Chloe1980 Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I need to vent, because I'm falling down very quick. I just can't understand how a person can be so mean and deceiving. There is no explanation. I am a good person, why is this happening to me? I don't know anymore what to think or do, I'm drained and nothing else matters. I really don't know what to think to start feeling better and to forget, I need help please
NoLeafClover Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I need to vent, because I'm falling down very quick. I just can't understand how a person can be so mean and deceiving. There is no explanation. I am a good person, why is this happening to me? I don't know anymore what to think or do, I'm drained and nothing else matters. I really don't know what to think to start feeling better and to forget, I need help please Keep your head up. It's been a rough day for me to but better days will come. Think about how he used you and how selfish he was when he didn't want to be with you. Think about how much better you were before you met him and how he's making you feel now that he is gone. Take some pride in your healing and the fact that you have remained strong and NC to yourself.
geegirl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I need to vent, because I'm falling down very quick. I just can't understand how a person can be so mean and deceiving. There is no explanation. I am a good person, why is this happening to me? I don't know anymore what to think or do, I'm drained and nothing else matters. I really don't know what to think to start feeling better and to forget, I need help please Why is this happening to you? It's because you make poor choices for yourself and have no healthy boundaries set in place as to what you will and will not tolerate. It has nothing to do with you being a good person. It has everything to do with you making unhealthy choices. Be a good person that makes smart and healthy choices. This is the man that used you for sex. That in itself speaks of his character. People are mean and deceiving because they do not care. They do what is in their best interest, not yours. 2
Author Chloe1980 Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 I want to make it clear (see how my emotions change all the time, this is really crazy)that I'm no victim. If he used me for sex, I used him for whatever my needs was at the moment. He was honest enough to let me go. He said to me: "I dont know what to do with your emotional charge". And it's OK, I might have freaked him out. I honestly think I'm addicted to him, this has never happened before with such intensity. I need him because with him I could escape reality. He was interesting enough to keep me occupied from my boring life. I'm not victim at all, I chose my fate, and I'm aware of that. When I truly understand this, I'll climb a step towards healing. 1
geegirl Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I need him because with him I could escape reality. He was interesting enough to keep me occupied from my boring life. I'm not victim at all, I chose my fate, and I'm aware of that. When I truly understand this, I'll climb a step towards healing. Maybe time to face reality and do some soul-searching and work on yourself. It's pretty sad when you have to be an extension of someone else's life because you don't have your own. If you keep doing that, when people leave you, this is how you'll always be left, empty. Fix your own life and live it. 1
Kaza Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I did the following things to make myself happy and put ME in the center of my life, maybe you can try some: Got a new hairstyle Bought a huge jigsaw puzzle Went shopping, bought something pretty Bought flowers for myself Spent a morning at a cafe with a book Did some volunteering 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 22, 2013 Posted February 22, 2013 I want to make it clear (see how my emotions change all the time, this is really crazy)that I'm no victim. If he used me for sex, I used him for whatever my needs was at the moment. He was honest enough to let me go. He said to me: "I dont know what to do with your emotional charge". And it's OK, I might have freaked him out. I honestly think I'm addicted to him, this has never happened before with such intensity. I need him because with him I could escape reality. He was interesting enough to keep me occupied from my boring life. I'm not victim at all, I chose my fate, and I'm aware of that. When I truly understand this, I'll climb a step towards healing. I know exactly what you mean. I did this too. My ex was my escape from things i didnt want to deal with in life. I wasnt in a good spot in my life when i met her and lovig aomeone made everythig a whole lot better!! I did love her Alot but I spent too much time with her.because it felt better than being alone. May be a trait of codependency at that point in my life. Whatever the case is you need to go through withdrawal and dealing with a broken heart at the same time. Sux.
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