Kat_luv Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 He moved back unexpectedly back home because of family issues, its about a 9 hour drive/ 2 hour flight. He said that nothing will change and we can do the long distance thing, that he'll move down again for another college semester once he earns money and I told him I'll fly up every month for a couple of days/week to visit. Lost our virginity to each other the day before he left, we're both 19. We've done the long distance thing for 2 months already when he was on vacation visiting his family, we didn't know it'll be permanent. One week later he started ignoring me i had to call up and ask him what was up, he freaked out and said he couldn't do it, that distance was too hard, that he was sorry and told me to forget about him and move on. I shipped back the diamond necklace he got me with my initial along with a letter. He's been going out smoking weed again (stopped when we dated) drinking every night with his ******* friends ( he doesnt even like drinking) and is around these new girls that magically popped up out of nowhere. I'm not torn if he hooks up with them, he doesnt even like white girls or blondes and those are the only types of girls that are up there. The only time ive contacted him to get answers and closure he sounded so cold, a totally different person, and that hes way past it and to not call or text him anymore. I blocked him on facebook and deleted his number so I wouldnt get tempted How could someone move on if we really only ended because of distance? Would he feel it in a few months and realize what a dumbass he is?
Author Kat_luv Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 In addition: Before initiating the term "break up" He said that he just needed time, a break, that our timing wasn't right that it could happen in the future. But I dont fall for that bull, I said that it was either we were together or we weren't. I would have been willing to give him time but knowing him, could be months and by then with NC we would be nothing. He was really good to me during the relationship though and I was too, sometimes I felt like he loved me more than I did with him, he was the one that pushed to be official sooner than I wanted to and even said I love you first.
geegirl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I think he was checking out and used the distance as an excuse. His behavior, going back to smoking and drinking pretty much shows that he wants a different lifestyle. And the fact that he said he is way past it, says he has detached emotionally. Who knows if he will get an epiphany in time. The only thing you can do is move on, just as he has asked you to.
geegirl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 In addition: Before initiating the term "break up" He said that he just needed time, a break, that our timing wasn't right that it could happen in the future. Most dumpers use this line when they're still grappling with the last bits of letting go. He's still in "confused" mode as to whether he wants to leave or not so this keeps you hanging on while he makes up his mind.
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