Ex has moved on but played with my emotions. Woman's perspective

[OnMyTod]

My ex and I (split up for about a month after a ong-distance relationship), was out where I live, we talked, she's with someone else says I can't give her what she wants. Ended up partying back at a friends,she was there, I tried to plead my case and it got heated, I left but text her, she agreed to me coming back in the morning. Got into bed, we almost had sex but then went from saying if she was a cheat we'd be having great sex to suddenly feeling bad for what we'd done and said she can't get back with me. We agreed to no contact but I broke it, text her and then emailed how I want to get back but she's totally blown me off said she meant no contact and respect her decision. I'm just so confused right now. Can any ladies give me some perspective?

Edited February 21, 2013 by OnMyTod

[NoLeafClover]

I was going to say my perspective but since you want ladies only..

[OnMyTod]

I was going to say my perspective but since you want ladies only..

 

No feel free! Ha ha

[NoLeafClover]

No feel free! Ha ha

 

Looks like people went No Contact on you my friend.

I will bump this for you since you are fairly new.

 

If this girl broke up with you and she already has another man consider this a lost case.

 

Do not contact her. She should not be in the same bed with you in the first place.

 

You need to understand that it's over and let it go. There is no changing her mind. Stay No Contact and do not break it.

 

You breaking No Contact only makes you look needy and clingy which is does not help your situation. Everytime you contact your ex the further you push her away. You are not giving this time and she is not going to be missing you if you keep messing her or contacting her randomly.

 

Do not break No Contact and start to move on. She has already a new man why would you want to be a second option?

 

 

ps. I just realized perhaps people aren't replying because they want to show you how NC works lmao

Edited February 24, 2013 by NoLeafClover

[Thunderchild]

Got into bed, we almost had sex but then went from saying if she was a cheat we'd be having great sex to suddenly feeling bad for what we'd done and said she can't get back with me. We agreed to no contact but I broke it, text her and then emailed how I want to get back but she's totally blown me off said she meant no contact and respect her decision.

 

Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa!! Hold on there Bald Eagle!! Get as far away from her as fast as you can - and don't look back. I'm sorry, but that is one of the worst cases of emotional abuse/manipulation that I have ever seen.

 

She climbed (willingly) into bed with you - giving you the epxctation of sex - then, she is a cheat. Just because one organ didn't go into another doesn't make it 'not cheating'. Kissing someone else (sexually) is considered cheating.

 

She is just toying with you, mon ami, dangling you on a string like a little puppet for her own amusement/satisfaction.

 

Run away - very fast!!

[OnMyTod]

Two weeks of NC. i'm still gutted. Can't believe it all went so bad. Never thought I would get this way it's like I'm going cold turkey on a drug it's horrible. Got to get through it I suppose but can only say I am heartbroken.