy train wreck!
KansasChica Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 They really like blaming everyone but themselves for everything. They'll lie and paint you black in front if everyone to cover their butts. I don't know how these people can look themselves in the mirror. This is what happened to me. I pined for him a long time after he broke up with me, because it was so abrupt. He had idealized me for so long and I felt that he was the One I'd been waiting for my whole life. Then, suddenly, it was over and he never looked back. I was left gasping for breath trying to figure out happened. He blamed me and devalued me... a week after telling me I was the love of his life. Those kind of lies were difficult to move past and get over. So, I ruminated a lot. I missed what I thought he was- what he pretended to be. I had that false image stuck in my brain- even after I was told how I was selfish and how mutual friends of ours cut me off (probably because he painted me into a bad person to them.) Now, I see him and see how he is still single... I see how dependent he is on his best friend, how immature he is and I just pity him. I loved him more than anyone ever has and he pushed me away. I'm continuing to live life, try new experiences, meet new people and he's staying in his little safety bubble still in denial. 2
Author lemonlegs Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 Thanks for the responses guys. I was curious because my boyfriend, who I love with all my heart and who, I think, I treat fairly well talks to me about his ex of four years. Though I knew they fought, it didn't come out til later that he caught her "sexting" several guys and claiming that "she was going to break up with him really soon" all while living together and he DIDN'T BREAK UP WITH HER. He also caught her kissing another guy. But yet, she was the one to break up with him and all's he said was he got over it pretty quickly, and knew it was coming but he couldn't bring himself to give up on something he had invested four years in. I just find it hard to believe he put up with that crap. I feel like there's no way in hell he'd stick around if I did that, not that I could ever. It also makes me wonder if he still wanted her back even after all that... but she moved on after only two months despite the fact that she seemingly wanted nothing more to be single. Although she continually called him, he had to tell her to stop. Just interesting and hard to believe that people allow that stuff to go on. I'm glad he finally put his foot down. Makes me dislike this girl I barely know for what she did to him, but at the same time I was pretty damn close to having an EA right before I ended it with my ex. I wasn't quite that gutless though...
Sugarkane Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Defiantly his loss. I don't how people can be so fickle. This is what happened to me. I pined for him a long time after he broke up with me, because it was so abrupt. He had idealized me for so long and I felt that he was the One I'd been waiting for my whole life. Then, suddenly, it was over and he never looked back. I was left gasping for breath trying to figure out happened. He blamed me and devalued me... a week after telling me I was the love of his life. Those kind of lies were difficult to move past and get over. So, I ruminated a lot. I missed what I thought he was- what he pretended to be. I had that false image stuck in my brain- even after I was told how I was selfish and how mutual friends of ours cut me off (probably because he painted me into a bad person to them.) Now, I see him and see how he is still single... I see how dependent he is on his best friend, how immature he is and I just pity him. I loved him more than anyone ever has and he pushed me away. I'm continuing to live life, try new experiences, meet new people and he's staying in his little safety bubble still in denial.
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