AllieM Posted September 1, 2004 Posted September 1, 2004 I need some advice..real advice. I woulden't usually ask this on an internet message board, but the only people I've consulted with are my mom and friends..all people who are too optimistic/naive with their advice... Aright...so here's the dilemna. I've liked this guy like CRAZY since I met him in 10th grade (that's about 5 years ago). He didn't ask me out till 11th grade, and I told him I don't date, etc. etc., even though I liked him alot because he had been dating my friend recently and although they had a good breakup, he never stayed with one girl too long, so I was kinda weary...anyways, so he asked me for a reason I always said no to him, and I said I didn't date for religious reasons..a little white lie, but it lead him to researching Islam and eventually (last year) becoming a Muslim... At the same time last year though, I started dating one of his closest friends ( because I thought he gave up on me, so why should I waste my time crushing on him, right? Anyways so he treats me like a queen whenever he sees me, etc. etc..he's really ambitious, we used to borrow eachother's lecture notes an all that..we're both going for medicine...everything seems peachy. So me and his friend broke up 2 months ago, but the guy I like is in Cali all summer for some basketballball tournaments...I can't start any 'romance' per say with him now, because I'm leaving for med school in Libya in less than a month. So the question is..do I tell him how I feel, or just let it go? Cause it's been 5 years and I think it'll be really painful if I hear he's all good to go with another chick while I'm overseas cause I never let him know...or would that just be a wasteful thing to do? Would he be like..oh that chick dated my friend for more than a year but claims she liked me the entire time..so she can't be nothing special..etc. etc.? Another complication is that for the past 2 months (since I found out I'd be leaving overseas) I've been trying to hook him up with my best friend because I totally dismissed the idea of me and him ever working anything out together, so I figured I'd rather he be happy with someone else I love and trust and all that...but now I'm completely regretting ever trying to hook them up, which is a major problemo because it's too late and she likes him Pheeeew...that's long..so yea...now that I've gone all Dr. Phil on yall...suggestions/comments that don't border retarded? Thank ya very much.
Laura_soontobemarred Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I suggest that you should let him know how you feel, if you are willing to take a chance. Put your heart on the line. It makes you vulnerable which seems to be the reason why people let fear run their lives, but if you do not have that much to lose...(his friendship...etc) than go for it. I am pretty sure that he will believe you when you tell him that you have always liked him, maybe even flatter him. lol Honesty is always the best way to go, and sometimes it is best to take a chance, that could lead to very good.
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